Anyone have a recommendation or a few for shorts that cover these…

• enough arse covering that my cheeks aren’t showing but not so long they look frumpy
• no iron / easy iron
• flatter a big tummy
• comfortable waist band
• don’t cut your fanny in half when you sit down
• on trend / young ish fashion
• not adversed to something funky

What is the nicest town or city you have visited in England?

I'll go first

Wells

Not really an AIBU, posting for traffic. In brief: I usually work (in home office) and sleep on the third floor of my house (kids are on second floor), but the third floor becomes unbearable above about 27 degrees, which of course is becoming an issue with increasingly hot summers. We’re also unfortunately near a busy road which makes opening the window unpleasant (didn’t used to be like this but has become busier over time).

I’m looking into permanent air con, but I have a work deadline this week and need to be able to sleep and work. May be able to work in the local public library which has air con, but I need to be able to sleep!! Hit me with your best recs for portable air con units and/or light roll up mattresses that I can use to sleep temporarily on the ground floor and/or anything else? Am I right to think portable air con units will all have a hose that needs to go out an open window? In which case, unfortunately, it’s not a great solution for my house due to traffic noise. Very open and grateful for any proposed short-term solutions…

I’ve had to bring my wedding forward two years as my dad has cancer and doesn’t have very long. It’s booked for September but due to bloody small budget and short time frame I can’t find a hair and make up artist to do it!
so the alternative is to do it myself. I’d like to look beautiful on the day, classic and elegant. I’m crap with make up - can just about chuck on eyeshadow and mascara and that’s it. Any tips on where to start?!

and eye brows! I don’t know what to do with them. I’m a redhead and they are blond. I struggle plucking them as it gives me a rash.

any tips welcome!!!

Dh and i have been on the rocks for a while. Had come to heads with a massive argument today and he decided to list all my faults during an argument. Below is the list

Don't pay him enough attention.
Don't mase him feel special enough
Am too soft with the kids
Am too boring. Don't have a social life (came up when he called me an awful wife, said I coukd be worse and be out drinking every night etc and he said ooh imagine if you had a social life)
Work too much (both work full time)
Put the kids before him
Put work before him
Don't do enough around the house (I do the washing, load/unload the dishwasher, do all school drop offs and majority of pick ups bar a few odd days. Also all household admin, bills, appointments etc.)
Never listen...this came from an argument where he was shouting upstairs to our eldest...I wasn't listening as it was a conversation between them and didn't hear my name mentioned...and he got thr hump that I didn't answer

In regards to making him feel special or pay enough attention, not sure what else he expects. We work full time, have two young children and various school activities. He finishes work earlier than me and moans i don't finish work at the time on my WFH days to spend time with him (i'm contracted to 5pm??)

Oh and I don't cook dinner enough.

If someone gave this as a lift of flaws...how would you feel

Bought this in the John Lewis sale for hot days in the office. It's a very light viscose material. I'm not sure though now about the pattern, should I keep or return do you think?

DS made DH a card at school and didn’t want to give it to dh till later on the day. Dh got upset and felt unappreciated he woke up to no card, so decided to go out drinking with his friends today.

dh turns up at 7pm to grab something from home saying that we don’t appreciate him thats why he’s drinking… qeue ds giving his dad his card. Dh reliezes he’s been a massive twat and says thank you its nice to be appreciated but then still fucks off back out to continue drinking.

aibu to think he’s a twat and just used this as an excuse to drink?! Ai

I started a new job about a year ago - really enjoying it and great team. Have v good feedback.Some of my peers have been there a long while and took a bit to warm up to me, and went on about how they don’t like change etc.

My predecessor was there for a several years before me and left about a year ago. They were very good and clearly loved by the whole team. They are also very nice and I like them.

They still regularly meet with members of the team out of work. I don’t get invited and would never expect to as they are good friends.

However recently they have started coming to internal work events held in the office. The first, I didnt mind. Now they have been to a couple and are going to a staff party! They left more than a year ago. They also have a good catch up with my manager while they are there and other senior leaders. My colleagues invite them along!

I am not going to say anything but am starting to feel a bit uncomfortable - although I actually don’t think there is actually any negative intention.
How should I handle, if at all? A bit worried that if I say something it will only backfire?

