Name change, but I've been on here for 10 years.

I had blood from my nipple for a year. Two lots of mammograms and ultrasounds over 5 months showed nothing - not a damn thing. So in June I had a total duct excision for symptom relief. What the surgeon found was stage 2-3 invasive breast cancer. I've been sitting here, through the heatwaves, having to wear a bra and dressings 24/7 for a month, with a wound that won't heal due to the cancer. I also had infection and necrosis and lost half my nipple. I've been unable to do anything except sit here in pain and read, crochet and doom scroll - my ADHD is going mental as it wants and needs to do something!

I'm booked in for a mastectomy and sentinel lymph node removal on Monday 27/7, after being injected with radioactive isotopes and dye (apparently I'll be peeing blue for a while lol). After I've healed I'll need an MRI to check if it's gone, and if I also have cancer in my left breast. That will be followed by radiotherapy and possibly chemo.

To top it all off, my car has decided to give up the ghost now, when I need it most. I've been advised NOT to drive it. So how the heck do I get around? Radiotherapy alone will be 5 days a week for up to 7 weeks. No community transport available in my area (rural), and using public transport will involve taking 6 buses a day with a long walk, whilst fatigued and in pain, every day. If they bother showing up. I'll have to go to my GP surgery for wound checks, and no buses go near there. I can't afford a car - I can barely afford food for the kids.

I'm just so fed up, I really am. Instead of concentrating on recovery, I'm worried sick about not having a car. And the kids are taking this hard - I'm so worried about them. They're both neurodiverse and aren't coping well. The ex is also dissing me every chance he gets, telling the kids thing like: Your mum always wanted cancer'. ffs

I'm a strong person, but I'm scared. I'm really scared. I don't want to do this. And if the cancer is also in my left breast I'll have to go through it all again. I don't know how much more I can take. Tempted to just clock out.

Sorry for the long post, I guess I just needed to get this off my chest.

I leaned into the culottes and polka dot trend this season and was delighted with this bargain in Sainsburys last week. I thought I looked great. Effortless and summery chic etc etc. Until 14yo DD looked up at me with withering disdain and asked why was I dressed like a Tombliboo.

We had a similar situation last year when I bought a striped teeshirt and they called me Bagpuss for the whole summer.

There’s a thread going about must-buy foods from Waitrose and I have enjoyed trying all the delicious recommendations!

I thought I would start a similar one for M&S Food, as I’m sure I’m missing out on lots of good stuff.

My contribution: the Somerset butter with maple syrup in. It’s absolute heaven on a toasted bagel!

My son has been offered social housing.i can help him with sone things. But not larger items.

I'm hoping i can find a charity of some sort that sells 2nd hand furniture. As we could probably get most things he needs under one roof and its likely they will deliver.

Just to ad British heart foundation and simlar are to expensive. We can't use free cycle . Facebook anything that requires collection . We do not drive or have access to a car. So it makes sense to use a charity

So bit of a long shot but does anyone know of charity's that sell 2nd hand furniture in the southeast london area..

Thanks 😊

Does anyone know about the sizing. When I look online size 5 seems to differ between 38 (which I am) and 37.5 (which I’m not.)
I don’t really understand why some of them are different and it isn’t standard. Does anyone know?

I feel like my skin has drastically aged past year or so and I’m so down about it. I took this picture outside whilst sat waiting at the bus stop, and my skin looks quite haggard.

I’m only in my twenties yet have so much texture and finelines as well as an overall sunken look. I’m on the thinner side but not underweight. Tbf I’ve always had icepick scarring and larger pores due to history of bad acne in teens

Current skincare routine…
AM:
Rinse with water, apply la roche posay spf 50

PM:
Micellar water to remove spf
Cleanse with Simple cream cleanser (feels creamy and hydrating, doesn’t make my skin feel tight at all)
The ordinary matrixyl & HA 10% serum (this peptide has some research behind it)
Aveeno oat gel (makes my skin feel so soft, very gentle)

Two or three times a week I apply medik8 crystal retinal, not as strong as tretinoin but I’m new to retinoids and I feel my skin looks too dehydrated anyway so I don’t want to overdo actives.

I have significantly cut down on alcohol and don’t smoke. Try to get at least 6-7 hours sleep in weekday and around 8 hours on weekend

I don’t know why my skin looks so haggard compared to average people my age. Many have worse diets, drink more and socially smoke

It's actually is DH being unreasonable. He thinks DD (15) should be happy to share a room with us all (me, him, DD2).

