Hi and thank you for any help. I have been on Mounjaro since Feb 2025. I have worked upto 15mg. I had a bit of a stock pile built up and was using that but realise my last order was July.. while looking at new deals and suppliers I note they want evidence of last prescription in the last 8 weeks. So worried Inhave messed up now and won’t get next prescription! I’m looking at new health (cheapest on Monj.co) and just paid. Can anyone advise how I can over come this?

As of last year, I started working almost entirely from home, so I no longer need to dress smartly for the office. My casual trousers currently consist of jeans and… more jeans (both slim and baggy!). My old work trousers feel far too smart for the school run, a coffee or a day working from home.

I’m a pear shape, size 8–10 on top and 10–12 on the bottom, with chunkier thighs. I tend to wear slouchy, wide-knit jumpers (think Joseph/Jigsaw/COS/Émile Sézane style) in cream, oatmeal, pink, grey and green.
I’d love some suggestions for casual, comfy trousers that still look and feel lovely with this sort of knitwear. I worked in an office until last year and I think I’m struggling a bit to find my feet style-wise now I’m not dressing for work every day. Jeans have always been my default, but they used to be easier to rotate with office clothes!

I caught myself enviously eyeing up two mums at school pickup recently who’d clearly been in work and both looked lovely and perfectly autumnal. Nothing particularly dressy, just really nice outfits that looked effortless. It made me realise I’ve lost my way a little bit and would love to feel a bit more me again.

My actual life is very much school runs, dog walks, the odd coffee, working in my home office and occasional trips to the gym. I live rurally, so a swishy city look wouldn’t really work, and I don’t want to feel overdressed for my day-to-day life.

What trousers are you wearing that strike that happy medium between comfy and casual but still feeling a bit pulled together? Particularly interested in styles that work with chunky knitwear and a pear-shaped figure. Would love any brand or outfit suggestions! 😊 budget flexible (I rarely buy anything unless a moth eats it so happy to invest a bit)

We viewed a property that ticks a lot of boxes and is in a great location for us. We'd ideally want a downstairs loo but thought at least there are two bathrooms upstairs.

On viewing however, the en suite is so small it's verging on unusable (used to be a cupboard) and the toilet in there is a macerator. Obviously this was done because the original bathroom and soil stack/sewer is at the opposite side of the house, but it's not something I'd want to live with.

I can't see anywhere obvious where it would be relatively straightforward to have a proper second toilet installed without a great deal of expense and disruption (see floorplan).

Am I right, or is there a possible option I'm missing?

The continuing story of the Sussexes and their PR issues

Just found out that my next door neighbours have complained about my autistic DS. The complaint was related to him shouting in the garden(he’s non verbal and he vocally stims) and how he sometimes has no clothes on in the garden and their grandchildren can see him.

They put in a complaint to my HA and I wish they had spoken to me first. I do understand how loud he can be and I try hard to keep him dressed. The fences are high but they can see into my garden from their bedroom windows.

He’s not out there from morning til night, only in the school holidays and after school for a bit. I also work and he stays with his Dad for part of the week.

I feel so on edge now and feel like I can’t have him in the garden in case they complain again, I’m also a single parent and it makes me feel vulnerable that they have an issue with us.

They are an older couple with an immaculate garden/house. I do understand how they like to enjoy peace and quiet in their garden and obviously they deserve to not be disturbed.

I’m ashamed to say I cried when I was told of the complaint, I’m embarrassed now 🙈

Who do your children think their presents come from- parents or Santa?

The situation is that our eldest child attends a nursery and last week the nursery put a message out essentially asking parents to tell their children that the majority of their presents are from their parents, and to choose just one present specifically something low cost (the examples they gave were PJ’s, chocolates, socks or a book) to be the present from Santa. Their explanation for this was that it prevents a situation they say they have had in previous years where all of the children come back in January chatting about Christmas presents and some children have had lots and lots of toys from Santa and other children have had a bar of chocolate & some socks from Santa, the children with less ended up confused and upset.

