I finally found some in Sainsburys today - i think Asda might sell them but cant get them online

The 50/50 Kingsmill is available in my local aldi, but thats not my fave

Whats going on at the King's Mill??

Maybe a merger with hovis which imo tastes shite. Still, its been this way for a while.

Welcome to our long running thread for political discussion, general chit chat, a friendly hug and taxes in kind.

💐 and for anyone who needs them.

Previous thread:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5588711-thread-8-burnham-en-attendant-le-fonds-monetaire-international?page=1

Hi all,
I’ve been with my partner for 6 years we live with his family which include his parents, sister and her 3 children. I moved from Hertfordshire to Yorkshire to be with him. His parents have always expected me to do all the housework and tidy up after everyone. Since having our daughters they have constantly been arguing with me about my parenting and when I don’t do enough around the house. They make comments , have meetings about me and constantly talk bad about anything I do, his mother and father have bullied me and his sister constantly questions him about me. They have given me the silent treatment and stopped me from eating in their home to the point i lived off biscuits and hiding takeaways during my pregnancy when i stood up to his mum for trying to hit my child when she was crying for her dad. After they held a meeting with me discussing all the things I’ve done wrong which include keeping a distance from his parents after they kept making horrible comments to me. They also discussed all the things they don’t like about me. My partner asked me what I would like to do and I asked if we could move out. He agreed but 5 months on everyone else has moved on and I’m still here living with them. Whenever i mention moving out he just says dont start this now or gets angry, i cant cope questioning myself everyday whether im doing enough around the house, being a good mother to my daughters and wondering if im doing anything wrong and feeling like im walking on egg shells. For the most part our relationship has been amazing but his family is causing a strain on us. Is it time to end the relationship. I currently dont work but we receive benefits do i leave and get a place of my own with my children or try working things out. Sorry for the long thread im really out of ideas and struggling

I’m 40, my partner is 53 and we’ve been together for 10 months. I’m currently 5+2 weeks pregnant and have a termination booked.

He has a 13-year-old child and isn’t keen to continue with this pregnancy, although he’s open to discussing trying again in the future when we’ve had more time together. Realistically though, I don’t think we’ll ever get to a point where we decide to have a child together.

Logically, a termination feels like the sensible decision given our ages and relatively new relationship, but emotionally I’m devastated.

I’ve never particularly wanted children and always thought I’d be happy without them. I’ve also never been pregnant before and wasn’t sure I could conceive. Yet since finding out, I’ve felt an overwhelming protectiveness towards this pregnancy that I never expected.

At 40, I’m painfully aware this could be my only chance to have a baby. The thought of ending this pregnancy and potentially never conceiving again is heartbreaking.

I feel completely torn between my head and my heart and terrified of making a decision I’ll regret forever.

Has anyone experienced something similar, particularly an unexpected first pregnancy later in life? I’d really appreciate honest experiences from both sides, as I’m struggling enormously with what to do.

What is everyone getting their 8 year old daughters this year?

I am finding the age for gifts quite difficult! Trying to avoid technology. Any ideas?

Its a long story which I will keep brief. I'm a 54 year old female.
I divorced my now ex-husband in 2009, We had 3 children together. At the time their ages were 15 (Boy) 12 (Girl) and 9 (Girl).
I have since been happily remarried since 2012.
For the last 9 years I have been estranged from my eldest daughter who is now 29. She refuses any contact with me. When I last saw her she was 20 and our meeting was very strained. She afterwards denied me any contact- this was based on the fact that a) she doesnt like my new husband and b) the fact that her younger sister, now 26, has (through her own choice) had no contact with her father since she was 9.

My eldest daughter now lives and works abroad and has done so for 9 years, and has no intention of returning to the UK / living back here, other than returning for short visits to visit her Father.
She also has had a very strained relationship with her younger sister and they barely have spoken over the last 5 years or so. But she has just messaged my youngest daughter (who lives with me) telling her she is pregnant.
She is apparently very happy which is good to hear but I am concerned about her and just want to be there for her during her pregnancy. But I made her a promise 9 years ago to not make contact and to respect her boundaries as she said that was important. Not only have I done this but I also have no way of contacting her as she has changed her number, blocked me from all social media and I dont have her address or email. So I have not made any contact with her for 9 years now. On discussing with my younger daughter she said that the older one would not have let her know about the pregnancy without her accepting that I am going to find out from her. So I am in two minds whether to contact her and send her a message using the phone number for her which my youngest daughter now has. I want to let her know I am thinking of her and wish her all the best for her pregnancy with no strings attached and no expectations - but if I contact her I feel I am breaking the boundary which I promised and have stuck to all this time. so I really dont know what to do.
I have a very fractured and extremely poor relationship with her Dad (whom she is still very close to) and short of asking him what to do or what she would want - which to be honest I dont want to do as would rather keep him out of it - then I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I'd really appreciate peoples thoughts ideas etc.

Twas the night before the US Midterms...

Continuation of the AIBU to think my friend is overdoing emergency stockpiling thread for discussion about the government advice to stockpile for an imminent emergency and what the heck that emergency might actually be.

