AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

Or you could just be pleased you're engaged to be married?

What you mean is that you’d have liked some social media attention.

Well done to your fiancé for keeping private moments private.

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous

Taking photos of engagements isn't really a thing. You can still think back on it in future but I'm going to be honest you will hardly look at your wedding photos in years to come let alone an engagement photo.

My husband proposed to me out of the blue at the dinner table in our holiday cottage. I remember very warmly. It was just between us. Photos don't add to that. Enjoy your life ahead.
My daughter also asked if he had got down on one knee and she said she bet her dad(my first husband) had done so. I told her no and that her dad had dragged me up a hill on a freezing January day in Scotland aftet I had just finished a week of alternate 24 hour stints working. Still remember and it was nearly 40 years ago!

I can’t believe your friends asked for a video. Not everything is an Instagram moment

I got engaged 16 years ago with no photographer (that wasn't really a thing then) but I look back on it regularly because I have this amazing thing called a memory.

You all sound shallow and vacuous.

Don’t worry. There will be hundreds of pictures of the wedding. You’re leading up to a marriage not a character in a film.

Seeing this type of stuff on Instagram and TT etc just makes me cringe.
Seriously, all tears and hand flapping and false shit.

Agree.
Who the hell asks for a video!
If this is even a real post, that is?

Hahaha, excellent thread OP. It' would have been so romantic with someone filming that special monent.😂

LTB. How dare he not consider your friends or Instagram lifestyle.

Is this a joke? Who were you expecting to record it? Why does it matter? Are you not able to explain to your friends what happened?

It’s meant to be a personal moment between you and your fiancée not an episode of Beadle’s About/ candid camera.

Whenever I see these big reveals on social media I just think either it’s pure attention seeking or “that marriage isn’t going to last.”

I personally think it's lovely to have that moment as something only shared between the two of you, makes it more special and intimate. YANBU to feel the way you feel, but please try not to let it spoil your excitement about your DP's proposal. Focus on your relationship not what has/ hasn't been documented for others to see.

You jumped the shark with 'embarrassing'.

I would think it shows your fiancé has values - he keeps special meaningful moments private. It's not a performance, he's asked you to spend the rest of your lives together.

If you need something for social media, take a photo of your ring. And then thing about logging off for a couple of weeks to get your head straight.

You should be embarrassed of your attitude, not of your DP. It's ok to have wanted a photographer there but I can't understand how you're allowing it to overshadow the proposal.

• *That lad's in for a rough ride.

Is this real?

It can't be, surely it is a wind up?

Are we really in a place now where every aspect of our lives has to be filmed and shared or it didn't happen?

Are you old enough to get married?.

Dear God, is this a thing now? If you’re actually embarrassed by his not doing this you might want to rethink your relationship. Or at least let him know how you feel so that he can.

How about living life not through the lens. Is it all about the clicks? How sad

He sounds awful and uncaring. Fancy not organising for a photographer to jump out of the bushes and capture your immediate reaction so you can show everyone. How will anyone even know it’s even happened!!

Maybe suggest he propose again but do it properly this time?

Haha I love how this thread is going, AIBU isn’t often this unanimous!