Growing up all of our presents were always from Santa (other than ones from family/friends), both of our kids are young enough that we’ve never really said who they are from yet and we are just wondering really is this what parents say now?

It has caused uproar among the nursery parents with strong opinions either side, lots saying that the magic of Christmas is piles from Santa and that they won’t change that, also lots saying its not fair on the children with parents who can’t afford huge piles and so they only get chocolate from Santa but find out at nursery that that friend got piles of toys and so they argue we all need to be saying those expensive things are from parents.

I don’t particularly have an opinion either way, so really just wondering what other parents do? Just one present from Santa? All from Santa? Particular low cost from Santa? All from parents? We are fortunate in that we can afford to buy for Christmas whatever our children want really, but I would hate to think that another child will hear ours talking about her toys and wonder why Santa didn’t bring him the same so I can definitely see the point in just having something low cost from Santa- but that only really works if everyone does it.

My only gripe with the nursery about the whole thing really is that as an activity the week before last they did a “lets do Christmas lists for Santa” activity so all kids sat round and produced lists of toys with help from staff obviously to bring home to parents. For me, if I was concerned about children feeling disappointed over Christmas presents I probably wouldn’t be encouraging them all to sit and write lists of toys together knowing that some of those children will get every item on their list and some will get none. Maybe that activity prompted a parent to complain and led to their message being sent out, who knows.

Please can someone advise? My hair has become steadily more tangled and matted to the extent that after I washed it tonight, I can't get my fingers through it at all. I'm just pulling loads out trying to brush it and now I'm panicking a bit.

I suspected it might be a hard water build up so bought some clarifying shampoo and did a cider vinegar rinse, then used my usual redken shampoo and conditioner. I also bought a filter head for the shower. If anything, it's even worse and even more matted.

The water company where I live has recently advised that the water will be even harder due to the minerals at source. My hair is fine, highlighted and dry anyway and has become wavy and frizzy as I've got older, although it appears straight when dry. It won't hold waves or curls, its too fine and flyaway.

Please, has anyone had this and found a solution? I've got some much broken hair from trying to brush it out and the texture is horrible. My hairdresser is no help, unfortunately.

We had two lovely animals killed on our farm today by two dogs completely out of the owners control. Second time it has happened recently.

Just can't get the image out of my head, feel so sad this keeps happening

I'm looking for a corduroy dress, probably button through, preferably elbow length sleeves, just above knee length. It needs to be a petite fit ideally- I'm 5ft 1 and size 16. I've tried a couple from Next - a green one from m&co- sleeves too tight and restrictive and a beautiful dark red one from love and roses - too a line for me. Any ideas anyone please? Any suggestions of an alternative would be welcome. Just needs to be warmish and suitable for a nice pub lunch. Can anyone help please?

DD is in year 4 and has a very set best friend since nursery school. They tend to have weekly play dates and monthly sleepovers. This friend is coming over on Saturday for a play and a sleepover.

Also there’s another girl in DD’s class that, previously, DD had said was a bit mean and she didn’t like. This other girl and DD were in the same summer holiday club in August and DD said the girl had changed and she liked her now. So they played a bit at our house and the girl’s house (no sleepovers). Anyway, a few weeks ago DD said she doesn’t like this girl anymore as she’s back to being mean. DD had apparently told her “if you’re mean like that, I don’t want to play” and the girl kept doing it.

Anyway I have just looked at my phone and this girl’s mother has messsged “Hi A, could B come round for a play date and a sleepover on Saturday? She’s been hearing about C and D talking about it and she doesn’t want to miss out!” With lots of laughing and praying emojis.

I have two older daughters so I thought I’d heard it all! (Also DD having older sisters means she’s quite good at holding her boundaries and understanding play dynamics etc).

Anyway, DH says it’s fine for this mum to ask. Just say no. But then I look like the bad guy!

AIBU?

(I am going to say no, btw, as DD won’t want her to come.)

