Nuclear explosion is warranted right?

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I was saving an pistachio ice cream gelato sundae from Aldi. Mondays are hellish and involve me driving children here there and everywhere and visiting PIL with tired bored kids. PIL are hard work and there is backstory which basically means this is extra work I do to rescue the load on DH. DH goes out when I get back at 7 and I have to feed kids and do a quick bed turnaround. Today this is complicated by youngest child pissing in our bed this morning and having to do all the accompanying work.
He's eaten my ice cream. Pistachio is my favourite, there were two in the pack and I didn't even get the other one as it went to a visitor.
I've a choice of milk choc ice or watermelon lolly. He's doesn't even like pistachio.

YANBU, the selfish, childish sod. Is he always like this?

LTB.
Try and get a female judge -she will give you the house and his pension.
What he did was utterly unforgivable.
Or you could get his favourite thing -tell him- then hide it & eat it. Repeat this until he learns. You will probably end up being 17stone as IMHO men are slow learners.
Good luck however you decide to walk this path.

Funny, my wife did the same thing just last week (mango flavour though)
Would I be unreasonable to blow up at her?

I didn't (because I am an adult) but I would welcome your views.

That’s divorce territory right there! Revenge is sweet and best served cold! Just sayin! 🤭

Revenge is best served sweet and cold being particularly appropriate here!

🤣 omg! I hadn’t spotted that! 🤣

I'd definitely be mightily pissed off. I'd probably also be having a conversation about how Mondays are shit and why should you drag tired, bored kids to his parents when he doesn't appreciate you enough to leave your treat alone for when you get home.

I'm very interested in why you visit PIL at a time that sounds inconvenient to you the DC can't be getting much out of it if they are tired and bored.

PIL are hard work and there is backstory which basically means this is extra work I do to rescue the load on DH. DH goes out when I get back at 7 and I have to feed kids and do a quick bed turnaround.

If you are doing DH a huge favour with his parents then the very least he can do is help at feed and bedtime. If he absolutely has to go out that day then change the PIL day. This is on you to start saying "hang on, this isn't fair". As usual this isn't about the ice cream but you being taken for a mug at least once a week (probably more).

I visit then so I don't have to do it at the weekend. (Or preferably any other time). Eldest goes to an activity close to them so I bolt it onto it. It ticks a box. At some point I might change it but if I do it's more likely I'll have to use more precious time.
No he's not usually selfish. I do hide chocolate though.
He did also apologise immediately and say he thought it was mint (in which case it would have been for him because I do buy him lovely treats like that because I am awesome).
He also said he didn't realise it wasn't mint until he was halfway through it though which enrages me that he wasn't truly appreciative of the gloriousness of pistachio.
This thread will give me some nice ammo for a treat of my choice with interest.

I think an acceptable apology would be for him to pay for an all expenses paid trip to Italy to sample their pistachio gelato! 😬

Surely he goes to the nearest 24 hour supermarket and rectifies the situation? Accept copious relaration

Divorce her, OP can divorce her DH, the selfish ice cream thieves can marry and you and OP can move in and buy a huge chest freezer full of ice cream and live in bliss

That depends on what you mean by “blow up” - would you be using your male aggression and your inborn physical advantage to dominate and frighten her?

A man expressing extreme anger towards a woman is not the same as a woman expressing extreme anger towards a man. But of course you know that. Because you’re an adult.

Hang on, I think I’ve got this right:

Get your ducks in a row and LTB.

New patio time?

Just not in the form of a pistachio ice cream gelato sundae, he’d enjoy it too much.

Put a choc ice under his pillow to melt.

Absolutely. Because when a woman does something that shows she doesn't give a shit about her male partner then that's much less important than when it's the other way round. But of course we all know that. Because we're on Mumsnet.

Is he always so rude?

You can get freezers with locks on

How do you know that she isn't bigger and stronger than me?

Anyway, no, at no point was any physicality or intimidation mentioned, that all came from your own head.