AIBU for mentally checking out after handing in my notice?

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I’ve been in a mid manager role that I hate, and since coming back from mat leave it’s been hell. No support, ridiculous hours and stress and general descent into misery and dread. So I’ve handed my notice in to pursue other ventures. I’ve given so much to this company and manager couldn't have cared less that Im leaving, which says it all.

So I’ve gone from working to the bone to mentally checking out and finding it difficult to care. However Im now feeling guilty at being detached. Today I logged off when I was supposed to for the first time ever. There is obviously still work to be done but I just said I need to leave so will have to pick up when Im next in.

AIBU?

Generally going the extra mile normally come with middle management
you don’t have to care but fulfill your role

never burn bridges you never know what the future holds

Get signed off, or do you have any holiday left? If they don't care about you I wouldn't bother extending them the same courtesy! Some places really are terrible! Probably better to go off sick if you need a reference, rather than check out..

I once dismissed someone who had mentally checked out after handing in her three months notice. She stopped turning up on time, if at all, didn't bother meeting deadlines, ignored instructions, left meetings early, and even had the gall to actually say to a peer who pulled her up on it "what are they going to do, fire me?"

I did.

It was the volume of complaints from colleagues left to pick up the slack that did for her. She was out of work for over five years before I lost contact with a mutual acquaintance who gleefully kept me updated.

When all’s said and done you’re just a cog in a wheel. I think once someone has handed their notice in they’ve probably mentally checked out.

I think its ok to be checked out. Just tie up your loose ends, prepare a good handover, and ask them to start including someone else in the meetings who will be taking over your work so they have consistency and you can start stepping back.

I've always been conscientious about leaving a tidy ship and not dropping others in it when I've handed in my notice. But everyone has their breaking point and my last job found mine (not the job actually, but the senior leadership). I genuinely had no more fucks to give, except to my direct reports (who were a lovely team).

You logged off when you were supposed to. You haven't checked out you just started doing what you are contracted to do which is what we are all supposed to be doing instead of picking up three people's jobs because we are told by the society that that's what it means to be a good employee and a "team player". So don't be harsh on yourself.

I’ve always believed that how you leave a job is just as important as how you do a job. People have long memories and also move from company to company. Reputation matters.

It's not that I am doing anything that should actively damage my reputation - Im just not going above and beyond anymore because that's whats got me in this awful mess. Working all hours with absolutely no support, recognition or validation, just the expectation that I've now set with no boundaries. I am simply doing my job, doing what I can within the time I've got, taking a lunch break, leaving on time etc.

It feels liberating to have the pressure taken off in that way, and is a good reminder that I've done the right thing.

Just curious why did they hand their notice in with no job to go to or was that job offer recinded?

YANBU

Working your notice is great fun!

Don’t burn your bridges but definitely take a week off sick. You don’t need to care any more and a decent manager will totally u derstand that you’ll only be working your hours while still there.

I resigned once and worked like billyo to get a project completed.. but... i did it all in the first 3 days saving regularly as I did eg draft for end of week1, draft for end of week 2 etc and then rested on my laurels the rest of the month submitting the work I had supposedly done each week but really I'd speed written in the first few days, that's the way to do it. Helps if you work from home most of the time obviously.

Do you think you are being unreasonable? You must wonder if you are asking the question.

We’ve just been told we’re all being made redundant shortly… it is very very difficult to get the motivation to even turn up to work now, let alone put on a “happy face” for the customers.
It seems that the company knew this was coming for months, and yet kept raising the “standards” (getting us to do more & more for the shitty MW money ) and then just dropped it on us out of the blue.

Personally I hope the bloody place burns down.
I can completely understand how you feel OP. Just grit your teeth, and as some other posters have said, book a weeks holiday, have a few sick days, just bide your time.
Good luck in your next move!

I've asked if I can use my accrued annual leave to bring my finish date forward, and the answer is not likely because the person covering my projects will be on holiday until the day before I am supposed to leave.

The result I am managing a hugely critical project and launch until my last day. I can't believe that the company would leave the project with me, someone who is leaving. Its been a shit show from the second it was handed over to me, and I am losing the will with it. I want it to not be my problem and they are dragging it out until the very last second. There is so much risk to the business if/when this goes wrong and I just cannot understand that they are happy to leave it with me.