Has anyone heard of this? My dh is having surgery soon and I just need to know the answer to something truthfully once and for all. As awful as it sounds I thought I could use this opportunity in the days after his operation to find out whether he actually has done something that he always said he wouldn't. I have no evidence just a couple of random bits of info which may or may not be connected. Its not that serious an operation but involves a general anaesthetic.

Are blonde haired, blue eyed, white girls still favoured?

I’ve noticed lately that the girls in my youngest sons school with the ‘halo’ effect are still blatantly favoured weather unconsciously or not. They seem to be the ones who have ‘star of the day’ way more than any other group of children. Today a picture of five girls was posted on the class dojo for their brilliant writing and they were all blonde, blue eyed and white surely that’s not just coincidence?

my son was the only one to do the ‘optional’ homework the prize was to read their work to the whole of assembly. He knew today nobody else had done it so was super excited he would ‘win’ only to be told as only one person has entered the class would write their own piece during English and then the class would vote, the blonde haired blue eyed white girl won again! I don’t know if I’m just looking for something as I’m annoyed on behalf of my son or what, does this happen in all schools?

There’s lots of other things I’ve noticed but that’s just a snap shot, is there still a bias towards these children? I’m just interested not wanting to annoy anyone or anything.

My 11 year old daughter in year 6 really wants a phone, majority of her friends got them at the beginning of year 5 as they started walking home but I’ve been putting it off.
we originally said end of primary school before secondary but it’s something she keeps asking about.
for context, she’s a very mature, sensible 11 year old ( she’s a September baby so one of the oldest in her class)

wwyd and what ages did you let your children have a phone?

So I’ve had a new boyfriend since October last year. He’s good to me, kind to me, does lots of jobs around the house, cooks, cleans, is great with my kids etc… However, I am paying for everything, he is using my car, he is eating my food, he is basically living in my home rent free. He does pay when we go out for meals occasionally but tbh that’s not that often. When I asked for his share of the price of our summer holiday he was upset. He says that he doesn’t ask to eat my dinners and he wouldn’t have them unless I offered. It kind of leaves me with nowhere to go on the conversation. He doesn’t want to book any holidays so it’s always my idea and then I pay. I had a horrible husband before I met him and he is not that at all… but something isn’t sitting right here… everytime I raise it, I just don’t get anywhere so I have realised there is no point. Can you give me your views?

My ILs live 4-5h away, up north.

Dh usually wfh everyday except Tuesday, and i wfh on Tuesdays only. Yesterday morning he spontaneously announced he was wfh and going into the office on Wednesday instead, so I decamped all my stuff onto the dining table to let him use the home office corner, and did the drop offs as I usually do on Tuesday. But we got to have lunch together in the local caff which was nice, a rare child free moment together.

This morning I phoned my MIL because I wanted to tell her about something to do with DS, and also check that DH had told her about our Christmas plans. She says "oh he mentioned briefly, but I'll be seeing him later anyway". "What, seeing Ben? Today?" Yes, she says she's just getting on the tube on her way to lunch with him, didn't he mention it? Er, no he didn't... She says she's only in London for lunch. Because she barely gets any time alone with him.

What has thrown me is a) why wouldn't he mention that is mum is doing a lovely but eccentric 9h round trip just to have lunch with him, why keep that a secret and b) we are visiting the ILs for half term soon, so surely lots of opportunities for chats?

I texted dh "why didn't you tell me you were seeing your mum for lunch today" and he replied he didn't want to mention it in front of the kids because they'd be sad not to see Granny themselves. But we had loads of child free time yesterday, and he didn't think to mention it, he just made small talk about diesel and the weather and the Holborn by election. No "oh by the way im seeing my mum tomorrow". If he had, id have replied "ah that's so nice of her, don't forget to mention Christmas".

I feel like they both think that I keep him a prisoner or something? He goes out to see his mates of an evening sometimes, and he has lunch with various people, I never stop him from any of that or even ask questions about who he sees, there was no need to keep it a secret.

I now don't want to go up north for half term, I wish he'd just go alone with the kids if I'm so in the way. But the kids would miss me, DS is only 2.

