To expect another check in before friend booked holiday?

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3 of us going away for a week, slightly complex logistics with travel and using a firm to book the main bit, it’s a hiking type holiday. We had a chat about it and one friend was going to check out something as was the other friend. Then get a message through saying deposit paid. Surely one more check before that?

Does it matter?

Depends if what they were checking out was personal to them (availability/childcare/leave) or something that affected the booking.

Yes. We always have a final message to confirm everyone is happy before the booking.

I think I missed the ‘right we are definitely booking if x and y thing checks out’ conversation….

Be the lead booker next time?

Id expect it. Just checking we all going on x and x date and it cost x are you happy as I'll book now.

Are you happy with what's been booked or is there a problem?

Maybe but as someone who often organises events for a friendship group, it is very hard sometimes. Half the time people stop responding just as you are at the point of booking. I've sometimes just booked something without a final confirmation from everyone, when I know that people have agreed to all the separate parts and haven't expressed any reservations to proposed plans.

Speaking as the organiser, people need to SPEAK UP if they are concerned about any aspect of a holiday/trip/event.

All good points and I have been in your shoes. But I’ve always sent an, I’m booking it now message.

Well that’s the thing I didn’t know we had a lead booker…..

You can still offer to do it next time if you feel it was booked in haste this time. Then you will understand the frustration of getting decisions made by group.

I agree OP that there should have been a final message, but I also understand the person booking who finds a good deal and doesn't want to lose it.

@Twiglets1 , I’ve been the main booker many a time and it can be v frustrating. Doing it at the moment with a different group of friends for a weekend away.

but I didn’t realise we were at the main booker stage yet…I thought we were at the ‘does this all work?’ Stage. I was expecting a ‘right that all works, shall I book stage’. Where the ‘I’ could have been any of us.

Just to be clear this is a minor issue as I’m quite happy with the arrangement.

Ok then.

So it's not even an issue then?

I think with a group you can just go round and round in circles with endless discussion and nothing actually being done. I can understand why a person will just go ahead and book to bring an end to it.

It does seem sudden. It’s perhaps different of it’s ten people and the person organising it or booking it gets frustrated due to non-response or long delays, and people have pretty much said it’s ok. However your case is different, there’s only two others! I guess it’s only important if you have a problem with it. Some places if it’s accommodation are free cancellation for 24 of 48 hours (or much longer) so maybe it’s this, and they were worried it would get booked by someone else?

Sounds like it was the others who had to check things, and you’d said you were good for the dates/location?

Perhaps the booker checked in directly with the other person who had to confirm something, and assumed your previous yes meant yes.

Can't see any issue. The thing is booked, everyone hafppy

Non issue but you are a little irked?
Let it go a learn for the next time but don’t voice your opinion or complain unless you are happy to do the booking next time.

I’ve has this done to me before, we had just started discussing in the evening then the next morning she said she had booked it which then caused the price to go up (bloody jet2). I hadn’t even had time to check the dates yet!

If you're happy with what's been booked then why on earth are you looking for problems?

Honestly, focus your energy on things that matter instead of seeing things as an issue because they haven't been done your way.

So what are you moaning about? It was discussed and planned, your agreed to the dates and must have known the costs. What else was there to discuss?

I honestly hate this culture of constantly checking. I blame mobile phones. Even if you arrange lunch with someone, agreed on day, time and place, you’ll still get a text the day before “just to check” and more texts in the morning “just to let say I’m leaving now and will see you there.”

There is no need for any of it. You agreed on the trip, it was planned. Someone booked it. You’re happy. Why are you moaning?

Oh please…