I've been putting my washing away this evening and realised I have enough lounge jumpers/dressing gown type garments to last even if I live another 30 years 😆 I won't obviously be clearing them out or anything but I'm definitely stocked to last.

Wondering what everybody else has far too many of?

we are going to spend a week in different hotels on our holiday, and I don’t know if I am being over anxious. Does anyone take any extra security measures to prevent people accessing their room overnight?

Mostly C's = yes 🙂

1. Your child's school's uniform policy says they need to keep their blazers on during the school day. Do you:
a) Explain to your child that the blazers are part of the uniform, and would frequently get mislaid and mixed up if students were taking them on and off all day?
b) Check the policy to make sure there are exceptions for hot weather and, if it's not clear, write to the school politely to find out?
c) Tell your child that the policy is INSANE, and the school is being ridiculous?

2. Your child's teacher gives them a detention for repeatedly talking during lessons. Do you:
a) Explain that talking during lessons disrupts everyone else's learning, and encourage your child to make better choices next time?
b) Ask your child what happened, then contact the teacher politely if you think there's been a misunderstanding?
c) Tell your child that the teacher clearly has a personal vendetta against them, and that you won't stand for them being picked on?

3. The school asks students to hand in their mobile phones at the start of the school day. Your child says this is completely unreasonable. Do you:
a) Explain that schools need rules about phones to minimise distractions and help everyone concentrate?
b) Check the school's mobile phone policy and discuss any genuine concerns through the proper channels?
c) Agree that the school has no right to tell your child what to do with their own phone, and tell them to refuse?

4. Your child's teacher emails to say that your child has failed to complete several homework assignments. Do you:
a) Sit down with your child to work out why the homework hasn't been completed and help them develop a plan to catch up?
b) Ask the teacher for more details and explore whether your child needs additional support?
c) Reply demanding to know why the teacher is picking on your child instead of doing their ACTUAL job?

5. Your child comes home complaining that their teacher told them off for being rude in class. Do you:
a) Ask your child what they said and did, and explain that they can disagree with a teacher without being disrespectful?
b) Contact the teacher to hear their side of the story before deciding whether anything needs to be addressed?
c) Tell your child that some teachers just can't handle being challenged, and that they should tell them to f*-off?

6. The school introduces a seating plan, and your child is unhappy because they've been moved away from their friends. Do you:
a) Explain that teachers sometimes change seating arrangements to improve concentration and classroom behaviour?
b) Encourage your child to ask the teacher politely why the change was made, and discuss any concerns constructively?
c) Tell your child that the teacher is obviously on a power trip, and encourage them to start a petition to persuade the teacher to let them sit where they want?

7. Your child's teacher says they need to improve their attitude in class, and your child insists the teacher just doesn't like them. Do you:
a) Explain that it's important to reflect on feedback, even when it feels unfair, and ask your child what they could do differently?
b) Arrange a calm conversation with the teacher to understand their concerns and agree on how best to support your child?
c) Tell your child that teachers often target the kids who think for themselves, and that they shouldn't let some underpaid bully undermine their self esteem?

AIBU to think that scooters and bicycles on pavements is out of control and it’s time there were laws to protects pedestrians

Conversation about drunk shopping and I mentioned that I once ordered racing sprouts and a sudoku rubiks cube just before Xmas about 18 years ago!

DD is adamant that no one does stuff like that. I need you to help me prove her wrong!

Topic came up in work today about revenge on annoying co workers and was quite shocked what people do! It was light hearted, nothing serious. Came up as someone’s tin opener went missing years ago (he’s now left) and my colleague admitted he hid it after the colleague pissed him off.
Any other stories whilst I’m bored waiting for a medical appointment?