I bought two dresses online (£39 each) from what I thought was a UK-based boutique after a recommendation on a thread on MN. The website shows a pregnant woman, and says that 'Jessica' is closing her boutique due to the imminent arrival of her baby and is selling off stock at half price. The OP said about how much she loved the shop, etc.
Alarm bells should have rung when they ask for £4.99 insurance (to send a parcel from Surrey?). Also because there was no description of the fabric content given, only that it was a 'light and airy summer fabric'. They took a long time to arrive (direct from China?) and came today. The material is almost plastic, and they are a heavy weight, huge, shoddily made, with no labels (fabric content, washing instructions, brand) apart from 'Medium'.
Looking at Trustpilot, lots of people have the same story. They are Hong Kong based. There does not seem to be a UK store. 'Made by Jessica' my arse. They promise easy returns and refunds, but I don't hold out much hope, and it will cost a fortune to send them back to China. But will update.

I’ve been single for three years, single Mum to primary age DC who I’ve put first during that time. Only recently did I start looking to date again, I’ve met someone who I get along really well with and we’ve arranged a weekend away for mid-July.

My best friend had been on for a while about the two of us going away for a weekend, but for various reasons I didn’t outright commit to this. I told her it would depend on a few factors including finances.

I’ve told her about my planned weekend with the man I’m seeing and she got really funny and asked is that why I can’t go away with her. I said it wasn’t as simple as that. She said we’ve been friends for years and as soon as I’ve got a ‘sniff of cock’ I’ve dropped her. I haven’t dropped her at all.

It’s true I probably could have gone away with her, but I didn’t commit to it and can’t afford two trips now. She has made me feel a bit crap.

How do I attach a curtain to this rail please? What fixings do I need to get? Thanks!

these just popped up on my M&S suggestions to buy: https://www.marksandspencer.com/silicone-stick-on-nipples/p/clp61230306
I must be getting old and out of touch because in my day we wore padded bras to hide our nipples through clothing!
and if I wanted to show some nipple these days (which I don’t) I could just wear a thin bra rather than stick these things on?!

Should I get one or will I regret it?

Lightening map shows a huge storm in the south west heading central England. Is anyone experiencing it? Please send it up to me 😁

Why are some people not taking the red weather warning seriously? Where I am it’s 39 degrees on Wed/ Thur but ‘feels like’ 42 according to BBC.

At work they’re expecting everyone in - the office is air conditioned, so fine, but we’re central London so everyone needs to schlep in on public transport.

Red means a danger to life and not just for vulnerable people. Some people who are healthy will die because of the weather. There’s warnings of power outages and transport failures. So what happens if we get stuck on a broken down underground train?

I KNOW other countries see these temps regularly. But they are prepared for dealing with it. England is not and it fucks up. I don’t want a heart attack from sitting in 48 degree heat on a train. I’m really stressed out!

If it were a red warning around severe wind or rain or flooding they wouldn’t be telling everyone to come in! So why is heat seen differently?

I've put kitchen foil on the inside of double glazed windows at the front of the house to keep the heat out. It's really effective because they get full sun. However, Google says it can crack the glass because of the heat so it should be put on the outside.
Does anyone have experience of this either way - cracking or no cracking?

I just wonder what you think the friend thinks of the relationship in this scenario:

It was my birthday. I like cake. I was ill last year and couldn’t have cake because of it.

Without discussing it, friend turns up with a lovely homemade cake on the day this year. Very thoughtfully one of my favourite flavours and did not contain an allergen which can be tricky to bake without.

Husband had not procured a cake. He did not discuss with the friend.

Do you think the friend has a very low opinion of my husband? Obviously, she turned out to be right in assuming he wouldn’t do anything but I am wondering if she did assume this or if she likely just wanted to make a cake? Or am I reading too far into it?

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/politics/andy-burnham-tax-london-land-value-council-stamp-duty-b1286586.html

While I think this is overall a very sensible approach, and do think Stamp Duty is a tax that discourages market movement, I’m a bit worried about this.

We moved recently. Paid £30,000 in SDLT. It will be so galling to have to then pay a stamp duty replacement tax when we’ve already paid so much in stamp duty.

