i really can’t do trainers in very hot weather but I need something very comfortable for walking 20k plus steps a day. I’ve looked at Skechers, fitflop, teva but I think I need a recommendation. Has anyone found any with good arch support and very cushioned soles which might fit the bill?
I know there are lots of actual hiking sandals but I’d like something more attractive if possible

I dont even know where to start but I took my youngest to soft play today, my older boys were at school and I thought it would be nice to have an hour just me and him but we ended up leaving after 20 minutes because he attacked a little boy

When I say attacked I don’t mean a squabble over a toy. He barged him over and then climbed on top of him and was hitting him before I got there. The other little boy was crying and his mum was understandably furious with me. She kept saying “get him off” as though I wasn’t already trying, I apologised over and over and did offer to pay for a new drink for the little boy as it had done everywhere but they weren’t interested. Another parent was saying I shouldn’t bring a child like that to soft play

He’s only just turned 3 but everyone thinks he’s older because he’s so tall, he’s built like a 5 year old so people expect him to behave like one too which doesn’t help as mentally he’s still only 3. But when he loses it he’s so strong it isn’t just a tantrum where you can pick him up and take him away. He kicks, headbutts and lashes out

I’ve tried all the obvious things. I don’t smack or shout all the time. He has routines, he sleeps fairly well most nights but usually in with me. He eats alright apart from vegetables. I’ve read books, watched videos, spoke to nursery when he was there, spoken to health visitor, tried reward charts which did nothing.

His nursery asked him to leave about 6 weeks ago. They said they couldn’t keep everyone safe anymore and they didn’t have enough staff to give him the support he needed. There had been biting, pushing and one incident where he threw a wooden block . They said they were sorry but thought another setting would be better suited

I can’t find anywhere else it’s either full or has waiting lists. A couple have asked why he’s left his previous nursery and when I’m honest I hear nothing back. It’s meant I can’t work as there’s no one to have him. Their mum died 2 years ago

And I’m trying to keep things normal for them but every month something goes wrong. there’s no family that could help, my parents are gone and my wife’s parents live hours away and aren’t well enough to have an energetic 3 year old

I’ve spoken to the GP, we’ve been referred for assessments and everyone agrees he needs looking at but there’s waiting lists and I’m just trying to make sure he doesn’t hurt anyone else or himself which didn’t work today

People assume because he’s badly behaved I’m useless and maybe I am I don’t know anymore. I’m exhausted all the time and always watching him and then feel guilty as the older boys need my attention too

Today at soft play he was laughing and climbing like any other child and then another boy ran past him and he just launched himself at him.

Afterwards he cried and cuddled into me whilst I was carrying him out and he kept asking if I was cross and I said yes I was.

I just sat there thinking is this it now? Do I just stop taking him places because it isn’t fair on other children? But then it’s not fair on his brothers to not go anywhere as it’s nearly the summer holidays and how does he ever learn?

Maybe grief has affected him more than I realised because he was young so he didn’t really understand compared to my older boys. Maybe I’ve made mistakes or been too soft or maybe I’ve been too strict because I’m worried about his behaviour

I just feel completely stuck

I’m overweight. I always have been and likely always will be. I was a size 18 by age 15, and as you can imagine I was picked on mercilessly at school because of it.

From the age of about 12, I couldn’t stand to have a full length mirror in my room. I would cover them up, I covered them up at uni and would refuse to look in them. I hit a high of 26 stone a few years ago and over the last two years I have lost 10 and a half stone to get back down to a size 16-18.

For the first time in my adult life, I feel confident. So much so that I’ve just ordered a mirror. For the first time in 15 years I feel confident enough to look at my own reflection.

I know it sounds stupid, but I wish I could go back 10 years and tell my teenage self that there will be a time where I don’t hate her and don’t want to die.

I’m so proud of myself and the work I’ve done to get here 🥹

What are your 3-4 favorite WWII movies? And if you can ponder why they're your favorites, do include that.

Since I had my daughter in 2023 my health has declined rapidly.
my weight as steadily gone up to 14 stone (I’m 5 ft 3), my hair is thinning, I’ve been diagnosed wit adenomyosis, pelvic congestion syndrome, chronic tonsiltiis, I’m awaiting a tonsillectomy and a hysterectomy. That’s just the back story. I am waiting to see endocrinology in August and the lymphedema nurses for my leg swelling.
when my daughter was about 1, I rapidly lost 2 stone and was very poorly, my gp thought I had cancer. I had so many tests and nothing was ever found. Then I just started piling the weight on. I’ve tried EVERYTHING. I am so so active and have a very healthy diet. But my weight won’t stop increasing. I absolutely eat in a calorie deficit. I know it is something medical related but does anyone have any insight on what this could be? Up to now for my various symptoms I have seen 2 gastro doctors, vascular as my legs are very swollen, rheumatology as I had gout symptoms but it was arthritis, haematology for constant infections, weight loss in the beginning and swollen lymph nodes and ent for my tonsils. I also saw cardiology as I was having chest pain and shortness of breath. Everything from these doctors have been okay.
I am at breaking point