I have been going round in circles with this for months. I have recently had a significant pay rise and want to continue buying investment pieces of clothing. I have recently came out of an abusive relationship and want to treat myself well.

should I buy a Barbour? I love this one, https://www.barbour.com/gb/icons-tartan-collar-modern-beadnell-waxed-jacket-LWX1582OL71.html?_gl=11mjekn4_upMQ..gs*MQ..&gclid=CjwKCAjw25fWBhAVEiwAMopNjjuJBIKUwafdXsnpjVZl2Hj7-Ike3RvESbDk6k-590QDQcHSXnxkBoCMUcQAvD_BwE&gbraid=0AAAAADtGNrhYTSGU2_0xQyGo4bCUL3A9v

any Barbour fans that would recommend. I have no landrover, dog or tweed cap but I love them 😂

I am in hospital after major (planned surgery). DD1 age 25 will be looking after me (she lives at home for a small rent that cover everything). She has had to take some time off work (unpaid).
I am fiercely independent and have brought in my own squash/snacks etc. The 2 other people in my room have had visitors all day bringing lovely fresh fruit/sweets/drinks etc. DD1 visited this evening bringing my stepmother (very close ben in my life since I was 14. Father died few years ago)
They came empty handed. There is a lovely M+S in the concourse of the hospital they would have walked past it when they came in. But hey ho. Except DD1 started on my bag of snacks eating 2 without even asking. So I very sarcastically told them off and said not only did you not bring me even a M+S fruit snack you're now eating the snacks I bought in. Im pretty immobile.
They then said oh do you want us to go get you something. I said well it really defeats the purposes if you have to be told. And it would have been almost closed.
AIBU to be hurt and disappointed and a spoilt brat
IANBU they should have brought something.
DD1 is usually pretty good but can be a bit self absorbed and they are very used to me being super capable and doing everything. I am now a bit worried what her "looking after" is going to look like....

I’m sat typing this in my hotel room after being at a Wedding today. I’m pregnant so haven’t been drinking and am at my wits end with my ‘D’P and feel so stuck now after what has happened today.

I believe he has a problem with alcohol, he has drunk so much in recent months and just blames it on the stress of his job and being a Dad soon. He has these massive sessions on a weekend and drinks to excess with his mates (nearly all single).

Today, he was pissed within two hours of arriving at 1pm, constantly disappeared leaving me with others I hardly know and didn’t see how I was feeling at any point.

The speeches were a bit of a farce, it ended up with people with no ‘role’ taking turns to speak and he asked to say a few words. I knew it was going to be bad and his friends were banging the tables to ‘gee’ him up.

He rambled on, was swearing and made a remark about the bride and groom having sex and that he ‘slipped the groom a blue pill to make sure it’s a memorable first shag’.

Someone came into the room from the direction of the toilets mid speech and he pointed him out and said something about him ‘lining one up’ which his mates all found hilarious.

He has been an utter embarrassment and I’m glad he is still downstairs allowing me to relax in peace.

My cousin has recently brought her tiny premature baby home after a stay in NICU. She weighs less than 5lbs.
She sent me a photo of the baby asleep on her tummy in her Moses basket and said that this is the position she settles best in.
I have to admit I’m quite concerned. I know babies shouldn’t generally be put down to sleep on their fronts, and with her being so premature and tiny, it makes me particularly nervous.
My cousin also doesn’t want to use a breathing or movement monitor such as an Owlet, which adds to my worry, although I appreciate these aren’t recommended as a substitute for safe sleeping practices.

Obviously, I’m not her baby’s parent and I don’t want to come across as judgemental or interfere with how she’s looking after her. I also don’t know whether the NICU team has given her any specific advice regarding sleeping positions.

Would you be concerned in this situation? Would you say something to her, or leave it alone because it’s not your baby?
I just want the little one to be safe, but I also don’t want to overstep the mark.

39 and my whole life I have been scared of progressing anything with men who are truly into me and treat me well.

Men who are clear about their feelings, feel safe and warm, I just go off them after a few dates. As a result I’ve ended up with truly awful men, one left me 6 months pregnant, another forced me to have an abortion, another threatened to throw me down the stairs and hit me.

I’ve never found it difficult to meet men and dating doesn’t faze me at all. I’ve met someone quite by chance and he’s great, I can tell he cares about me even after a few dates, there’s no pressure to do anything and he’s always interested in my day etc.

I don’t want to ruin this and hide from it. But as we are a few weeks in I can feel myself looking for issues and coming up with things in my mind that might be too cringy or awkward (yes I am aware how incredibly immature this is). Even down to his car!!! I’m analysing that and thinking it will be awkward because it’s so small so I can’t get in it with him… just crazy stuff like this.

I know it’s likely come from childhood and whatever attachment I have but I just want to stop it. How?!

