Do women pregnant with their first baby get something on Mother's Day?

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I'm curious how many mothers got a present/card/some sort of acknowledgement when they were pregnant with their first? Particularly those in their last trimester.

Is it jumping the gun or does someone going through pregnancy deserve a little something too?

I didn’t, but wouldn’t have wanted anything as family members have lost children quite late on in pregnancy and it would have felt like tempting fate

No.

It’s jumping the gun.

No

When I was pg with my first I took my mum and grandma out to dinner, the restaurant gave them both a potted plant which was lovely, when they noticed I was pg they came back and gave me one too. I thought that was sweet but I wouldn’t have expected anything from anyone else. It’s special when you get something when your baby is here, but silly before.

It didn’t even cross my mind tbh

No, that isn't a thing

No, that would be very weird for me.

But then I thought it was weird when it was suggested to DH he get something for what was technically my first mother's day when DC1 was a few weeks old. And the next year. Until DC were at least vaguely aware of it and were making handprints that looked like flowers and all that I wasn't interested.

NO

I'm hosting a mother's Day brunch tomorrow and one of our nieces is pregnant with her 1st. She'll be getting flowers and a gift bag along with all the other mums.

No. Because she isn't a mother yet.

It would feel fate tempting to me.

No, but I suppose the father of the baby could do something small if he wanted to, in anticipation.

I got a card from DH but it wasn’t an outright happy mothers day card, it was just like a ‘so excited for our baby’ type thing

No, I think DH marked it with a small something - like a small bunch of supermarket flowers. But in a "next-year this will be you, thanks for carrying our baby in the meantime" kind of way.

Ideas differ.

Some people regard the woman as a mother to be as she is pregnant with a child. Born in religion. Even Mothercare used to do mother to be stuff until about 20 years ago.

Others don't see her as a mother until a child comes out. If it isn't born, it can still be aborted by her of someone at a hospital. She only proves it is a child if it comes out alive. Survival of the fittest as taught at school in the modern era.

No I didn’t

No. Respectfully, what if you had a stillbirth? Before birth you're more of a... very nurturing vessel, than a mother.

Nope.

No

I think that buying baby clothes/gifts before birth is tempting fate so am definitely a no for Mother’s Day celebrations.

You’re still a mum if you have a still born child.
An early, 1st trimester, miscarriage is obviously very tragic but a different kind of loss that different women might feel differently about in terms of whether they became a ‘mother’ or not.

OP I think it’s a personal thing, I wouldn’t have expected anything at all, and I think if as the woman you do it’s important to communicate that, because it’s not an automatic assumption for most people.

Not only did I not consider myself a mom yet, I would consider it bad luck.

I acknowledge I’m very much in the minority here, but I consider mother’s day to be only for the child to show love and appreciation to their mother. So on that principle I wouldn’t expect anything until the child is old enough to scribble a homemade card or choose some chocolate or whatever.

I’m in the minority here. My due date was two weeks before Mother’s Day and my husband did get me a card from the dog and upcoming baby and a little gift from him too.

didn’t ask for it or expect it but it was lovely.