What's the weirdest thing you've seen on a CV? I received one in application for a job and they had put a hobbies section in which they'd listed "smoking".

Hi everyone, I’m hoping some people on here might be able to help me with my wardrobe woes!

I’ve recently put on quite a bit of weight and am now a 14-16. I hate all of my clothes and just feel frumpy all the time. I’m only 25 so I’d like some age appropriate outfits that still fit my style.
I have a £500 ish budget to refresh my wardrobe and buy some items I really like.
I hate anything that shows my tummy or clings to my tummy. I feel like everything I find is for an older woman and just makes me look like I’m trying to wear my mother’s clothes!

I love things that are loose and flowy. Also would love some jeans recommendations that don’t cling right to the tummy and highlight it!

any colours but pink is my favourite. Happy with any patterns etc etc but again nothing that makes me feel like someone’s gran.

im after personal clothes and also some office outfits as I work in a corporate role.

please please please give me lots of recommendations of anything you think I may like!

cross posted here to hopefully get more advice!

Where does everyone keep wet towels.
changed the radiator in the bathroom so it’s no longer going to look like Dunelm with 4 massive bath sheets on it.
We don’t have an airing cupboard.

I don’t really want them dumped in bedrooms.
what’s the solution. A rail? A rack? Some hooks?

I personally don't think it's that bad??

https://www.dailymail.com/sport/football/article-15876347/Norway-World-Cup-photoshoot-Viking-Erling-Haaland.html

Obviously nothing excuses the pillaging all those years ago, etc etc

I have 3 wonderful children (9, 4, 2wks)
Newborn is as expected very wakeful at night and I am struggling to find a way to get enough sleep.

When DH was on paternity leave he was getting up with baby and our older kids in the mornings so that I could get some more sleep.When things were really tough and baby was up literally most of the night (first few nights) we shared the feeding abit as baby is combination fed.
However he is back at work now (went back afew days ago) and he works outside the home 30mins drive each way and has a physical job, so needs to be getting a relatively okay amount of sleep.
He leaves the house at 7.30 and has to get ready first from 7ish, so can't do alot first thing.Our daughters are usually asleep until I wake them 7.30ish anyway.Baby has been sleeping til around then too but will do stretches ranging from 1-3 hours and is sometimes up for awhile inbetween (could be 30mins, could be 2hrs on a bad night)
We agreed DH would take baby late evening (giving him a bottle of formula and once settled watch him downstairs until he comes upto bed at 10.30/11 time for me to get a head start sleeping) but it's not working out very well as both our daughters have late bedtimes plus our youngest is 4 and needs alot of assistance to settle, so obviously he can't juggle that and seeing to baby, so until she is asleep I can't go to bed, and then once i've had a shower etc and actually got ready for bed the time just goes and sometimes baby wakes again and wants the comfort of breastfeeding.

I am getting an hour or two 11ish-1ish then usually 2-3 hours 2ish-5ish, then maybe another hour between then and when I have to get up to get the girls ready for school.
It is averaging about 5hrs of broken sleep a night which isn't sustainable if I want to drive further/do more than just going to school runs or into town, plus just generally manage day to day without feeling knackered.
DH is home weekends so that will be fine as I can have a lie-in, it's just the weekdays when I have to get up for the school run/routine.

I am wondering what everyone else does who has multiple children and a DH who works out the home so needs at least 6/7hrs sleep too....when we had our middle child, our eldest was already at school so I could at least get some sort of opportunity each day to catch up on sleep.
I have always tried to follow the 'sleep when baby sleeps' rule as much as i can, but with multiple children it's not often that simple- youngest is home with me 2x days a week and i have school and nursery run times to work around.

Also baby does not always sleep much in the day, for example today i've been home just me and him 10am til now, but he has literally only had a couple of half an hour slots (so i managed 20mins sleep but that's it!)
Have tried a dummy as think he likes comfort sucking, but he tends to keep spitting it out/dropping it.