My MIL and her partner have been together for a couple of years. During that time we have only met her partner a handful of times and our DD ( 21 months old ) has spent only a little more time with him than us.

There has being a couple times where we have asked if she can watch our DD, a few times she has suggested us leaving her with her partner until she is home from work. We declined on each occasion and just said we’ll drop her when she is home.

We asked if she could have her overnight for the first time a couple of weeks ago. She agreed and was looking forward to it. We dropped her and all was fine.

I was then woke to a message at 5am saying “ just to let you know childsname was fine when I left for work at 4, she hadn’t woke up once “ we was obviously shocked because there was no mention to us at all about her having to go to work early hours. We’d of picked our child up after our meal if we’d of known.

AIBU to be upset by this , and I am in the wrong for calling her out ? Our daughter still has nights where she wakes and is unsettled. MIL is completely adamant that she has done no wrong, and that we are in the wrong.

3 weeks later and my partner has only just heard from MIL again, starting off with “ I’m not apologising because I’ve done anything wrong but I think we need to clear the air “

Never been, always been high on my list. Think I’m going to get us all there next May (DH and 2 DC aged 13 and 12.) I just can’t work out where is good to be based. Is it best to go for somewhere like Windermere or Ambleside? Or stay a bit further out and drive around? Idea is to walk most days (4 hours max) with the dangly carrot of a big pub dinner or cafe lunch at the end. I just have no point of reference and am aimlessly looking at air bnb.

many particular cottages/hotels you can recommend would be so appreciated!

For me it would be none, if dh had an affair it would be the end of our 36 years relationship forever, I am an overthinker and could never come back from the deception, the lack of trust would eat me away.

DH’s cousin died suddenly a few months ago, he was only in his late 50’s, so too is his wife. They have been together since they were 18 and have 5 dc.

The wife always comes across as a strong, independent and capable person, not the sort you’d want to mess around with yet she told us yesterday he cheated on her at least four times during their marriage (one with her friend of 15 years), she’s via friends there may have been other infidelity’s too and yet she has taken him back each time, she says she did that because she adored him and felt she could never have loved anyone else.

I appreciate we are all different and I know some do forgive, forget and move on but four times??

And I just can’t stop thinking that her best friend shagged her husband behind her back, what sort of people do that?

Genuine question, just curious if anyone else has noticed this.

DH is very conventionally attractive. His two sisters are also very pretty and both modelled when they were younger. DH has been scouted too but wasn’t interested.

His parents are lovely people, but neither is what you’d call conventionally attractive. Even looking at photos of them when they were younger, you wouldn’t say either was particularly good looking.

I know genetics is a lottery but it seems quite remarkable that all three children turned out good looking. They’re all genetically related. Has anyone else come across this?

Hi

recently we received a speeding fine through the post. DH and I share the car. I use it mostly in the week but the speeding incident was on a Saturday afternoon. DH and I struggled to identify who it was on that particular day but eventually decided that it most likely me as I use that road a little more often than he does.

We named me as the driver, paid the £100 and I took the 3 points. We have both done a speed awareness course within the last 3 years so this was not an option for either of us.

We have now realised that we got this wrong- I was on a spa day on that particular day.

Do we tell them about the error? DH already has 6 points so this will push him to 9 but I also know that we have to be honest. DH Is very worried about having 9 points. I only have these 3 but I am uncomfortable with lying.

I'm on maternity leave and have been using Mumsnet since the beginning of my leave.
I have been quite shocked at the way that women speak to one another on this platform. For context I'm 38 and was dragged up by older brother so throughout my life have often been quite blokey for want of a better word. In my 20's and 30's due to my work I have worked with people often quite a lot younger than me, and the best thing I have learnt from the younger women is non judgement and to raise each other up! It's been wonderful. I'm so thankful that my line of work enables me to be able to learn from younger generations ( I'm not suggesting they don't have faults, they can also be overtly judgemental, but when it comes to this one topic I find them great) their bringing up of women is truly fab!
So I guess it's
Yanbu- women on Mumsnet seem to appear quite harsh/ haven't learnt to raise each other up yet!
Aibu- women on Mumsnet feel they are in a safe space so say exactly how they feel no matter if it seems harsh or not.

