To think this women was an arse

asdbaybeeee · 2026-05-13T08:14:28+00:00

Parking at school is a nightmare. I’m disabled as is my son so I try to park as close to school as possible although it’s not always possible. Yesterday I found a spot but it looked a little tight for cars getting passed I parked and got out to check. Immediately a women sat in a car opposite says cars won’t be able to get through. I agree and go to get in my car. She say you will have to move, I look at her car parking and she’s left a two foot gap between her car and the car behind . I ask her to move back as that would create a big enough gap. She says no and winds her window up! i get back in my car and find somewhere in the next street. Is she an arse?

Gloriousgardener11 · 13/05/2026 09:19

Well if she could have moved back and chose not to then she was being unreasonable.

My local school got the local authority to mark up a designated disabled parking space near enough to the school for this reason.
Maybe you could ask the school to look into this then you’d have the right to park there if you have a blue badge.

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asdbaybeeee · 13/05/2026 10:02

Gloriousgardener11 · 13/05/2026 09:19

Well if she could have moved back and chose not to then she was being unreasonable.

My local school got the local authority to mark up a designated disabled parking space near enough to the school for this reason.
Maybe you could ask the school to look into this then you’d have the right to park there if you have a blue badge.

I do have a blue badge all the parking is street parking there’s no disabled parking at all

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DinosaurBlue · 13/05/2026 10:04

Someone not doing what you want them to do doesn’t make them an arse if they’re not doing anything unreasonable to start with.

Perhaps she would have been blocked in if she moved back to let another car in. Perhaps she has her own reasons for needing space.

LittleGreenDragons · 13/05/2026 10:53

The school will have an area onsite for deliveries, since both you and your child are disabled can you ask the school for special permission to park in the school grounds?

purplecorkheart · 13/05/2026 10:56

Is there a staff carpark? One of the local school here allow people with blue badges to park there for dropoff and pick up. Or could the school/you apply to the Council to get disabled spot put in place. Although most likely people will still park on it as they are "only going to be a couple of minutes".

Whyarepeople · 13/05/2026 11:40

Yes, she's an arse. She was quite happy to comment on your parking but totally unwilling to actually help. People like that are the worst.

Skinkytoilet · 13/05/2026 11:46

Can you speak to the school about parking on the premises?

We have disabled parents at DDs school, or parents with disabled children who are allowed to park in the staff car park for drop off and pick up.

Might be worth asking.

tommyhoundmum · 13/05/2026 17:45

asdbaybeeee · 13/05/2026 10:02

I do have a blue badge all the parking is street parking there’s no disabled parking at all

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She may not have been a very confident driver.

LittleMissClutter · 13/05/2026 17:47

Unusual to just say 'no' without giving a reason.

MyThreeWords · 13/05/2026 17:55

She didn't like your parking; you didn't like hers. I don't think arse-hood can be allocated with any clarity

She was there first and you parked in a way that generated problems for her parking position. That's likely to have been a bit annoying for her.

Also, two feet isn't very much and perhaps she was either unconfident or afraid of getting boxed in.

NotTonightDeidre · 13/05/2026 18:02

People who leave massive gaps when parking are utter douche canoes.

If you can't park in/leave a space with minimum room either end then you need more practice!

LumpyandBumps · 13/05/2026 18:23

I can’t see anything wrong with leaving a 2 feet gap. If she’d moved back 18” and then you parked less than 2 feet from her she would have struggled to get out of the space.

BellatrixpureBlood · 13/05/2026 18:26

Definitely ask the school if you can use their parking. When my husband had an accident the school were very supportive and offered the use of the car park when he was starting to recover

Abricot1983 · 13/05/2026 18:30

you are being unfair. Maybe she needed a 2 foot gap at the back to get a pram or wheelchair in the boot. Maybe she is disabled too and can’t park so tightly.

PloddingAlong21 · 13/05/2026 19:07

The school will have a disabled spot - ask to utilise it

LayaMocaya · 13/05/2026 19:40

This sounds distinctly like a situation I was in yesterday and I could be mistaken but it sounds like that is me she is complaining about so if it is let me add some extra context - I had been parked there for a little while as I’d come straight from work, then this woman comes and banks up on the curb almost opposite me leaving very little room for anyone to get through. I was parked on a very deep bend where cars fly around so I couldn’t park ‘straight’ next to the curb. I left a little gap behind so my child could put their bag in. As this person got out of her car I said to her that no one would be able to get through there, she asked me to move back to which I declined and so she got in her car and drove and parked elsewhere. Not to be childish here but I was already parked safely and that would allow traffic to pass through easily, she then came and parked up and would have created an issue. I didn’t know she was disabled or that her son is - maybe she had a disabled badge but I couldn’t see. So no, I wasn’t being an arse I was pointing out a hazard that would cause issues for other people that you created.

