Four Candles
Sunday, October 26th, 20081. The Triumph
2. The Trip
3. The Trident
I’d left a stale packet of gingerbread men on the worktop in the kitchen overnight. Downstairs at 6am with Son 2 aged 13m, I gave him milk and banana. “Boo,” said Son 1 aged 4y 1m. I left them both in the kitchen while I went to the loo. Son 1 appeared, laughing and eating a gingerbread man. “Son 2’s got one too,” he giggled. I shouldn’t have left them out, I thought. “You shouldn’t have left them out,” he said.
We went to visit an Old Friend this morning, someone I’ve known 17 years, whose elder son is a week older than Son 1. Another two boy family. She has a lovely, immaculate house, a lovely immaculate playroom with individual boxes for each group of toys, a lovely immaculate garden, and a lovely immaculate kitchen in which she was effortlessly making lunch for seven. And she’s seven months pregnant. Hey ho. The boys had a riot, Son 2 played with fridge magnets, saucepan lids and the home-made Playdoh. Son 1 and Elder Son have known each other since they were weeks old, and used to be at nursery together. Son 1 misses him. “Come again soon,” he said, when we left.
Then a fourth birthday party in the afternoon. Madly over-scheduled children. A Halloween theme, held at a cricket club. Son 1 wore a mask, and carried a trident, monster feet and a free pumpkin from a CBeebies comic. Son 2 wore a little bat outfit I found marked down in Woolies. A bright, sunny afternoon so all the children ran around outside. Son 2 wanted to play with the dog. And then crunched up the leaves and explored the acorns on a path. He liked the wheels on the barbecue. He liked the crispy monster balls. He liked hanging onto my fingers and walking. Son 1 played and played. When we got back at 1830 The Man was home.