Last weekend we got an Indian takeaway with family who were visiting. Everyone chose their food and I ordered it.

Some people decided they wanted to try others food, everyone was ok with that but I asked that people didn’t use the same utensils for the vegan dishes and meat dishes because I’m vegan and didn’t want meat in my food.

I thought this was a normal, fair and easy request but a couple of my family members started saying I was being over the top and asking what I thought would happen if some meat got in my food. I said I didn’t want to eat meat or animal products, even tiny amount, not that I thought anything would happen. They accused me of ruining the evening. I didn’t. I asked them, they caused a fuss, I explained my reasons and then carried on with the night. Everyone else got on with the night but these 2 spent the evening making sarcastic comments towards me and ignoring me at times.

Would you have had an issue with using separate utensils to put some of the vegan food on your plate, would you have seen it as ‘over the top’ or just been courteous and used different utensils with no fuss?

We are seeing this family member again next month. Lucky us. We will likely get a takeaway again and I’m thinking of just saying hands off and no one can try mine. 😬

Even when you present them with pretty undeniable proof they wants to do it they just say "lefty propaganda, he said he won't" - well of course he says he won't it would cost him the election.

Hi,
As promised, here is the new thread.

All are welcome to chat about all things Toast, and any related topics!

Just wanted opinions here!

FTM. My newborn is 12 weeks old - he is a bundle of joy. It has just dawned on me that I have bought everything for him; from sudocream, to cots, to prams - all clothes, the full works. My hormones are settling and I am starting to see things a bit clearer. I worked until 36 weeks. Professional career.

I use coffee / nicorette (ex/smoker) (!) to keep me awake during all the nights feeds as I do those too. Essentially, I asked my husband to go and buy me those two things to get me through the night shift - I noticed he had transferred £30 for it from our joint account to his account? I was like what the hell? I pointed out I had paid for everything else. Is he taking the piss?!

AIBU?

So I think I’ve found the one.
i wanted a floor length gown, it needs taking up
not normally my colour but liked it.

not loving the fascinator so will choose something else

happy to take thoughts/feedback as I am so bad at choosing

Cheddar cheese just tastes better to me if you grate it first and then eat it in little squished up balls of grated cheese 🤣

What else tastes better when you change its shape but don’t do anything else to it?

Name changed for obvious reasons but I’ve been around for a long while.

I suppose I’m just looking for an anonymous handhold/solidarity as no one in real life I can talk to.
After a couple years of not dating at all and just having a great little life with my dd I met someone nice at a work conference, lives close to me. Handsome, funny, patient etc.
Huge tummy flips when I see him, great chemistry etc.
Anyway, he said something in conversation about an ex partner that kind of pricked up my ears, so I did a Clare’s Law request. Police called me within 24 hours and did the disclosure the next day (today).
It was so so upsetting, the poor woman all this stuff happened to. And there are incidents reported over 2/3 years so not something isolated (not that it would make it better).
He has no convictions because charges were dropped before it went to court on every occasion.

I had an abusive relationship years ago, and have rebuilt my life and confidence. I didn’t even want a serious partner, and never want to marry or for anyone to meet my dd (he hasn’t thank god)

I feel so dizzy and sick, and sad and disgusted at myself that these men are attracted to me, and me to them.

He has been perfection over the past few months, a perfect gent, kind and funny etc etc so I really would have had no idea if my spider senses didn’t start tingling a few days ago.

He’s working away today thankfully so I have space to process without texting or calls from him. I just feel frightened and confused.

sorry for the ramble

That made you think - what a knob! And that you are well rid of them!

lighthearted thread -

I’ll go first -

Recently my ex changed his profile picture to this wanky AI generated image of him in the middle with a halo and two angels either side… he actually gave himself a halo 🤣 What a knobhead! Like he was Jesus 😳(He was a massive narcissist. My ex. Not Jesus)

What are the wankiest things your ex has ever done?