On a much needed holiday nice resort booked a suite that has swim up pool to the 6 adjoining rooms. This is on a huge resort with 4 big pools this is a separate small pool just for these rooms but it’s perfect for us as our youngest is a nervous swimmer.
on Monday there were a few kids climbing over the wall we were on our balcony not using pool but could see this playing out. They all jumped in the pool, joined by 6 adults drinks in hand climbing over wall also (it’s a tiny wall to denote separation a foot or two high)
anyways someone in the downstairs room called reception someone came along to tell the 6 adults and 8 kids this is for these rooms only but you can stay an hour.
yest we were in the pool and they all rocked up again this time trying to take our sunbeds saying could we use these as your in pool as their numberous children starting jumping into pool. It was chaos, got dc out out and said to one of the women who could speak English - this pool is just a small pool for these few rooms only to which she said I’m staying in that one (pointed to a room she could or could not be staying in I haven’t seen anyone coming or going so not sure?!))
anyways I said well these rooms sleep four so the rest of these people aren’t staying here she was aggressive as were the rest and said it’s not up to you I paid for my room these are my guests. I said that’s not how it works this is rude a couple I wouldn’t mind but that many kids and adults just force’s everybody else who actually has a room there out.
didn’t call reception as dc were worried it would kick off if we saw them again but I’m pissed off so would it be unreasonable that If this large group do the same again today and the hotel won’t sort them out I arrange for all my guests (me gathering up everyone I’ve spoke to at the hotel to congregate here so there’s no room for the cheeky fuckers?! Or I’m open to other suggestions I’m not above tell youngest to dirty protest in the pool if needed 😂

I am so constipated and live on movicol to keep things moving. I keep seeing people say to eat chia seeds, but how do you prepare them? I tried just adding them straight to my morning yogurt but that made me even more constipated that week. Should I be soaking them?

I've got a anklet for a Monica V and it's gone a bit dull looking. I can't find that cloth that came with it.
What can I do to make it shiny again?

My mom has a husband she's been with for about 12 years, they're in their 60s.

He has a sister and their father recently died after a very difficult few years of Alzheimer's disease (he was physically combative on the daily).

This sister (in front of everyone) told her mom that if a person gets a diagnosis such as Alzheimer's it is the person's responsibility that they don't become a burden on their loved ones and they should end their life. I cannot imagine saying that to anyone but especially my parents.

This is the fifth thread discussing the case Prince Harry (and 6 others) brought against the Daily Mail (Associated Newspapers Limited; ANL) for alleged unlawful information gathering (UIG).
The claimants were: Prince Harry (PH); Doreen Lawrence (DL); Liz Hurley (EH/LH); Elton John (EJ); David Furnish (DF); Simon Hughes (SH); Sadie Frost (SF). They were represented by David Sherborne (DS).
The defendant (ANL) was represented by Anthony White (AMW).

Judgement was handed down by Judge Nicklin on 7th July 2026.
All claims were dismissed.
Links to the summary and full judgement are below.
We are currently awaiting decisions around costs, with the next hearing due on 29-30th July.

The threads to date were thorough discussions of the evidence (so far as we were able to obtain it), with posters giving links and explaining their views.
Following the judgement, we discussed the judgement itself, the reaction, statements made by different parties and ongoing relevant issues.

We have mostly kept things civil by avoiding more general discussion on Royal Family members, which can become partisan, and trying not to be derailed from the main topic of the thread.

We have occasionally included (when things slowed with the title case) other cases or discussions with a specific theme of free speech/press freedom, particularly when related to those with money or power preventing others from speaking.

Links to previous threads
Thread 1
Thread 2
Thread 3
Thread 4

There was limited direct reporting from court after the celebrities gave evidence; what there we followed on this link
Sky news link to court case

Summary judgement

Full judgement

Hi - we are considering moving our children (in-year transfer) to Montpelier Primary School in Ealing W5, and would love to hear from parents currently sending their little ones there, to understand if they are happy with the school, teachers, behaviour of children and school's approach to discipline and dealing with children with behavioural issues, and other fellow parents. Also whether they have many interesting school trips (museums, theatres, fieldtrips) and after school clubs. I have heard mixed reviews from parents who moved their children out of that school, and read mixed reviews on other sites. The school was not able to arrange a tour so difficult to decide based on limited information from the website. Thank you

Previous thread. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/world-cup-2026/5553352-fifa-world-cup-2026-discussion-and-watchalong-thread-part-6?page=8&reply=153551255

Let the conversation continue.