Spoiler: it's more of a perfect storm of lots of factors coming together to potentially form one great clusterfuck from economic woes, global energy shortages (mainly diesel), potential food shortages, war and madmen to crazy weather patterns rather than a clear identifiable singular thread.
This is a practical thread and a bit of a handhold thread to make sense of events and how they may affect you. This is not an end of the world thread.

Remember an emergency can range from a temporary unexpected event to a much longer crisis but the underlying principles generally stay the same.

This is the official government information and advice, if you want further details on what the actual recommendation are, here is the newest campaign blurb
https://beready.campaign.gov.uk/

Not going to do a status report this time, mainly because it's all about What Trump Does Next right now.

Previous threads
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5576816-aibu-to-think-my-friend-is-overdoing-emergency-stockpiling?page=1

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5585259-crisis-what-crisis-is-my-friend-over-doing-the-stockpiling-and-am-i-too-continuation-thread-2?page=1

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5591677-crisis-what-crisis-the-one-you-start-to-wish-youd-stockpiled-like-your-crazy-friend-continuation-thread-3?page=1

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https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cqglwjdgg045o

The celebrity has lost his bid for a permanent injunction to prevent The Guardian and ITN from publishing allegations that he abused his status to attempt or attempt to engage in “inappropriate sexual activities with a large number of girls and young women.”

There remains a temporary injunction preventing him from being named in order to allow an appeal against the judgement.

And it’s lovely - I think anyway.

https://www.johnlewis.com/content/christmas-advert

I read an awful news article on the way home. When I got back I was still feeling upset about it and told DH. He was upset with me for telling him about it! Should I have kept it to myself? I guess I do know that he doesn’t really like it when I shared stories that are a bit grim and I’ve never shared one like this before but I was so affected by it and wanted to talk about it.

I guess I’m just disappointed in him as he has lots of good qualities but he doesn’t even try to be a rock for me. If I ever share upset feelings with him it ends up making him even more upset. :(

Anyone a mum to a teen mummy? My daughter who turned 15 last month had a baby 12 weeks ago.

Sorry im sure there are hundreds of posts about this but I used Search and couldn't find what I was lookimg for.

I'm not really looking for a conspiracy theory type discussion about whether something terrible is coming. I'm trying to keep really calm and thinking - we don't really know either way. But it seems sensible, on balance, that if lots of governments across the world are telling people to have a bit of a stash in plus some things like torches, radios etc - in the interest of my family I probably should. If I don't need it, hurray, and if whatever happens is too awful for a 1 week supply then...well, canned food will probably be the least of our worries.

SO my AIBU is just that I'm totally overwhelmed with what to get? I want to get a one off bulk shop really, with budget of max about £150. Would rather spend less because it's nearly Christmas and could do with that money elsewhere! We are a family of 2 adults, 2 teenagers. What would we need for 1 week that's vaguely palatable and wouldn't require either water or electricity to cook?? We do have an old school bbq so I guess if I get some bags of charcoal, could heat things on that if it isn't raining outside. Also - what can I get that will genuinely keep for a really long time as I stocked up for Covid and there was soooo much wastage; really don't want that situation again where everything just gets thrown out.

I've looked on the Preppers section but that all seems quite hardcore and survivalist! What does the absolute average Joe family buy who isn't prepping for the apocalypse, realistically won't survive a worst case scenario, but wants to be prepared if there are 1 week of power cuts etc? Specific brands, foods, recipes hugely appreciated!

Sorry for the rag link -

https://mol.im/a/16259373

TDLR - celeb only known as PPT has been accused of sexual misconduct with over 30 witnesses giving accounts to police that the person in question abused their power as a celeb to abuse young women.

Celeb in question has said that if the stories are published, they will likely end their own life.

A judge this afternoon will rule on whether publishing the accusations will breach his human rights.

Is it likely that even if it does get sealed, public speculation will likely “out” him anyway?

AMIBU - Yes - innocent until proven guilty.
IAMNBU - It’s in the public interest to publish.

Looking to book a night at a fancy hotel for DH’s 50th. What would be people’s recommendations?

Excellent service is probably the most important thing to us. He loves old school traditional type things. Went to Simpsons in the Strand recently which he adored.

Am contemplating The Savoy, The Ritz or OWO Raffles. We’ll probably see a show so keener on that bit of London rather than the Dorechester.

Woykd love to hear people’s thoughts

Who's else setting their alarms ridiculously early tomorrow morning to join the Tesco queue and bag their Christmas delivery slot? 🤣🎄

My husband gets up for work at 4:45am anyway, so he's already been instructed to wake me up at the same time so I can get myself ready to jump in the queue at 5am!

Thought I'd start a little thread so we can all keep each other company tomorrow morning while we're half asleep, clutching our coffees and desperately waiting for our turn to book our Christmas slots!

Who's joining me for the annual Tesco Christmas slot madness?

Hey guys, I am thinking about buying some heated rollers but literally have no idea where to start in narrowing the search down!