DD, 17, only eats ‘clean’. She eats like this because she says she feels much better on it, and for her that’s a priority above all else. And, to be fair to her, she’s thriving. Doing well at alevels, volunteering, working, and generally a wonderfully bright and joyous person to be around. This is in stark contrast to the gcse years with school refusal, period pains, excessive sleeping, no homework completed ever.
if it’s relevant, and so as not to drip feed, she ticks every adhd box at the top, but not diagnosed although we’re 4 years in now on the nhs list, and she’s got through the first few stages, and probably autism, but is able to mask so much, that that isn’t noticeable to the outside world.
daily menu for her would be steak, eggs, salmon, about 4 different fruits/veg, honey, all organic, and meat/fish/eggs only cooked in a special non Teflon pan with tallow. Drinks are filtered water only, and a hot drink with ginger, lemon.
I didn’t think this was too bad, expensive yes but I can afford it, but many of her peers are eating junk on the daily, and drinking alcohol, so compared to that, I feel like she’s ok. Yes, I know there’s lots in between that and balance would be key but I can’t force any near adult to eat, and certainly not DD for whom telling her what to do has the exact opposite effect.
anyway. On here last night, i discovered there’s a diagnosis for this - orthorexia, and it scared me. Oh, one last thing, it doesn’t stop her eating out socially, she’ll order steak and chips and I’ll eat her chips.

If someone turns up for a pedicure and they've got nasty yellow fungal toenails, will they be shown the door?

Asking for a close friend.

I’ve seen these four dresses and love them, but the cheapest is £42 and that’s a lot of money.

I really want a good collection of 4 or 5 beautiful summer dresses that I can wear for work, on holiday, at the weekend etc.

I am a size 18, not too confident about my arms but also I want to stop hiding them just because of silly insecurities.

I’ve got a bit of an apron belly so like to hide that with floaty skirts.

Any recommendations welcome!

32 f and hate underwire. Keep getting ads for jelly bra on my social media feed but don’t know anyone who has one. Anyone out there recommend them and if so a particular brand? Or anyone tried them
and would not recommend?

So sad rip

I need help please...

I have been invited to an amazing birthday celebration that is entitled 'An Evening of Garden Glamour and Disco'. There are cocktails and afternoon tea followed by a live big band and then a 'Disco with a Difference'. Venue is rural, think farm with events barn.

The Dress Code is 'Garden Disco Glam - English elegance meets Ibiza after dark.'

I am 5' 8" and a size 10/12, age 57 but with a mum tum so won't get away with anything bodycon or tight fitting. Budget would be around £100 but could stretch to £150 for something fabulous. Don't have big boobs but really need to wear a bra to deal with sagginess.

Can you lovely ladies suggest anything that would fit this theme as I am a bit stumped?

Thanks in advance 🙂

I have approached my husband about a 3rd baby even though he has had a vasectomy. We currently have 2 children aged 3 and 5 and he had his vasectomy a year after our youngest was born. I now regret it and thinking back I wasn't really in the right frame of mind to decide whether I wanted more children or not as I was sleep deprived and busy with 2 very young children. At first he was a straight no when I approached him but it's actually really affected me more than I thought. I decided to send him an email with all my thoughts and feelings and he said he has read it and needs some time to think and will let me know when he is ready to talk. I can't help but feel he is just going to say the same as he said before but he wants me to think he's had time to consider when really it's just going to be a no. I am looking for anyone who has been in a similar boat and before anyone tells me how lucky and grateful I should be for my current two children- I absolutely am and couldn't be happier with them but I just feel incomplete.

I need an outsiders opinion.

I need an outsiders opinion please.

I live at home with an aging parent. She's is going senile but she's not diagnosed. I am the only one at home seeing it and living it and nobody understands it. Other people would like to see a little old lady forget things but she has a lot of behavioural and emotional issues and odd behaviours and paranoia and confusion and other stuff.

This week has been particularly bad from her. Maybe it's a UTI in her but I am not able to manage utis in her because she is so definant and argumentative.