I'm a bit upset, please talk me out of this, mumsnet

I took the plastic wrap off a head of broccoli this evening and as I started to cut it up, I noticed a white fly in front of my face. I saw another one and I put the broccoli under the kitchen tap to rinse it off. Suddenly more and more tiny white flies started coming out! I couldn't see any on the broccoli but they just kept appearing!

The broccoli is outside now in a tin but I'm still thinking about it. I'm not usually a wimp about food and I've picked out a boiled slug before, discreetly hid it and carried on eating. But this is making me uncomfortable for some reason. There were so many and they just kept coming out.

So what should I do? Can I still cook and eat the broccoli (and tell my kids it's safe to eat)?

YANBU: Stop being sensitive, of course it'll be fine to eat.

YABU: Put it straight into the outside bin.

I worked in schools for 20+ years so I’m very aware of how hard school staff work. I’ve also had a good relationship with this school for years and have had 3 kids through it already.

DN lives with us as his Mummy died. He’s doing amazing given the circumstances. He started school in September and loves it.

Since the second week he’s been going to the breakfast club three days a week. It’s run by school staff. The one he goes to (they have two separate ones) is staffed by two TAs and they take 25 kids. DN was desperate to go as his wee bestie, who lives on our street, goes and we’ve been happy to encourage anything that helps him settle.

However, for the 6th time since he started the TA who does the door said “say bye to Mummy…”

This leaves DN horribly upset and it’s getting worse each time it happens. Every time the TA apologises, tells DN it’s so difficult to remember every and she’ll try her best not to do it again. Today DN was so upset he ended up being sick and has missed the whole day of school.

Last week the other TA took over doing the door and DN had a brilliant week. This week the forgetful TA has upset him twice. I get that learning lots of kids names is difficult, but how the fuck do you forget an orphaned kid that you’ve upset numerous times?

My AIBU is this - To stop going to breakfast club you have to give a month’s notice and pay for that notice. I’ve told the school today I’m withdrawing DN effective immediately and won’t be paying.

The TA is either making absolutely no effort or she cannot recognise faces, in which case she shouldn’t be doing the door.

DH thinks in the interest of the relationship with the school we should pay for the notice, but I don’t agree. DN wants to go. I want him to go. He cannot go because they are repeatedly upsetting him.

Shamelessly posted in aibu for traffic sorry! I don't think iabu but I have a question. I am going abroad with dh and in-laws at the weekend. Mil is lovely but shes bringing her sister - she is is generally a nice person and we get on ( as I am very tolerant! ) but she is if a generation who are obsessed with people's weight, she constantly goes on about people's weight and looks, diet, who has put weight on, who hasn't ( even people I don't know! ) and she will comment on peoples food and portions sizes every time they eat and makes patronising comments to fully grown adults like 'make sure you eat your veg'. I'm pregnant currently and everytime I see her all she goes on about is how hard she found it to lose her baby weight once hers were born over 40 years ago and I am feeling self conscious about a trip I should be looking forward to and probably my last before the baby - especially the all inclusive part! I am very small, it's not that she is triggering any actual insecurities I have but I don't feel very attractive at the moment, I've had really awful sickness and not taken much care of myself for a good few months, my skin is dry and my hair needs dying and I'm going to look rubbish. What do I actually do or say when MIL's sister makes these comments? She will likely say something to DH too who equally feels insecure to the extent he said he wouldn't go swimming around her! Any advice on what to say or how to enjoy the holiday anyway? I'm a bit annoyed MIL invited her tbh, but I guess it's her sister but I probably wouldn't have gone for these reasons if I'd known before hand.

