AIBU for not wanting to go to a beer festival in a heatwave with three young children?

[Drj0nes]

Local pub is having a beer festival this weekend and everyone from the village will be there.

My husband wants to go up there but there is nothing in me that wants to take our three young children (7 year old girl and twin 3 year old boys) up there in a heatwave amongst pissed up people and loud music.

Am I really boring or just a knackered and overstimulated mum 🤣

If you don't want to go what's to stop him taking the kids and you sitting in your garden with a book?

Aside from that not sounding very fun for kids, it sounds even less fun to be parenting in that situation. Your husband likely wont actually have fun either running around and dealing with very hot, tired kids?!

HE wants to go, you don't. He can take the kids up there, you can stay at home.

I don't see the problem.

He can take the kids if he wants to go can't he?

Does the pub have a nice pub garden with space for running around and some shade? If so I would wait til the worst of the sun is gone, so about 5 and then head down for an hour. Stay if you’re all still enjoying it. Come home if you’re not. My local has something similar and it is actually really rather fun. If it’s just the local you can just come home surely?

There’s no problem, I’m just wondering if I’ve got boring in my old age or if it’s quite normal to not want to parent three sweaty kids in a pub garden 🤣

I’ve said to my husband he can go up there for a few while me and the kids just lounge around the garden 🤣

It's likely that this was the outcome he was secretly hoping for, but didn't want to say out loud 😀👍

Most probably!

What a horrible way for young children to spend the day, in the boiling sun surrounded by pissed-up adults.

No need to predict whether it will be good or bad. Pop up there and see what it's like. My son has always enjoyed that kind of environment. People are generally really kind to him.

Well OP I’m in kind of the same mind today, there’s a beer festival on my DS 10 doesn’t want to go as too hot so DH is going on his own as he doesn’t want to stay in (he will meet friends) sort of feel bad not spending the day together but it is what it is

I wonder what he would have said if you’d said you didn’t fancy it but he could take the kids. He was obviously hoping to go alone.

Usually Beer Festivals have entertainment and child friendly activities during the day (to get more people coming). You could tell him to take the children - and that would guarantee him returning within a couple of hours?

absolutely not unreasonable… the whole ‘bank holidays are for spending all day in a pub garden’ is completely fine for adults, and believe me I would love to myself. But it’s not a great environment for really young kids - the sun is blistering today and people will be tanked up! Stay home and let the kids play in the paddling pool, you’re not boring, you’re protecting your sanity :)

Not convinced that a beer festival is an appropriate place for children. if your husband wants to why can't he go by himself just for a couple of hours and you can stay home with kids, perfect weather to get the paddling pool out.

I honestly can't think of anything worse than going anywhere in this heat. Let alone wrangling children in it.
5 minute walk to get coleslaw is my limit. 😂

It's not usually the dads that are dealing with hot, tired and fractious kids though is it? They are in the beer tent with their mates while their partners (who were guilt tripped into coming along for "family time") count down the minutes to home time.

Not U to dislike mixing small DC and people around drinking a lot of alcohol.

Ahhhh OP I would have been exactly the same when my DC were younger!

Hot day is much easier managed at home in the garden - infinite ice lollies and a paddling pool always does the trick when they are that age. I’d hate to sit boiling hot at a festival too!

I would have told my DP he can go alone too. It’s not miserable - and truth be told he will probably have a better afternoon ‘with the lads’ at a beer festival than with the wife and kids.