DP shouting to neighbour who we keep overhearing in the bedroom

[Neighbourproblem26]

We’ve had an ongoing issue with one of our neighbours and overhearing sexual noises because they don’t shut their bedroom window at night. We’ve attempted to respectfully raise it but they just continue. Another neighbour has also done similar - they think the couple are doing it deliberately and getting kicks out of it.

This has really started to wind my DP up. He has made a couple of sarky comments to the man when he’s seen him on the drive into the past few weeks. The man laughs it off which has riled DP up more.

Tonight, we were coming back in from the car having been shopping together and the man was entering his house having arrived home just before us. DP shouted to him - “give her one from me”. Again, the bloke turned and laughed.

I found this an odd comment for DP to make - his response being that he is trying to embarrass them and make them feel ashamed. I said the only person he embarrassed with that was himself.

He’s now having a bit of a sulk. Does anyone else find his comment odd?

Gross and childish

Grim

Of all the things he could have said, he chose this!?

🤮

I think in the context of what is going on its fine. It was said out of anger and to make a gross point. He was just trying to say something vile back.

Massive red flag. Very weird at best.

The problem with your partners comment is that the neighbour thought that he was getting praised for his manly vigour. He’s going to be trying even harder, I fear.

Disgusting and lying about why he said it is even worse.

He really thinks you’re very thick, doesn’t he?

Because he was being praised for it.

Well it makes it sound like your partner is jealous. Grim.

Whatever your dh said, its not anywhere near as grim as the performative sex couple

Your DH sounds a tad jealous and perhaps insecure about this couples weird sexual kicks.

I think he is trying different tactics to get them to stop

Tactics is a term he keeps using

I think patting him on the back and requesting he fucks his partner ‘for him’, is pretty much on a par.

Yuk.

Honestly have you no tongues in your head? No need for snarky or weird comments.
"Excuse me John but are you aware that the neighbours can hear you and Jenny having sex because you leave the window open? "

You could try to out do them, if your man is put off with sex noise maybe hes missing it in his life and is a bit jealous.

It would not bother me id think lucky her.

I seem to recall that a local authority issued some kinda noise abatement order regarding this very issue.

Just googled it there has been a few noise abatement orders and prosecutions, including short imprisonments of offenders.

Next time he should shout out at a particularly loud time “she’s faking it”!

Unfortunately this comment will have been interpreted by the gross neighbour as a type of 'boys together banter', and this merely encouraged the neighbour to be louder.

Next time make it clear to the neighbour that you are disgusted.

Normally grotesquely sexist but this time I think he’s trying to shame him as basically he’s tried everything else 🤷‍♀️

I wouldn’t judge for this one

The OP literally says they've tried raising it before nicely but got nowhere.
Sounds like he's trying to find a different way in the hope they pack it in.

Open your window & play various animal sex noises. Or recorded canned laughter