Hello,

My DS is off to university in September and staying in the student halls of residence. I’m trying to make a list of items that I will need to buy for him if anyone can help with this please?

Duvet/mattress protector/ duvet cover/ fitted sheets/ laundry basket/desk light. Some decorative items for bedroom.

Bathroom bin/ toiletries holder/ toothbrush cup/towels/shower mat.

Cutlery/plates/bowls/utensils/ grater/meat thermometer/ storage tubs.

Laptop which will be his birthday present in August.

Am I missing anything?

Thanks

That sounds horrible but hear me out. DH is disabled. It’s fairly recent and we’re all still adjusting I dare say.

Work has adjusted to him working from home permanently. Because of his disability he has to sit in a specially adapted chair. There’s no room for it in any of the bedrooms upstairs so he’s in the lounge.

Since he’s sleeping badly at night he is working when he can. He was working until 8 o clock last night. We have young children and I am sick to death of having a husband who is there in all but name.

I know there’s no easy answers. I’m just sharing because it’s so difficult to talk about in RL without sounding an arse but truth is I’m sick of the sight of him!

Looking for shoe inspiration to go with this dress: https://www.heritageclothings.com/collections/brand-new/products/pre-order-zene-purple-maxi-dress

It's for a christening in the summer and I don't want really high heels for comfort reasons (unless they're unbelievably stunning, in which case I'll push through). I'm 5'5". I'm important in the service so it can be something dramatic.

This rose was an 80th birthday present for my mum. Unfortunately it has sat, unloved, in her garden for the past year, following my Dad’s death and her move to a care home. I’ve been clearing the house and decided to bring it home with me to try to revive it. Please, oh wise women: what would you recommend that I do? (Photos incoming) Thank you!

My 14 yo daughter is very up and down. Recently she has self harmed twice though on both occasions has played it down afterwards, not wanted to get help. I took her to the GP today who was lovely and has sent us some online self help and will send an ADHD questionnaire (her teacher suspected ADD then she seemed ok during Covid and after an unrelated school move so we didn’t pursue a diagnosis.)

My question is - has anyone had a young teen who self harmed and it resolved or is it always a harbinger of worse problems to come? The GP will see her again in a month and decide whether to refer to CAMHS which I understand can be a long process. We are fortunate in that we could pay privately for therapy etc which she has so far declined. I’d want advice on what type of therapy may be beneficial as well.

Hi all this is just following on from this thread:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5554153-dh-friends-want-to-discuss-me-i-want-to-be-there-aibu-tw?page=1

Thank you for your support there 💐

I don't know if I'm supposed to summarize the above thread? If so I will try. Sorry.

I don't know if my marriage can actually recover from this and it's confusing as DH is very sorry, right now but won't attend therapy and won't give me a decent apology. Instead he's said he'd cook us steak tonight and I want to throw his stupid pack of steak in his face! Steak isn't going to solve this is it?

I'm in this anger stage.
Past the shock.
Just furious.
Until I panic and think maybe I'm overreacting
Because maybe he did mean well and maybe I should be greatful for him 'protecting me'.... then I swing back to anger.

Can I ask, genuinely, if you were me, would this be marriage ending?

Trying to work out if I’m missing something.

Our neighbour has 20+ animals. One of their cats started coming to us about 10 months ago. She was really skinny when she first started coming over and absolutely riddled with fleas. We started feeding her because she looked hungry and the neighbour had previously said it was fine if the cats came round.
Fast forward and she’s basically lived here ever since. I don’t mean she visits for meals. I mean day and night. Sleeps here, follows us round, is with us all the time. She’s become incredibly attached to us and my children adore her.

The downside is she brought a horrendous flea infestation with her. Our house has been absolutely crawling despite repeated treatments. I’ve spent a fortune trying to sort it. I even rang the vet to ask what the options were and they said they could prescribe treatment, but obviously she’s not registered to us.

So I went to the neighbour and said, look, if the answer’s no then just tell me straight away, I completely understand, but would you consider letting us take ownership so we can get her treated properly?

She became really hostile. She said “they’re mine”, “I didn’t think you’d feed them”, “my other animals don’t have fleas” and “I can’t get near her to flea her because she’s always at yours.”

I also said the cat is covered in fleas, our house is covered in fleas and she’s ended up sleeping outside for the last week because we can’t let her in while trying to get on top of the infestation. I appreciate she may well have felt criticised by that. Equally… those are the reasons I was having the conversation in the first place.

What I can’t get my head round is this: if this is really her cat, why has she never once looked for her in 8 months? Never knocked, never asked where she was, never seemed remotely bothered until I asked about ownership.

