A few weeks ago, my partner was talking about a function for next weekend. I booked with my hairdresser for a wash and blowdry. I have since learned the function is cancelled. I cancelled the hotel but I decided that I would keep my hairdressers appointment for a wash and blow dry. That's next weekend. No issues there as such.
However there are some issues now emerging. My mother is aging. A few weeks ago she went to town independently but then she got sick. Since then she has been apprehensive to go to town on her own. She now wants me to go with her any time she goes to town or any time I go to town, she wants to tag along. I assister her with town a few weeks ago. We went in on a Sunday and it the day just turned into a nightmare for me. It was just more evidence of a cognitive decline that I see regularly but nothing diagnosed. She wanted to leave far too early for the bus which rushed me and there was no need to go so early. Like, she wanted to leave 50 minutes before the bus arrival when it's a 15 minute walk to the bus stop. In town, I helped her with going for lunch. She doesn't usually stop for lunch and I think it was just out of her usual normal routine and she wanted my assistance to help her. She was so fussy when it came to foods and only wanted something very simple like bread or a scone with butter and tea. It was so hard to accommodate such simple tastes. It was actually like having a toddler with me. Then when we were walking to the bus stop to go home, she saw a bus with our destination driving out from the station and she panicked and tried to stop it. It was clearly out of service and driver was beckoning her - 'NO' and all she had to do was just walk to our bus stop a few yards away. On the bus home, she put on sunglasses, even though it was evening time and the sun was not bright. She just looked like a blind person and there's nothing wrong with being blind by the way.
All in all it was so stressful for me. Everything about it. At the time, I had a craving for sushi too for weeks and I had to neglect that craving to accommodate her simple food requirements. I have a bowel condition myself but I am not that fussy regarding foods and simple foods.
The other day she was yapping to me and she announced she wants to go to town next Saturday. She didn't talk it consult with me and she just expects me to be available to assist her. With no consultation or talking to me. I was available but I knew from experience not to tell her too far in advance in case anything changes.
But now my work wants me to work on Saturday afternoon and night and into Sunday. This is in exchange for giving me today off. I was happy with this. I still have my hair appointment for next Saturday morning. The issue is now, it's going to be no fun. It's not going to be relaxing at all. If it was me a Singleton, I would be able to go into town in the morning and then make it to work after that. However, my mother has a notion of going to town. She knows that I am working now for the weekend and she is disappointed about town. The issue is if I even take an hour or two next Saturday to go to town in the morning, which is doable before I go to work, my mother might like to come with me anyways. This is where it will be problematic. I am likely going to get delayed. There's no reasoning with her when she decides something. Even if I was to try and explain to her that I won't be rushing and I am only going to town for an hour and I will be back again, she will likely take a notion to take that inch but then take a mile so to speak. Does that make sense. She's like a toddler. I can't say no to her. She argues and her arguments sometimes can be childish and nonsense and obtuse.
I suggested that we go to town today but my mother refused to go today.
My work and town are in town opposite directions so I can't say I am going to work and then go into town and then go to work. There is potential of being caught going to work later on after town. I know all of this is confusing.
Basically now I don't know what to do. If I should continue with my hair appointment or cancel. Next Saturday will be no fun. I like my hairdresser and I like my hair appointments and he gives a nice small head massage but it won't be relaxing. I usually feel uplifted after he works on my hair but I am thinking what's the point when I have to go to work after that and there's potential for drama from my mother. So will I keep it or cancel it?