Both fifties with teens and adult children. Home owners, full time employees, close family and friend relationships, shared and individual hobbies.
We met in the wild, clicked and are enjoying seeing one another once or twice per week due to distance; an hour drive to each others homes and no interest in meeting kids yet.
My husband had affairs and was generally a useless husband and father. He has no relationship with our kids .. his and their choice.
My boyfriend left with his adult/ teen kids as his wife was an active alcoholic for many years who has/ had no interest in trying to stop. She is dying. His children have no relationship with her, one has significant mental health issues as a result ( acc to professional medics)
It’s none of my business and I am trying to enjoy what’s right in front of me but I find myself thinking about his ex wife and feeling deeply saddened for her.
she has lost everything she had lived and now she is actively dying. He will always love her and feels so sad also but then he is quite pragmatic too. He’s 100% supported by his and her family, his children and all their mutual friends and professional team and in moments when f guilt and sadness, is reassured that he did 100# the right thing for his children, his own self and their futures
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I find myself wondering why a successful, committed mother and wife who I’ve been told loved marriage and family life could so sadly slide into chronic addiction despite all the supports, love, stints in rehab.
Some people who know her speak badly of her because of her dangerous actions when under the influence but there must have been a reason for the level of drinking.
Sometimes I wonder if it was his fault but then her own family and siblings don’t speak
to her anymore either and she has lost all of her friends too.
I find it very sad.