She doesn't want to share a room with us (she will share with me & sister, not her dad).

I can see where she's coming from but DH doesn't see her p.o.v.

My Dd had her drink spiked last night.
Im sitting in ITU.
I have sons……. But wtf goes on in men’s heads.
For completeness, her best friend, was also spiked, but is not as poorly.
police are being crap.
Just why????

I am 21 weeks pregnant and have had 3 ultrasounds in the past week as my baby was too stubborn to move so they could not fully do her anomaly scan. They did note that on each scan her hand was consistently in the ‘Rock and roll’ position 🤘. Has anyone had experience with this? I am starting to worry it’s not normal and she may have an issue with that hand. First time mum so possibly worrying too much. Xx

You can ask me anything but I'm not going to name the prison and I'm not able to comment on individual prisoners (including/especially high profile ones).

MIL is here every other Tuesday looking after our toddler whilst we both work. She is really helpful, and tries to do stuff round the house. Recently, she has started putting washes on. I find this a step too far - the first time this happened, there wasn’t a great deal of washing in our basket - it would have fit in one wash. She left one item in the basket which was a rather ‘risque’ all in one bedroom outfit of mine if you get what I mean. She had obviously seen it, and decided to leave it (and nothing else) in the basket.

DH says she’s being helpful and it saves me a job so I should be grateful. I find it..invasive? Fully appreciate it may be a ‘me’ issue but thought it’d get some impartial views.

Sunbeds!

I avoid holidays where there’s sunbed wars- we normally go eurocamping but my kids fancied trying a jet 2 holiday and we had a nice time - we chose a hotel that said it doesn’t have sunbed problems and you can’t reserve them early.

My daughter and I went down the the pool at lunchtime and found a completely free sunbed with nothing on it. The sun beds either side were taken but not this one . Very normal to have random one free where we were staying and the etiquette is if something is on it then it’s not free but if it’s empty it’s free.

We put our things on the bed and jumped in the pool . 5 minutes later a family came over. Threw our stuff off and claimed the sunbed. They also had the sunbeds either side.

I got out the pool and said please don’t throw our stuff off as it was our bed. The lady said it was there’s, they’d got up since 6am and saved them and the towel must have blown away. She refused to engage and thought she was in the right.

We took our stuff and left. But I felt so angry. What would you have done? I mean it’s a sunbed I’m not that bothered in the grand scheme of life but it was her dismissive attitude and arrogance. When she was in the wrong!

I’ve lost 5 stone on Mounjaro over the past 18 months and now maintaining. I’m delighted with that BUT I now have terrible jowls under my chin/neck which really get me down and others have noticed these as well.

I consulted a cosmetic surgery about options and having discussed several less invasive options, was advised that the only effective option would be a face and neck lift. I have now been advised to have a deep plane face and neck lift with deep neck reduction.

I’ve thoroughly researched the surgeon etc, so that’s all fine, but I’m getting very nervous about it now. Can anyone advise from experience whether there is a less invasive/less drastic solution to neck jowls? I’m not trying to look 10 years younger and I’m not vain but I just want to at least reduce these jowls because they look horrible. I was originally considering Endolift but ultimately that doctor told me results would probably be subtle so I don’t know whether it’s worth the expense to give it a try..,Any advice from someone who has had a similar problem will be gratefully received. Photos attached.

We all have this, don't we? A pile of clothes on a chair in the bedroom that aren't dirty enough to wash but not clean enough to go back in the wardrobe.

Mine sit on a chair looking untidy.

Try as I might, I can't find a solution. Blanket ladders aren't sturdy enough to put up with daily use, chairs take up a lot of space, hooks don't work for two people's worth of clothes.

AIBU for being frustrated there is not a magical solution to this? Or is there one that is being gate-kept by the eternally tidy and house proud crew?

Honestly, so disappointed.
Tresemme was great value for money. I accepted when the 800ml bottles sneakily changed to 680 or whatever the volume of ozempic tresemme became. It was still okay - most supermarkets kept the offer price at £3.50, it smells nice, lasted a long time, I don’t need anything salon quality it did the job.
New bottles are 500 or so ml, look awful and no longer on offer, the price is easily hitting the £5 mark.

AIBU to be fed up of everything getting smaller and prices going up?

And yes, I understand companies can do what they want, I know prices go up. But what a sad little life for us consumers.

I’ve had a run of Vinted failures trying to find floaty lovely summer dresses and skirts.

