AIBU to think my widowed male friend fancies me

[playthepianomakemeswoon123]

A fairly new friend of mine (M65) invited me to stay over, (seperate bedrooms) because he knew I was having a really tough time. His wife died about 3 years ago. We all went out for the evening with my parents who were weirdly visiting and had a good laugh together.
When we got back to his house around 11pm, he sat at the piano and gave me a private recital. At one point he said “Oh, this one’s called <myname> actually. It felt very intimate but I sort of spaced out as I do that with emotional intensity. Now kicking myself.
Now I’m wondering… does this sound like he fancies me too, or am I reading way too much into a kind gesture from a friend?

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How old are you?

55

Just sounds like a kind gesture from a friend.

Do you want him to fancy you?

How old are you? Are you single?

Bumping the thread after 4 minutes was a bit impatient!

Do you want a relationship with him?
How old are you, is there a big age gap?

10 year age gap.
Yes i want a relationship with him. Edited to add, yes I am quite newly single and might be just feeling particularly vulnerable.

I think if your spidey senses go off like that, don’t ignore them.

He played a tune named after you on the piano, that's all.

He probably does really like you and just being kind and friendly. I think it’s hard for us to say yes he fancies you or no he doesn’t with the amount of info you’ve shared.
Do you have any more information to share?

Ask him out for a meal @playthepianomakemeswoon123 He's been widowed 3 years. It's OK to ask him. If he declines, then you will know he probably doesn't fancy you.

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Then you need to see more of him, be interested in him, give something a chance to develop. The fact that he was kind to you and played the song could mean he's interested, but it's not coninclusive.

Take it slowly then. Good luck.

Thats all? How often has that happened to you?

Hmm yeah i think he might fancy you xx

We’ve been doing quite an intimate hobby together, in the same squash club and have been training for a competition, so there’s been lots of long sweaty sessions, early mornings, and coffees afterwards

I’m voting that he does. To play a song named after or written for you is incredible. I think it’s a lovely start if he does

Does he play named songs to male visitors i wonder?

It wasn’t actually written for me, it just happens to have the same name as mine! But thank you for the lovely optimism

I wouldn't have thought so, but he's a generous outgoing person

It sounds to me like he played the tune because he knew it and then remembered its name, rather than played the song specifically to try and impress the OP.
But I think we'd need to know the OP's name to properly judge. If it's Jude, for example, then it's much less likely this guy fancies her.

Yes, could well have been incidental rather than anything!
My name is not Jude, but it's a common biblical name

OK then since you have a common name then nope, he doesn't fancy you, he's just an old bloke showing off his piano skills. Which would give me the major ick, but you do you.

It’s a lovely start to explore what is going on.

I'm wondering what your name is now? Kayleigh, Carol, Diana, Cindy, Angie, Cecilia, Valerie, Caroline, Layla, Rhiannon, Delilah, Annie, Eleanor, Maria or Lola ..... ? 😆

Seriously though @playthepianomakemeswoon123 just ask him out!

😂