Hi all, we are in Italy, my son just turned six has just finished last year of kg, he has been friends with a girl for two years starting as best friends when they first met, after about six months another boy joined the two and him and my son had a bit of a rocky ride, at first the girl seemed to be in the middle and the two boys didn't seem to get on, the teachers became aware that the triangle has a difficult dynamic and began purposely separating the group into pairs for different activities, over time the two boys became very good friends too, but it was always a bit rocky between the three. However in the last few months whenever I have seen the three together I have seen not noce behaviours with my son ending up in tears and the other two refusing to play with him, sit near him or be friends with him. (An example was where there were at a tennis lesson together and were all given a tennis ball as a prize, they were playing with the balls and my son picked up the girls ball, she insisted that was her ball and my son told her all the balls are the same so it doesn't matter and he thinks that is his ball anyway. The girl and the other boy and the girls older brother (aged 8) all began shouting at my son that that was not his ball. My son gave her the ball and started crying, after that the girl and boy would not play with him or sit with him for he next hour - this is just to give an idea). Recently he has started to open up about things that have been happening at the kindergarten, again some examples - girl makes a bracelet for the other boy and promises to make one for my son too, she doesn't and after a week he makes one for himself, the other two tell him his bracelet is ugly and theirs are beautiful. Another day the girl and boy and another girl in the class decided he couldn't play and would run away from him. My son tells me the two often whisper and then walk away from him and he doesn't know why. One day the girl told my son that the other boy had called him stupid, but that he should shh and not saying anything to the other boy about it. They told my son he had poo on his shoes when he didn't. They tell him that they are going to go on holiday together and that he can't come (they actually aren't). At his birthday party they both refused to play with him for about an hour and wouldn't eat his cake or stand near him whilst we sang happy birthday. The list goes on. In between all of this my son will be invited to the girls house one on one and the girl will be extremely nice to him telling him she wants him to come over every day. I have to say that the friction usually happens when my son plays briefly with other children, has a playdate with another child or gets invited to a party of another child.
Fast forward to now and I witnessed on the last day of kg my son trying to play with them and then running away. The next day I emailed his school where he starts in September and asked for him to be placed in a different class than the two children. I am a bit worried that I should maybe have left is as maybe it would have just returned to normal again and maybe it is just the ebb and flow of friendships. What do you all think? Thanks so much!