I wonder how this would be rolled out. Would it apply to all purchases after a certain date or to everyone whether they’ve already paid the tax or not.

Hoping it would be the former.

Any speculations?

Headline mentions London but we’re nowhere near. Very rural. No London salaries.

You've just unwrapped a delicious (and much, much smaller than they used to be!) Mint Cornetto from a multipack.

You are left with this wrapper.

What do you do next?

(Photo will appear in a bit)

I’m at a loss as to what to wear! I want it to be special and memorable, but at the same time I don’t want anything remotely bridal. I’ve got a gorgeous white blazer that I could wear, that’s as wedding-y as I could go - but then what would I wear this with?

It’s a very casual affair. PILs will be witnesses. There will be photos but not professional.

Would a bouquet (a simple one) be overkill? I quite like the idea of a fascinator, too, but same concern!

Special jewellery for the occasion or not?

Help an accidental/reluctant bride out 😩

(First marriage, mid-30s, if relevant.)

Thanks!

Sorry was the easiest way to describe them. I love summer dresses but need the shorts underneath. I’ve always worn knickers but was thinking that actually it’s an extra layer. If they have a gusset then I assume they’re designed to wear on their own?

I have a few expensive handbags but usually keep clothing at the Zara/& Other Stories level with the odd segue into John Lewis.

However, I saw a jumper in a more expensive shop and loved it. Price tag was just under £2000 so I asked myself what I was playing at even going into the shop and left.

I have now found said jumper online 50% off. Still a grand which is insane. But. I still love it.

(I appreciate someone will be along to tell me that I can get the same in Primark.)

It's 100% cashmere. I'm not sure I've ever owned a 100% cashmere jumper. How well does it really wear? I know it'll be dry clean only or hand wash cold - do not wring - do not hang - lay it flat - recite poetry to it whilst it takes a week to dry on the floor...but is there anything else I'd need to know?

I will not be identifying said jumper in case someone else is as mad as me and buys the one that's left. You'll just have to take it from me that it's gorgeous😀

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2026/jun/20/counter-terrorism-officers-investigate-after-five-injured-in-violent-incidents-in-edinburgh

Said it before. Will say it again. And will keep saying it. Bad people are bad. There is no ethnic or religious pre-determinant if badness, nor will we somehow magic up some kind of utopian crime free society by blaming people of one skin colour, nationality or religion.
We'll only get one by healing divisions, not creating more.

My sympathies to anyone affected by what's happened in Edinburgh.

I visited my mum today - she's in her mid 80s. Tend to visit once a week or stretch it to once every 2 weeks if I've got things going on.

I just find her so negative about everything though. She moans about the same things every time and seems to find it impossible to consider the bigger picture. Eg. they have a new part time warden in the flats where she lives, mum moans about the fact she's never there ....it's been 2 weeks, the poor warden will be undergoing induction, training etc but mum can't see that. She's already decided this poor woman will be useless.

Recently she's been moaning about some friends that she used to go out with regularly for coffee, lunch etc but they go without her now. They've used the excuse of her mobility (they're much more mobile than her, she uses a rolator frame now) but I honestly think it's because she's so negative.

When she was telling me about what she said to one of them (who was making excuses about why they hadn't invited her) I wasn't surprised they've "dropped" her. I did actually say to her that I hoped she hadn't said that in that tone of voice.

How do I tell her to not be so fucking miserable and negative?

I come away from visiting her feeling drained, down and annoyed.

Sorry ....think that rant was therapy!

Im not a dog owner so Im looking for experienced views please! My good friend got a dog about 3 years ago - a mixed breed. It’s not a breed I particularly like . The issue is she has hardly trained him so he jumps up, barks etc. Also has accidents.

I just do not find him pleasant to be around.The problem is though this pretty much prevents me from going to her home. As she lives quite far away I would normally stay over but havent since she got him.

She has commented on this and I always make an excuse, but Im wondering whether I should be honest. I think she would be hurt. It’s her house, her dog etc and I of course I cant tell her what to do in her own house. But frankly the only way I can face visiting is if she shuts him away somewhere but even then thats not fair on the dog!

Would you be hurt as a dog lover if I told you this? Is there any compromise? I dont think shed end the friendship over it but you never know!