‘I am wanting/ they are wanting’ is the new ‘myself/ yourself’

[PinkMagpie]

I’ve noticed a real thing of people saying ‘I am wanting’ rather than ‘I want’

It seems like an attempt to over complicate a simple phrase to make it sound posher, as with people who say ‘myself’ rather than me. An attempt to sound important and professional that actually has the opposite effect because you’re messing up the grammar.

It’s fine to speak in simple, correct English and say ‘I want’ and ‘me.’

It’s the trying to sound fancy and getting things grammatically wrong that makes people sound daft.

I was just wanting to point that out 😆

YANBU

I hate it

Actually this is not a grammar mistake at all.
"want" is a stative verb, meaning a state of mind or an abiding condition or situation.
If you change it to "wanting" then you change the meaning specifically to something temporary. It means in this case, it's something that has occurred to you and which you wish to amend so that the "want" will disappear..
The meaning is exactly the same as "I am looking for" and the reason people use it is to emphasise this temporary requirement and invite suggestions how to resolve it.
I mean, you don't often go into Boots and say "hello, I want some scissors" because that's quite abrupt. You'd say "I'm looking for" because there's an invitation to staff to help. "I'm wanting" functions the same, but your response to it is of a conservative thinker not enjoying the increasing preference of using it. In other words you are averse to change.

You're welcome. 😊

Indeed.

Can I add, people referring their "eldest" and "youngest" when they only have two children.

Yes but also
People criticising alleged language mistakes of others via the medium of making their own mistakes!!!

Check yer post!

@MrMucker will the want disappear as soon as you find the scissors though? Will you not want the scissors after you’ve found them?

I’d like to add people using ‘bring’ when they mean ‘take’.

‘He said he won’t bring me to my mums next week. Is he BU?’ Possibly, but so are you with your heinous grammar.

I haven’t come across this. Could you give examples of its usage? People are going into Costa and saying ‘I’m wanting a matcha latte’?

YANBU.

“Wanting” is just as bad as “gifting”

Makes me irrationally angry !!!

MrMucker is correct. “I am wanting” is not incorrect grammar. And to answer your question, yes, you are no longer wanting the scissors if you already have them. “Want” implies a lack.

“Myself” on the other hand is incorrect grammar when used as an object pronoun. I used to find this irritating until I realised language is a tool for communication, and as long as one can understand somebody’s message, it doesn’t really matter whether or not they use the right words in the right order.

It’s very “new grad real estate agent”. 😅

‘GIFTING’ ARRGGGHHHH.

Pretentious wank.

I like this thread, it’s very cathartic.

@chevalraye So as soon as I pick the scissors up I no longer want them?

Well it depends on the context. You are no longer wanting to find them, as you have found them. But you are presumably still wanting to buy them, and later you will be wanting to use them.

Also "I feel like" instead of "I think".

As PPs have said: not incorrect grammar. It's also a dialect thing.

'gifting' annoys me because I don't like 'to gift', but if it were a verb, then I'd not really be able to complain about 'I am gifting'.

Both wanting and myself/yourself or both common in Irish-English speech, neither are "posh"(or trying to be posh) you'd be more likely to hear it from older or country people than younger people or people trying to sound posh.

Eg. - Will you be wanting a bag with that?/Ah Mary, 'tis yourself!

My son drives me mad when he says 'Can I get' instead of 'Can I have' when I ask what he wants for tea.

My petty peeve is invite / invitation.

Invitation is the noun, it's the thing you give someone. Invite is the verb, the act of inviting someone.

You invite someone by giving them an invitation. You don't "send them an invite".

Also in agreement with a previous poster - you give someone a gift, you don't "gift" them anything.

Here endeth the lesson according to me...

"I'm liking..." annoys the living shite out of me.

Completely get that (I am from an Irish background) and the usage in Ireland is different

"May you" as in "may you send me this document?".

I'm an internal auditor at a law firm so I read loads of emails between professionals. I wish I could add not using this to my scoresheet.

But I guess all the way through this little scenario I want the scissors

But Irish usage is correct Hiberno-English and not the misuse of ‘myself’ when it should be ‘me’ usually being complained about in British English on here.

No one has actually provided an example of where they’re hearing ‘I am wanting’.

Thank you - that’s delightfully explained.

I HATE “I’m wanting”. I can’t explain why but it hits the ear all wrong.

I saw a post this week which a couple of times mentioned a baby “needing fed” and I felt the same way.