DinosaurBlue · 13/05/2026 20:26

LayaMocaya · 13/05/2026 19:40

This sounds distinctly like a situation I was in yesterday and I could be mistaken but it sounds like that is me she is complaining about so if it is let me add some extra context - I had been parked there for a little while as I’d come straight from work, then this woman comes and banks up on the curb almost opposite me leaving very little room for anyone to get through. I was parked on a very deep bend where cars fly around so I couldn’t park ‘straight’ next to the curb. I left a little gap behind so my child could put their bag in. As this person got out of her car I said to her that no one would be able to get through there, she asked me to move back to which I declined and so she got in her car and drove and parked elsewhere. Not to be childish here but I was already parked safely and that would allow traffic to pass through easily, she then came and parked up and would have created an issue. I didn’t know she was disabled or that her son is - maybe she had a disabled badge but I couldn’t see. So no, I wasn’t being an arse I was pointing out a hazard that would cause issues for other people that you created.

Yeah, you’re definitely not an arse.

HappyWelsh · 14/05/2026 00:47

LayaMocaya · 13/05/2026 19:40

This sounds distinctly like a situation I was in yesterday and I could be mistaken but it sounds like that is me she is complaining about so if it is let me add some extra context - I had been parked there for a little while as I’d come straight from work, then this woman comes and banks up on the curb almost opposite me leaving very little room for anyone to get through. I was parked on a very deep bend where cars fly around so I couldn’t park ‘straight’ next to the curb. I left a little gap behind so my child could put their bag in. As this person got out of her car I said to her that no one would be able to get through there, she asked me to move back to which I declined and so she got in her car and drove and parked elsewhere. Not to be childish here but I was already parked safely and that would allow traffic to pass through easily, she then came and parked up and would have created an issue. I didn’t know she was disabled or that her son is - maybe she had a disabled badge but I couldn’t see. So no, I wasn’t being an arse I was pointing out a hazard that would cause issues for other people that you created.

I didn’t think that you sounded like an arse before your input, as they say, there is always 2 sides to every story. You’re not the arse.

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 14/05/2026 17:58

I think if you have a blue badge displayed then yes that's really unkind of her. I think if she hadn't known/it wasn't clear you're disabled then she might have just assumed you'd be fine to park elsewhere, but given you have a badge then that's arsey. I do think school parking on busy streets is an absolute nightmare, people have strong opinions about how close you should get etc. A mum at our school once shouted at me for "nearly reversing into" her parked car - I mean, if I didn't hit it, then it's not an issue is it (imo). It seems to just create really nasty behaviour! Maybe speak to school and discuss whether they have an option given your disability- it seems mad you'd have to park streets away.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 14/05/2026 18:02

DinosaurBlue · 13/05/2026 20:26

Yeah, you’re definitely not an arse.

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Agreed, you didn’t do anything wrong.

Balloonhearts · 14/05/2026 18:03

tommyhoundmum · 13/05/2026 17:45

She may not have been a very confident driver.

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If you can't park it, you shouldn't be driving it.

Owly11 · 14/05/2026 18:31

I think you are over thinking it. It's not her fault there are no disabled spots. I would speak with the school.

hallenbad · 14/05/2026 18:34

I disagree with the prevailing sentiment. If I’d parked up and I saw someone with a blue badge struggling then I’d offer my spot (or at least back up a bit).
if this were reversed and the OP said she refused to move for a disabled driver, suspect the responses would be rather different in tenor…

DinosaurBlue · 14/05/2026 19:45

hallenbad · 14/05/2026 18:34

I disagree with the prevailing sentiment. If I’d parked up and I saw someone with a blue badge struggling then I’d offer my spot (or at least back up a bit).
if this were reversed and the OP said she refused to move for a disabled driver, suspect the responses would be rather different in tenor…

How would she know OP is disabled. OP says nothing about having a blue badge on display.

The lady involved has already posted on this thread anyway and offers a different viewpoint.

hallenbad · 14/05/2026 20:57

DinosaurBlue · 14/05/2026 19:45

How would she know OP is disabled. OP says nothing about having a blue badge on display.

The lady involved has already posted on this thread anyway and offers a different viewpoint.

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OP mentions her blue badge in her second post.

Just because another poster had a discussion about parking with someone, doesn’t mean it was definitely the OP. There must be hundreds of these discussions going on all the time in busy school zones!