Hope it's ok putting this here - it's a bit self indulgent but I'm struggling a bit and need a feminist point of view.
There was an article linked here recently which asked women "when you look in the mirror, do you see you or now do you think about how you appear to the men who will see you?" Or similar. It really made me think. Everything I do is governed by a fear of "I'll look a twat if I..." Or "I'll look vile if I.." Largely because I'm big.
Just been for a beer with a male friend, who's physically a lot smaller than me. Very thin and not very tall. It's never occurred to me before but I suppose we must look quite a contrasting pair. We left the pub and a group of older men did the obligatory tit stare and started guffawing. I just knew they were taking the piss. One said "oh my god quick! Get a picture of them!"
In the grand scheme I know it's not massive, but it made me uncomfortable and pissed off. I am cursed with stupid big breasts as well and apparently these are public property and available to be commented on whenever people feel the need.
Just why can't some men (and it is only men in me experience) keep their stupid thoughts to themselves and consider that their amusement might be causing real pain? I'm getting a bit worried about how much a overthink before I go out these days and not sure how to deal with it.
Thanks if you've read all that.
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CatKisser · 31/07/2014 21:03
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