AIBU to want more time alone during the menopause?

[lucyloo25]

I need to know if this is normal, i am menopausal woman, young adult kids and a husband, as much as i love them all i just want to be alone, to have time and space alone !! I would love a 1 bed cottage to escape to, i dream of it.

Is this normal , after parenting now for over half my life and doing everything for everyone. i am tired and even people just near me at home drives me mad sometimes.........

Sometimes I have to really bite my tongue so that I don't shush my husband. He would be really offended, but when I get home from work, I just want the noise to stop.

Yes, it’s a common side effect called ‘I have no fucks left to give” 😬😂

I'm the same. Love my DH and adult kids but I crave time alone. I often sneak upstairs to lie on the bed and watch crappy true crime documentaries on my phone!

You need a break. Book that for yourself, somewhere peaceful that you like. There's nothing wrong with wanting that at any time in life.

Given most women outlive their male partners you'll get that eventually

I can relate as I love time by myself, but if you’ve always done ‘everything for everyone’ then you’ve only got yourself to blame for enabling that level of lifelong servitude. Stop doing that now. They’re grown ups.

I would so love this too, though I'm not sure it's a menopause thing (though I am post-menopause)... I've always needed down time.

I used to be so envious of divorced MIL going off to her apartment in Spain alone for the summer!
A little cottage somewhere alone would be bliss.

Makes me so glad I live alone. I can't be done with people constantly

Totally NBU! 100% voted that too 😁

@Endofyearare you me????

Reminds me of this thread!
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/5193542-yup-ive-made-it-folks?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

Lucky woman! She was living the dream

@Bumblefuzz same here about the shushing! My husband routinely shouts and / or can’t get to the point -it’s so infuriating! A typical conversation with him often starts: “how about we…. Or maybe we could…”. I just want to WHAT ARE YOU GOING ON ABOUT? GET TO THE POINT! He regularly comes out with bollocks statements like “shall we go to that place l like and see that thing…”

@BernardButlersBra "so fuck fab happy" says it all really 😁 and all you need to know OP, do it!

Granted no husband.(Just bf!/ And no kids but I do understand how you're feeling!

Good lord it ls hard and at times I wish they'd all leave me the hell alone 😫

Totally normal.
I have been quietly quiting over the past year.
Only cook a couple of times a week.
Have dramatically lowered my high standards in the house.
Shop once a week, otherwise they pick it up.
Lovin it.