I wasn’t demanding the cat. I specifically said I’d accept a no. I just thought after us feeding her for months, dealing with the fleas and caring for her, there might at least be a conversation.
Instead I just got hostility.

AIBU to think the reaction was bizarre? Or can people genuinely be that defensive when they feel criticised… not one word about the wellbeing of the cat!

Staying in a lovely 5* hotel for 2 nights. Total treat, it's lovely.

Yesterday we went out for the day. Came back around 3pm and there were hotel staff in our room showing people around. They wanted to book the place for a wedding. They were right in the room, the woman was in the bathroom looking around. The man had opened the wardrobe.

I asked them immediately to leave and they did but they took their time about it, actually standing by the door commenting on how the room was a bit small. I nearly had to push them out and close the door.

We spoke to the reception staff later and they said it's common to let people look around occupied hotel rooms.

Really? Is this common? Right in the room opening wardrobes, not just putting their heads round the door for a quick look?

We got offered a free drink to compensate.

It's still bugging me this morning. I want to go to reception and make clear to them that no-one is to go in our room. Dh says I'm making a fuss. Cleaners go in there every day so this is no different.

I'm interested to hear if this is indeed normal and I'm over-reacting by being bothered by it?

I'll be wondering all day if someone is looking round our bedroom.

Big Foo Fighters fan and always wanted to purchase one of their hoodies. I do own a couple of FF already... I've had my eye on this Foo Fighters sweatshirt for a few years and have nearly bought it several times. I really like the colour and the overall design, but I've always been a bit unsure about the bullet graphic on the back.

I'm curious what both other Foo Fighters fans think and general music / fashion people think. Do you see the bullet as just part of the band's artwork and aesthetic, or does it come across as a bit controversial? Has it ever put you off buying or wearing this sweatshirt, or am I overthinking it?

https://shopuk.foofighters.com/products/winged-bomb-crewneck-sweatshirt

I'm really upset and cross with my DD's dance school. Every year, they do two shows - a Summer and a Winter. For the last 3 years I have volunteered as a chaperone at all of these shows. Typically, I look after a group of maybe 6 or 8 children including my own daughter, supporting them with costume changes, pastoral, nipping to the loo. As DD's grown older and needed less support, I've helped out with different age groups and acted as a 'floater' with the little ones. It is completely voluntary and many parents don't ever chaperone a show.

DD enjoys the shows and has worked hard to be in it, so she is taking part again at the weekend. My chaperone licence needed renewing, costing me just over £18. I applied to the dance school to reimburse me this cost - it is a specific Chaperone License and can only be used for this dance school - and they've said no. I feel so hurt and upset. I will be giving about 12 hours of my time to support the show weekend, on top of well over 100 hours over the last 3 years.

They will probably buy all the chaperones a keyring or mug to say thanks but are completely refusing to cover this cost incurred. I honestly want to phone in sick on the days now, but I do enjoy the time backstage with my daughter.

If they had to pay chaperones it would be upwards of £20 per hour and they'd need about 20 for the dance school of 300 girls.

On top of this there's no discount for the show fee, the DVD is £20+ (I can't watch the show from the audience as, ya know, backstage!) and there's rarely so much as a packet of biscuits provided. I need to let it go, but I feel really angry, unappreciated and hurt.

Should I raise it with the school, or just quietly stop volunteering?

I like them but I'm not sure if I can carry them off. I'm square, ordered them in a 32 x 32. They're Levi's baggy dad cargo.
In the description the model is wearing them with a cropped t-shirt - that's never going to happen! Too much belly (tbh, look a little pregnant. I'm not) Can they be worn with a normal T-shirt? Will I have to consider sleeveless?
Will they look ridiculous on a middle aged mum?

I just can't believe this is happening again.

Some of you may remember the show called "my big fat gypsy wedding" on channel 4 from years ago. It did absolutely awful damage to my community (Romany gypsy). It was complete and utter trash and majority of those featured weren't even gypsies.

Well they're at it again.

They are advertising a new show, something along the lines of "secret lives of gypsy wives". Yet the star of the show is a social media influencer (?) named Trewly Precious who is neither of those things. I think her father was a gypsy but she wasn't raised in the community and she isn't married.

Why are they doing this to us? There are so many amazing gypsy women who could have shown what it's really like to be a modern day gypsy. Yet they have once again chosen entertainment value over the reputation of a community who are already marginalised and hated by a large portion of the public. AIBU to be so angry about this?

I am starting a business hosting children’s birthday parties.

I do not have any children myself and so I would appreciate some input from others regarding how much you pay on average for your child’s parties and the maximum that you would spend on a 2 hour party.

Thank you!