My hair is naturally curly but since peri it’s neither a nice curl or straight- just a mess. It is about shoulder length and is fine although there is a lot of it! I am after a bouncy blow dry look. Worth noting that the easier to use the better…. I am crap at all things hair and makeup.
Any recommendations?

I beg the forum’s indulgence, since I know that the U.S. election is not directly of huge importance here, but, still, Trump’s contamination oozes into the broader world.

I don’t know if other Americans feel similarly, but for me this is like being suspended in limbo, waiting to see if the Democratic party will triumph over Trump’s Republican party. I’ve done the protests, I’ve done the volunteering, I’ve done the donations. And now it’s just a matter of waiting. I watch the statistics (Republicans have a tendency to denigrate polls if they’re not in their favor, but now even the prediction markets are forecasting a Democrat sweep). I read about the daily outrages, including his efforts to block votes. But, really, just waiting.

The main amusement is watching the vicious mockery. He’s being heckled at his own rallies. He’s sounding more and more unhinged, and it doesn’t help him that he’s backing some bad candidates. Lately he’s talking about scrutinizing men’s asses.

I’m finally daring to feel hopeful. But we’ll all be glad when this if over (even though we’ll just leap ahead to 2028).What an awful way to live.

Hi all. I'm just caretaking until Reastie returns, but here's our new thread. Please do use up the old one first though.

This is intended as a friendly, kind, safe, warm and fuzzy place for people to share discounts, bargains and Christmas gift ideas both online and IRL. Please note the tone and intention of the thread and join with spirit as generous as DC helping themselves to the Christmas chocolate celebrations

Here’s some useful information about how to save the thread or a specific post so you don’t need to have a message to check in for every thread so you have the thread saved:

To watch the thread - click on the little bell that has ‘watch’ under my first message. This adds the whole thread to your ‘watched threads’

You can also bookmark a specific post by clicking on the ‘bookmark’ under the specific post. This saves your exact place in a thread but doesn’t alert you to new replies.

If you have any referral links or codes, please share them on the referral thread here:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/christmas/5444936-bargain-referrals-thread-8

A reminder that we don't use affiliated links on here please

🎄 Emoji to copy if required for posting bargains as some agree this makes deals easier to spot. (or post in bold)

Other than the elusive Needoh, my DS really wants Pokemon cards for Christmas but I can't find them anywhere and a lot of online retailers seemed to have bumped the price up somewhat.

I have tried requesting to purchase through Amazon many times and never get selected, despite my Amazon account being over 25 years old! Not sure how you get approved for that.

Anybody got any good sources?

Welcome to Thread 14, calendar crew!

It looks like thread 13 won't even take us to Hallowe'en 👻 let alone to Black Friday

It's not only ACs, but the Christmas boxes and stockings are all coming out now too. Will we have any pennies left for Christmas presents or will our loved ones get a funsize selection box from their now very fragrant and beautiful relatives ??

Link for alllll the calendars via the wonderful MaryBD is here
https://beauty-detective.com/category/beauty-advent-calendars/

Even before Black Friday, there are discount codes here:
https://beauty-detective.com/beauty-advent-calendar-discount-codes-deals-2026/

Best of the makeup ACs here:
https://beauty-detective.com/best-makeup-advent-calendars-2026/

And best of the fragrance ACs here:
https://beauty-detective.com/best-fragrance-advent-calendars-2026/

Well that's Hallowe'en done.

Time for Christmas!

https://www.radiotimes.com/tv/entertainment/best-christmas-adverts-2026/

My DD’s state primary school has a “top maths club” and “great writers club” for the top performing students in yr 5 and 6 held outside of school hours. There is no charge for this - so it’s free childcare and free tutoring. You have to be invited. This has been running since the second week of the school year and is restarting on the first day of this half term.

By contrast, my dyslexic DD is in a group for those needing more support in writing, also outside of school hours. But they only managed 2 sessions last year and it hasn’t started back up this year. She gets ad hoc in school support; where it happens she misses other lessons that aren’t then caught up on, putting her further behind in the those.

I appreciate these children deserve challenging, but surely that could be done in class with different work and the teacher’s out of hours time, if available, used to help those struggling?

Is this even allowed in a state primary?

Well it's here....

https://www.johnlewis.com/content/christmas-advert

And I hate those bratty kids already LOL 😂😂😂

Visited my ILs last week. My MIL is pleasant but can be overbearing, very involved in her daughter's life, and very black and white.

My DH has a younger sister, age 24, who is living back home for a bit to save money after her Masters finished. She's lived independently in another city 150 miles away for 4+ years.

MIL told us that SIL had been poorly with a virus, potentially an ear infection. Booked a doctors appointment locally, MIL told us what she said to the doctor and their conversation (including calling the doctor a quack for not examining her), and it sounds like SIL was sat in silence. SIL was out at the time so didn't get her version of events.

Coming away I was gobsmacked that a parent would accompany an adult child to the GP. She's 24! There's no reason why she can't advocate for herself.

I do understand parents being worried, SIL does have asthma and allergies that have affected her over the years.