This might shock some people, but calling someone a RW grifter who looks like a man while they're still struggling with themselves and refusing to listen to them only gives them the very few support systems.
People are fucking vile when you detransition, especially if you're FTM, it's disgusting and leaves you feeling like your skin's been scoured off your body by the people who draped it over your shoulders. You're left naked and ridiculed for the gentlest push back, and the only people who WILL listen are those with an agenda.
This is entirely a problem of their own making. Stop responding to dentransitioners as problems to be shut up, accept they didn't exist when gatekeeping medicalization of trans care occurred, and they'll stop turning to the only people listening to them.
You lose EVERYONE when you express the slightest doubt. You have to apologize and apologize and apologize and you're still dunked on by mental toddlers who mock you with idiot silly hurhur memes, and have zero medical or mental health care. ZERO. As in get ready to be fired as a patient and have NO ONE who knows what to do about your body.
You and people like you did this. You are the radicalizing agents.
I was fired as a patient for not wanting to medicalize. In a delicate and uncomfortable mental health situation that I knew HRT wouldn't help, and starting to question things. When I expressed this, I was told, explicitly, that I would kill myself and the clinic made me sign papers stating that I wouldn't, despite never expressing suicidality.