What is going on ??

[Jadie44]

My partner of 2 years had a bad back. I offer es help which he never took me up on. Ignored me for nearly 2 days and then sent me this text Yes, I'm doing well, but frankly, I'm disappointed. My back hurt so much I couldn't do anything for 10 days. My daughter came every day to bring me meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Her mother also wanted to come and clean every other day, but I refused, and she hired a cleaning lady to do it. I so wish you had supported me a little more.
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Sounds like he has enough females running around after him without you doing so too.

He ignored you for two days ?

Yes

Not enough context really.

What did he say when you pointed out you did offer?

And why did his daughter end up helping instead?

He never responded to my offers of help.
‘ignored my calls and than sent me that message

He sounds like hard worth. He can't be worth it surely.

No he’s not

Maybe he expected you to just be there as support without being told what to do. I guess he felt that you weren’t as bothered about him as his mum and daughter were

He expected you to be telepathic OP and is very upset that you didn't mop his fevered brow, fanning him with ostrich feathers whilst feeding him grapes.

Personally I would channel my inner FU and block him. He's not a partner he's just another abusive manipulative twat and who actually wants one of them? Release him back into the pond and find someone (or not) who enhances your life and brings you joy.

If he was incapacitated for 10 days and ignored you for 2 days, does that mean it took you 8 days to offer any help? I can see why that might have irritated him tbh.

Sorry if I've got hold of the wrong end of the stick.

When did you offer to help OP? Was it two days ago? how often do you normally see each other?

If he’s had help for the past ten days and if your offer was made 8 days into that he might be feeling like you left it a little late?

That said I’d be put off by the silent treatment. I’d probably consider ending it if someone gave me the silent treatment for two days then sent me a text like that.

Wait a few days and text 'three women running around after you is plenty, thanks. I don't date sulkers, bye'

reply message :
‘Sounds like there are quite a lot of women running around supporting you, now I realise that I am glad you ignored all my calls to offer help. They’ll be in your call records if you’ve somehow forgotten. I was upset but think it’s for the best. Get well soon.’

and block

He sounds like a knob. leave him to his disappointment, move on.

Jeez, the entitlement of men! He’s history OP, you can be happy without this shit.

if he’s been lying in bed unable to move for 10 days it’s hard to fathom why he’d need either his mother or a cleaning lady to come around every second day to clean the presumably untouched house.

I offered my help straightaway and he never took me up on it. To make things worse he told me his ex wife organised a Cleaner out of kindness!!!

He sounds extremely over-pampered and I’d say you’re best off without a partner who is this high-maintenance, and also childish enough not to speak to you for two days.

Good point! A nurse would have been more appropriate, if he really had been confined to his bed. 🧐

OP, he's trying to make you feel guilty (unjustified, since you offered help right at the beginning), AND he's trying to incite you into a pick-me dance against his ex.

He's sounds like a manipulative whiny man-child who thinks women are there to serve and pamper men. Maybe you should throw this one back into the sea.

I’m a bit sceptical about 10 days in bed with a bad back. Was that on doctor’s orders, or self-diagnosed?

Health professionals usually recommend getting up for gentle activity as soon as possible, because 10 days in bed would make most ‘bad backs’ worse.

He is showing you his true colours Jadie44. He has zero respect and love for you.

You have a choice now, to accept him as a manipulative cunt or cut him loose.

What do you want to do about him?

Hello, Glad you are better.
For info I offered XYZ, on ABC days.
You ignored, no reply.
How should I have proceeded? actually, I don't want an answer.
This is over.

Thank you this made me laugh.

Why didn’t he just go amd See an osteopath and get his back sorted out like Most women woild Do? We can’t have 10 days of doing f all!

just reply fuck off to him and block