Fed up with ladish DP and his mate

[Hauelzk]

Couples night out yesterday - we got the train to the next city, and got the last one home. A boozy evening, really nice time.

DP and this particular friend are big in to their football and can be a bit ‘ladish’ after a few drinks. I roll me eyes usually as does his mates wife.

The station platform was really busy and a staff member was trying to move people. He did become a bit abrupt and some people accused him of being rude, I think he was just stressed.

Anyway, he kind of tripped and just about stopped himself from falling over.

Lots of people cheered, and then DP and his mate started a football chant aimed at him - “you fat bastard” which some others joined in with.

I felt sorry for the bloke. DP says he was being rude so got some deserved stick and it was ‘only lighthearted’.

Am I being a killjoy as he put it?

The poor guy at the station was trying to do his job surrounded by a load of ignoramuses, probably mostly drunk. No wonder he got a bit " abrupt".

If one of these idiots had fallen on the tracks or been hurt in some way he would have been the one held to account. And was probably very aware of the risk to his own personal safety when dealing with a crowd of unpredictable drunks.

Presumably your DP is an adult. It's about time he grew up and behaved like one.
Why describe something as " laddish " behaviour when actually you mean he behaves like a lout when he is drunk.

It really annoys me when people are ridiculed for trying to do their job.

Yeah, your husband is a cunt.

Your partner is not “laddish”, he’s a pathetic bully.

Your boyfriend finds joy in being a lout and mocking people. Do you want to keep dating this person?

Your DP is an arsehole and this kind of behaviour would an instant deal breaker for me.

Very nasty. It's not good. I don't think I'd see a future with someone who acts like this.

It's bullying behaviour. A person at work can't retaliate. If he was telling people to move for their safety, they should have just done so. What does your DP do for a living?

Your partner is an arse. He and his mate together are shits.

Not remotely funny.

PS what are his redeeming features.

That's not 'laddish' its plain nasty. Why should some bloke get abused and humiliated at work because a bunch of thick as mince idiots can't hold their beer? Your partner sounds a nasty piece of work without even any wit or origionality going for him.
You really shouldn't think of this as 'laddish' as it suggests relatively harmless stuff that men just do (boys will be boys) when to abuse and humiliate a transport worker is another level of low life.

This is awful behaviour - to taunt a person, call them fat, instigate a chant to humiliate and abuse them at work and to laugh at someone else’s misfortune? And all apparently justified because he was being “abrupt” when trying to keep a platform full of drunks from killing themselves falling under a train?

Ew.

He’s a Bully

@Hauelzk DP says he (the worker) was being rude so got some deserved stick and it was ‘only lighthearted’.

This is ridiculous. Your DP was the one who was being horribly rude to a man who was just trying to do his job. It’s not ‘laddish’ or ‘lighthearted’ it’s rude and knobbish bullying behaviour. It would give me the massive ick.

so your ‘dp’ is an extremely nasty person. He made a stranger feel like absolute shit. What a horrible horrible thing to do.
i would a billion times over rather be single than spend any time with someone so vile.
i think the fact that you have to ask if you’re being a killjoy rather than immediately ending this ‘relationship’ is nothing short of shocking. Please get some counselling to work out why you are so desperate for a man that you would be with one so vile.

If any word of that is true, stop calling him 'laddish' and start calling him wanker.

Your husband is a nasty arsehole. The real question is what are you going to do about it? I assume he's always been like this?

Wow I wasn’t expecting you to say that. But that’s just nasty and I would have found that humiliating if I was the man

Why are you with such a horrible man?

As someone who works in a service which regularly gets abuse from “laddish” drunk thugs, I can assure you it is not funny.

Your partner is a low IQ cunt.

That’s not “being a lad”, that’s being utterly fucking rude to someone trying to do their job!
if my DH had done that, I would’ve shut him down and walked away!

He’s a nasty bully. That’s absolutely vile behaviour. That poor man.

Why are you with this moron who seems to have the IQ of 23?
I'm embarrassed on your behalf, doesn't say much for the other woman either that she is dating a knuckle dragging idiot either.
You both need to raise the bar about 100% and please don't have a kid with him the world does not need more twats like your partner and his moronic mates, who really need to grow up.

When your group was asked by this man to move, did you?

He’s in construction so a very male dominated industry. Which he also points out as being a reason why he’s used to more robust ‘banter’

Yea