I need a wardrobe summer makeover (bit late I know!) and am looking for dresses and skirts that can be casual or dressed up.

Thought I’d start a thread for inspiration in the hopes others will share their best finds.

My two to start are both Fatface (who I don’t usually love but these are great). I love bright colours and I’ve worn both of these with trainers in the day or smartened them up for the evening

https://www.fatface.com/style/sv220806/g09211

https://www.fatface.com/style/su789848/h01998

Hi everyone

i just wanted to share a disturbing text I’ve received from a guy.

The date was planned for this Friday and I received the below by text out of nowhere…no previous sexual talk, just planning the date. Totally icked out and disturbed. Urgh!

Quick checkin: Are you behaving yourself or do I need to intervene?

My boyfriend stayed over last night, I was clear with him I had a very early WFH meeting and would need him to be gone by 9. He was, but text me mid morning to say ‘bit gutted I had to leave, I was expecting cornflakes and a quick wank’

I told him I was clear I started work at 9 and needed the flat clear so no interruptions.

He replied saying ‘haha obviously joking, it’s a famous film line’. I’ve never heard of it and he hasn’t replied to tell me which one it’s from.

Would anyone else find that rude?

The Montecito diaries continue……..will it be Balmoral or bust?

This is just for fun, it’s in my contract that OT is mandatory. But today she told me I had to do OT tonight so I told her I was too busy washing my hair. She laughed and put me down anyway. So that got me thinking, what other silly excuses can I give?

‘I have to walk my fish’ for definite.

I’m sure you lot can come up with some good ones!

Been on the market for a few months now, loads of viewings but no offers! I honestly can’t see the problem and I’m worried I’m house blind at this point.

this is the listing: https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/88856211

i honestly don’t think it’s the price. There are unextended, unrenovated houses on for £20k less the next road over.

it’s also a fair price - we paid 550k in 2017, based on inflation it would be 750k now but that just isn’t supported by the area.

weve done lots to maintain it in that time - new boiler, washing machine, dishwasher, fridge. We replaced the laminate floors downstairs with wood. We changed the purple vinyl bathrooms to nice tile. It was meant to be our forever home so none of this was to make a profit.

bits I know are of; we’re a bus ride away from a train station, but I think this is reflected in the price. The carpets upstairs need to be replaced - this was the case when we moved in but we kept putting it off as we were planning a loft conversion.

tbe feedback has been perplexing - one viewer said we’d made the house too traditional and they would have to redo the kitchen / bathrooms to modernise, but I think they are pretty neutral?

what can I do? Is the market just a bit rubbish at the moment?

We have never been, had planned to bunk off school for a day last month but couldnt quite bring myself to do it.

Im so worried about going and it being a let down for dc due to the busyness/queues. Is there plenty to do aside from rides for 9 and 10 yr olds?

Just that really? What have you done that has really worked or that you can't go without? A product or habit or anything that you think has really helped you to look better. I am just in a bit of a rut and want some inspiration! Thanks!

hello, my 4 year old son seems to fixate on things, I’m not talking a great hobby that keeps him quite, I mean requests that involve LOTS of talking 😂 It happens daily with different things I.E the evening bike ride we take he asks multiple times a day, going over what we are having for lunch and so and so on. This is all manageable I am in control of those things. Recently he has done it with things that are out of my control and I just wondered if anyone has some sort of magic trick that works? 2 weeks ago my niece had a baby and I made the mistake of telling him that day and for an entire week I could not get him to understand why we couldn’t visit yet, he would not do anything else discuss anything else and kept completely melting down after realising we were not going. Now today was his last day at pre school and they obviously said “it’s now the school holidays” my son heard holiday and immediately thought holiday as in the one we took to Greece last year 😔 he came out of pre school (even though I had been warning him of school holidays and what that meant for weeks now) saying mummy we are going on holiday to the pool, I’ve explained endlessly what the school meant, tried explaining the cost and how even if we could go we could not go today. I’ve tried calmly explaining, asking questions to distract doing different activities, talking about what we will be doing and all the fun things we are going to do, tried ignoring the hell loop of “we go on holiday now” and resorted to just saying nope we are not going on holiday. Please tell me someone has advice because I fear that even if it takes a week to settle, if he hears the word holiday it will start back up 😩

Why don’t we have pay at the pump technology like they have in other countries, for instance the US…

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2026/jul/21/petrol-theft-crisis-uk

it seems an obvious solution to what has clearly become a real,problem.