Felt so fat shamed!

[DottyMcDiet]

SW 128kg
CW 91kg
TW 75kg

I went out for dinner with some colleagues last night and a couple of people commented on how ‘good’ I was being with just a salad and kept offering me things and sharing side dishes.

I politely declined and said I hadn’t lost 30kg without avoiding some things.
Ive actually lost 37kg but rounded it down.

My colleagues were obviously shocked at how much I’d lost and I felt embarrassed at how large I’d been.

One really lovely colleague said “that’s half of me” 😳

At work today my boss asked if she’d heard right that I’d lost 3 stones and I and I had to correct her.

I wish I’d kept my trap shut, I looked at a photo of me in my work uniform last May, just before I started Mounjaro, and I was enormous! I’m so ashamed.

Don’t feel ashamed - you’ve achieved something amazing and whilst maybe the comments came across as insensitive, I think they were from a good place with your colleagues, trying to recognise your accomplishments. I’ve lost 6 stone and when I look back im horrified at how I was but it makes me proud of how far I’ve come. Try to channel it positively and stay strong!

You should be proud.
It's phenomenal

Good for you

There's nothing to be ashamed of at all. You were fat. It's not a crime.

There's really no moral aspect to being fat. It's not like knifing someone or nicking money off elderly neighbours or abusing animals (sorry just the last three news stories I read). There's just nothing to be ashamed of at all. It's a morally neutral thing.

You've done bloody great!

I don't think this is fat shaming, they were just shocked at how much you've lost. I expect they never thought you looked like you weighed 30kg more than you do now. I would say they meant 'wow that's amazing you've lost so much' not 'JC you were massive'.

Though truthfully, I've never actually told anyone how much I lost - I never talk about it and am embarrassed when people mention it to me as I also feel shame that I was obese. However I know that's all my own beliefs and not how others see it.

You've done bloody amazing, you're on the home straight now!

I said something similar to someone I hadn't seen for a few years. She'd lost so much weight that I didn't recognise her. When she told me who she was, she said "I've lost eight stone" and I said "That's a whole person!". I can promise you that I was in awe of her being able to lose that much. You should be very proud of yourself. Take those comments as compliments.

I’m not sure they were fat shaming you to be honest. I get the embarassment though, I lost over 6 and a half stone and tell people 4. I am not sure why they can see me, they could see me, it’s not something we can hide, and I know if I said over six and a half everyone would be shocked. But again, I’m not sure that shock is fat shaming really.

It's funny. Ive lost 8 stone and when I've had someone not recognised me my brain is like wtf? It's me. Im the same person.. but I must look so different from 18 months ago..

Im sure they didn't mean any thing bad by it. Just its a shock to some.

Thanks All 🙏
My boss showed me an unflattering photo of herself that she keeps in her office, I think I’ll do the same of the one I saw today but only where no one else can see it!

Yeah I’d take the compliment. However I hate it when people go on about my food choices, just let me eat what I wanna eat without pressure and constant questions

@QueefQueen80s LOL. I get ya.. just let me eat my plain chicken breast and boiled egg in peace. Haha

I think it's because sometimes people see you but don't really see what YOU see. We are our worst critics. I've lost 16 kgs and very few people say anything. I had a breast reduction years ago and so many people said oh I didn't realise. I hadn't noticed . You were good at dressing to hide it. 🤷‍♀️

Exactly 🤣