How often does your uni student child call if they live in a different city?

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And are they a son or a daughter?

My son messages the family WhatsApp group most days. He phones a couple of times a week, sometimes more, usually wanting to see how the dogs are and see them on FaceTime. 😂

My friends kids are similar, so they message more than call, but their kids call them once or twice a week and they have a mix of sons and daughters.

I think I rang my mum about once a term when I was a student!

DD will text updates back and forth every day. Doesn’t normally ring unless something is badly wrong or there’s been a big drama - my heart sinks when she does!

I think it depends on the child/family more than their sex. We speak to our daughter every ten days or so, but we often send messages on our WhatsApp group. My son spoke to us less often when he was away from home.

One couple we know speak to their son every day, everybody seems to be different 😊

She doesn’t often call but she does visit. In fact, I’m never bloody shot of her 🤣💕

My kids only call if it's really important. We FaceTime them all at least weekly. But texts? All day every day, especially from my DD.

My DD FaceTimes for a yap most days, but then she’s always been a chatterbox. She just kind of downloads her brain for 5-10 minutes and then continues on with her day. We’ll swap memes and things we’ve seen/read that we like daily too. When my son goes in September I’ll probably never hear from him again 😜

DD texts several times a week and so do I. She calls DH or I when she feels like it, average once a week, but sometimes more if she wants to share something, anything from something funny that’s happened to needing advice or support.

I have sporadic text conversations with all of mine, as in I text, and by the time they reply, say, 3 days later, I have to remind myself what I said! Two of them don’t usually phone, unless there’s a crisis, the middle one phones maybe once a fortnight/3 weeks. It’s fine. I know they’d contact us if there was a problem. If I’m on edge because I haven’t heard anything for a while, I’ll just phone them.

Here's a photo of my lunch
It was great/gross
Can my friend stay over the summer?
Can my girlfriend pop in to grab my protein bars on her way back to uni?
Can you grab that bag of clean laundry I forgot to take back and give it to my girlfriend to bring back?
Any chance I can get some money?
Mum, I really miss you. Let's hang out when I'm home.
Can you make me spaghetti and meatballs when I'm home next? I really miss yours.
OMG! I've run out of money again! Why is life so expensive?!

That kind of thing 😁

Once a week, not less, girl. Plus random messaging.

My 19 year old messages me most days. He doesn't phone very much, usually I phone him

Usually daily on family WhatsApp, sometimes just a ‘morning’, ‘ok’ message sometimes a few more words! Weekly FaceTime call. DS

My daughter likes to video chat about twice a week, but it's normally us who message to arrange a time to do so.

If we left it up to her exec function to initiate it, we'd be waiting a long time! So we usually do that bit, but on her timetable.

My DS lives in another city but he’s not at uni any more, he phones about 5 times a week, he never stops bloody talking. We can be on over an hour and when DH asks what we talked about I can never remember, lol

My DD is at uni in a different city, we FaceTime once or twice a term. She messages me with suggestions for documentaries to watch which I then make sure I do and I message back with my opinions, she never tells me her opinions before I watch it, we like to see if we match, lol

DS probably daily
DD once a week

Daily messages back and forth between all of us.

Dd about 3x since September, each time when she’s run out of money.

She never calls, regular messages and visits home tho. I didn’t think Gen Z were big phone yappers, more text based

This has made me feel shit...

Ds never calls unless there is an issue and rarely messages either. I ring him once a week and time spent on the call can be 5 minutes - 45 minutes depending on what he has going on but usually somewhere in between. If I do message him he may well not reply but I don't much.

I saw us as close before reading this and spend lots of time together when he's home but I've never been one for messaging back and fore all the time so I suppose he takes after me in that way.

@pinotnow dont feel shit. Dd doesn’t message either and barely responds to messages. Maybe three weeks later she might. I tell myself she’s independent and having a great time. She’s not even coming home for the summer. Didn’t come home at Xmas.

It’s once a week, faithfully for each of them. Both daughters.

Dd, usually message daily. Prone to low mood and living in a studio (but has friends and socialises). Usually short calls a handful of times - photos of dinner, cats, I snap flowers when I am out, she sends pics of wisteria to wind my up as my wisteria flowers very early…

dd2 will be off this Sept - I expect to hear less from her but I will check in via cat updates.

We have a family group chat where one of us puts a message on there most days, it’s just day to day snippets, we also send memes daily. She tends to message rather than call unless it’s important

son - never calls. He doesn’t understand phoning someone to chat. He comes home often though. Will respond to messages promptly though rarely starts a conversation.

It makes me sad, but we are currently running with it as we are so amazed that he went. (He is a real homebody). I think he just likes to keep everything separate.

We will renegotiate terms next year.

Very few youngsters use a phone as a phone! I think it’s a dying art.

If WhatsApp or FaceTime didn’t exist not sure how often we would hear from DS.