I'm vegetarian and I'm hotdesking with someone at work with severe allergies to nuts, sesame and egg. So all of these have been banned from my lunchbox by our H&S team.

I also try to avoid UPF so I haven't gone down the route of quorn ham, vegan mayo etc but getting quite desperate now!

Can anyone help with sandwich ideas? I am stuck in a loop of Cheddar and lime pickle, cheddar and Branston pickle, and Brie and mango chutney, and cream cheese with sun-dried tomatoes.

Tried AI and got some very vile suggestions which surely no human ever eats (e.g. mashed avocado and miso . . . I tried it but yuck!) Plus some things that would take ages - I will not be grilling aubergine in my office kitchen!)

Appreciate suggestions- I have quite broad tastes, my only major dislike is aniseed flavours e.g. fennel. It needs to already be ready in the morning to go in my sandwich and sit there till 12ish.

I have just achieved my level 3 in lead adult carer, this has been with blood sweat and tears as most of it was completed while I've been very ill. I would love to treat myself to something nice im 5.6 and a size 14 to 16 hourglass shape, does anyone have any recommendations, I love barrel leg trousers and im very much a cute shirt dress or mini dress person im 56 and love blues and pinks, if you were me what would you get,?

I have put on 6 stone in the past 6 years and I have gone from a size 12/14 to 18/20 (22 in some shops). I have been reluctant to ‘waste’ money by spending a lot on larger clothes as I have convinced myself that I will lose the weight, however that is clearly not happening. As such I have very few clothes, and even fewer that I feel good wearing or that flatter. It is impacting my self esteem.

Should I just bite the bullet and splash out on some good quality, fashionable larger clothes?

On a side note I have no idea how to dress my larger body (although to be honest I’ve never been great at styling myself no matter what size). I used to be an hourglass but now I’m more apple (huge tummy, boobs and hips but also big bum) so any advice on that front would also be appreciated!

Thank you

I’ve noticed, since hitting middle age that not all men but quite a significant proportion of them, are arrogant domineering arseholes. I’m rigorously testing the theory by implementing the following…

Be a woman. Go for a walk, somewhere busy. See a man coming towards you. Keep on walking. Do not move out of the way, and see his confusion when you don’t automatically let him pass.

That’s it. Playing chicken (ish) with the owner of a cock. Care to join me?

My mum and dad divorced when me and my brother were 12 and 10. My father went on to have 2 daughters with a woman he married a few years later. We didn’t see that much of our dad after that, just some weekends and a week in summer. As an adult I’ve seen him about 4 times a year.

He got divorced from his wife and apparently seen his other daughters about as much as he saw me. I’ve had no contact with his other daughters since I was about 35. No fallout, just nothing in common and a father who wasn’t exactly family focused.

My dad died recently. In his will he has left almost everything to me and my brother with only a small amount to his other daughters. I have no idea why as when I did see him, we never really spoke about them very much. His daughters have asked me and my brother if we will share our inheritance with them. We have said no, they’re basically strangers. I’m presuming there must have been some trouble between them and my father for him not to leave them anything. They are threatening ‘legal action’. We have had legal advice and the will is fine so they have no case.

We aren’t sharing but I’m curious as to what others would do or think of this situation. Do you think we are being unreasonable? I can’t imagine not leaving my estate equally to my children but who knows what was going on his mind or relationships. If my brother hadn’t been left the same as me, I’d have shared with him.

You wouldn't know it, if you got your news from the BBC, that there's been a pro-pal march through London today. 6 marchers were arrested and the Battle of Britain memorial was damaged.
Nothing on the BBC website. Nothing on News at 10.
Is it only me that finds this disturbing?

Yet it’s not really enough to live on 😢

My first job paid £7.5k per year and I thought I was loaded! And I’m not ancient.

Now 2 people on NMW earn over £50k between them yet it’s really not enough these days.

Hello! Need help have been searching for ages. Going to very hot country, need a comfortable closed-toe shoe ( it’s very dirty and dusty) that I can walk in for long periods ( probably not trekking but round cities etc) but that will support my feet which tend to swell a bit in very hot weather. BUT want them to look nice, is this even possible? Maybe plain black something might work, white or cream etc a no go! Any help would be so appreciated! 🙏