I am overseas on a luxury holiday with my two sisters, their husbands and children and my own two children (I have no partner, and all of our children are teens). I am very lucky to be here and am having a perfectly nice time. We’re away for one week in total, back home on Saturday.
I’m 52, menopausal and fairly introverted. Despite being in paradise (pretty much), I think I’ll be ready to go home on Saturday.
I do feel a bit like the odd one out. I feel ridiculous for saying this as they’re my sisters, and we love each other! But they live close together, see each other regularly and socialise as couples. Their kids are also much more at ease with each other than with mine. We made an effort to get them together when they were little and one or more of us was on maternity leave or working part-time, but it fell by the wayside a bit as they got older and life took over. I feel bad for not being as close to my niece and nephews as I could be. My sisters and their husbands are fantastic people, but bigger drinkers than I am and more sociable. I feel under pressure sharing a room with my kids (I am absolutely over doing that, if I’m honest, but it was the only way we could afford to come) and seeing other people every day. I feel sad that I’m like the odd one out, but understand that it’s my own fault.
I don’t know why I have written this post. Maybe someone can relate to how I feel? Don’t get me wrong, I can appreciate that this is a lovely holiday and I am enjoying it for the most part. But I have come to the conclusion that solo holidays are probably more my thing.
I was also sick last night and the others didn’t check in with me to see how I was. I wouldn’t do that to them, particularly if they didn’t have a partner to look after them.
Ohhh, somebody please just give me a gentle kick up the arse 😁 I may well regret this when I’m back to holiday washing and working full-time next week. But I honestly can’t say I’m dreading going home at all.
To conclude, I love my family and we get on perfectly well. This is a lovely holiday. But I’m not sure me or my kids are enhancing anyone’s experience by being here.
AIBU?

I've been picking up Xmas food here and there when at the shops and was looking at Aldi's crisp offerings which were a bit uninspiring - turkey and thyme, pigs in blankets. Anyone seen any good ones out there they can recommend? Thanks!

I genuinely think this policy (at our GP surgery and I assume widespread) is deeply harmful to patients.

I was given an appointment today with the paramedic - no idea why not a GP - to talk about worsening symptoms (painful, bloated belly, difficulty urinating, sickness, reflux, dizziness). I mentioned that the symptoms are making it hard to know what to take for migraine (chronic sufferer). She snapped ‘that’s a separate appointment.’

The thing is, it’s not really is it? The symptoms I’m having are clearly hormonally driven (worse/unbearable around ovulation) but she didn’t ask about that or really anything about me as a person.

And how do you decide which symptoms are connected to the issue you’ve booked in and which aren’t? Aren’t they going to miss really obvious things if they refuse to understand what is going on with the patient as an actual person, as opposed to a single symptom or problem?

For the first time ever, I’m stumped. Dh doesn’t like experience gifts and doesn’t want sport merch (has so much already!). Would love some inspiration from what others are getting their DH! Dh likes cooking, chess and football / F1.

…by telling me yours?

At Waterloo Station the other day. Backpack on. Halfway up an escalator and a lovely man taps me on the shoulder to kindly tell me that my dress was tucked underneath said backpack.

Bright pink pants on display (I usually wear black but Sod’s Law!). At least dozens of people would have seen before I was notified. Argh!

The man was so nice, though. Restored my faith in them a little bit!

Do you have a favourite mattress? Do you rotate or flip it regularly?

I need to buy a new one. I am a side sleeper. Dreams told me to go for soft mattress whereas John Lewis staff told me I should go for medium. I tried sleepeze which is firm, it was very comfy. I am so confused how can firm feel good when I am supposed to be comfy in soft. Staff also seem to be confused.
I wanted to get tempur as you don’t have to rotate or flip it but I am told you my bed has sprung slats, it’s wont work.

Gemini told me Simba is the best option for me. I tried their hybrid range - didn’t like pro or lux but surprisingly their entry level simba hybrid felt good but it is medium firm.

So I need some help in deciding. Any help or tips would be greatly appreciated.

It’s that time of year again and my family has found this year tough like so many others. I manage a clerical team within a much larger public sector industry and the Christmas Party talk started today but by all accounts we are late!
The minimum price per head is coming in at £70 with others way over £100.

I’m struggling to justify the expenditure but as a “manager” I feel it’s my duty to go. That money would pay for our Christmas lunch if not more. Everyone else seems ok with it so I’m also embarrassed- AIBU to think this is too much?