Anyways there was a situation a few months ago where something happened to one of my brothers. It's a civil situation between my brother and another individual. My brother rang my mother once this year and raged down the phone to her about the other person. My mother absorbed all that anger from him and mad either her own.

My mother doesn't know how to use the internet and asked me to checked something for her online and I did that. However I never knew it was going to turn into months of an obsession from her. Basically checking on the other person who wronged her son and literally stalking him. Or getting me to do it because she doesn't know how to use the internet. Several times a week. Her hate is deranged and she's not going to stop until that man harms himself into catching the bus. No way does what he did warrant this and her response. It's a civil wrong where he built a garage on my brother slamd without permission but the garage can be dismantled again.

It's a civil situation between my brother who lives abroad and nother person. My brother was so angry he never once spoke to the other person or his solicitor. The situation is still ongoing.

Out mother parked herself into the middle of it and she has become obsessed and wants me to do her requests of stalking and will not stop.

The woman is nothing more but senile and I am caught in the middle of this. It's so so so hard.

I work in care and that also brings many different challagnes. I have been subjected to many different temper tantrums today. It's so so so so hard.

Then everything together. It's so so so so so so hard.

Anyways I was booked for babysitting a few weeks ago by a couple that I know and at the time I accepted. I am due to babysit on Saturday. It is something that I would love to help them with however I have had a week of f*cking hell from everyone else dumping on me. The people I babysit for thinks and has said it many times to me, they think my care work is babysitting. It's anything and everything but. I regularly get assaulted from other people's outbursts.

I want to get on a bus somewhere on Saturday morning when I get a day off and go away. Sit down somewhere, possibly even check into a hotel and drink a bottle of wine.

It's so so so hard.

My head is so sore but I have to keep on going. Everyone is dumping on me and it's like being hammered without one person physically hurting me.

The obsession and hate from my mother is unreal and it's so hard. It's so hard to find a place to rent as well.

Would it bad of me to cancel babysitting so that I could escape on Saturday. Just run away and escape. If the children were older I could manage it better but they are younger.

I am not in a good place mentally due to everyone else dumping shit on me. I am not in a place to sit down and play with a three year old and a few years older and stay up late until they go to bed.

I want to find a hotel lobby and eat a meal in peace, drink wine and do some crochet and read a book. And maybe even check in for a night.

There are hundreds of tailored waistcoats in the shops.
Some are obviously too sexy, strappy, cropped, gaping at the navel. Some are smart looking, crew neck, high arm holes, long line. But somehow bare arms put me off. Nothing to do with arms, I am pretty toned, but I would not want a male colleague rocking up in a muscle vest, and these somehow feel disrespectful. What are your opinions on these? One example - Whistles Molly.

Inspired by some other threads (NC alert) I’ve decided the time is ripe for an overhaul/glow up. My plan is to make significant changes over a period of time and do a new one each month whilst keeping the old changes- nothing revolutionary but needed and I hope to get long term benefits/results.

at the moment my diet is pretty crap-which will be my next focus - the first was a new hairdo (which is a change and growing on me!), then multi vitamins, then 2L of water each day then a form of exercise each week.

In the short term before as I’m making bigger adjustments I’m hoping to get some advice on what are the likely to be the most significant gains to look like me but better.
I don’t like the feel of acrylics and currently don’t wear any make up.

Obviously not made with beef and Yorkshire puddings.

I have started following the Mediterranean diet, which a couple of friends also do, and we were chatting about it. Somehow I also mentioned that I’d had a roast dinner on Sunday, which was deemed now following the diet. I know I can break it whenever I like, but surely this does follow the ‘rules’.

Skinless chicken breast, new potatoes (boiled), carrots and broccoli roast with olive oil, sweetcorn, peas, and cabbage, with gravy.

Maybe the gravy doesn’t fit but surely this largely does follow the Mediterranean diet? Is it just because it’s such a British meal that it’s not deemed good enough?

The saga continues