Woman commented on a friend's post about the Tumblr pictures doing the rounds; why I need feminism and the spoof ones. Anyone, one of her (female friends) then went off on one about how feminists want to promote women's rights over men's, I'm just going to post it here because I can't summarise it. I wanted to throw my lap top out of the window.
But feminism is the cause for the current inequalities in schooling, homeless shelters, rape definitions, also men being not considered equal parents (new laws regarding mothers not having to serve sentences in prisons in UK, but not for fathers.) As I said the feminism is now causing inequalities. In other countries other that those in the western or first world, There is massive issues, and feminism in itself needs to be there. I just don't like what it is now doing, and causing more issues that will create further segregation and inequalities. Equal for both in all cases.
And then
^ I have a male friend whom was raped by a woman. He was by law considered not rapes, because he was not penetrated. He had a q-tip put in his urethra, it broke, but this is not rape, its sexual assault.
FEMINISM caused this miscarriage of justice. FEMINISM caused this friend to feel invalidated. There are many more men out there. If this was to happen to a woman, we would all be there, but for me, we turn a blind eye^
Its rape. Rape is forced sexual intercourse, by either party. The definition for rape was CHANGED by a feminist. Women can rape girls and boys. you do not have to have a penis to rape someone.
^ I do not want to argue with you, but just hear me out, I can send you a PM with some information in it, it will direct to links with many studied backing them, read through them with an open mind, and please see from what perspective I am writing from. Please know I don't have the time to argue. I don't mind sending them on to anyone else. If you would also like to send me studies/articles to back your opinion, I have no problem reading them, I would hope for them to add to my knowledge.
I don't stated there is no issue with inequalities in other countries, but in more cases than not they have many other issues not just violence against women. So my opinion on feminism is based on first world/western world, not the third world.^
And then she finished with this gem:
^I am an anti-feminist, pro-equality. And I am not an idiot, far from it.
If you are so educated on feminist theory and how great it is please, come back and argue these points. If I could learn something, I would be happy to say "you are right, I am wrong."
Father’s rights group want shared parenting (equal custody) to be the default if both parents want custody and neither parent is unfit. They feel that men should not be punished for being men, and that women should not be awarded custody to their kids simply for being women. Currently women are awarded primary custody almost all the time, even if the husband was the stay-at-home Dad and the woman was the breadwinner.
Feminists fought against this. Statements that feminist movements used were “fathers are abusive, don’t give them custody.”
(yay for femisim, but we are going to go , nope it's men's fault, the patriachy, because it's easier to blame the past, then go fuck it, it changes here)
Men want protection against false rape allegations. They feel that a man’s life should not be ruined simply on the allegation of a woman who may be a vindictive liar. Currently, a woman can accuse a man of rape for no reason, and the man’s name is splashed in the paper and his life is ruined. So, they fought for laws granting men anonymity until charged with the crime of rape—not convicted, just charged.
“The London Feminist Network is a campaigning organisation uniting London based feminist groups and individuals in activism.”
Men want an end to the justice system favouring women simply because they are women, and giving men harsher sentences simply because they are men.
Feminists fought against this, arguing that no woman should be sent to jail, even women who had murdered multiple people.
Men want equal treatment when victims of domestic violence, and to not be arrested for the crime of “being male” under primary aggressor policies.
Feminists fought against this by trying to suppress evidence showing that half of domestic violence is done by women, by threatening the researchers with bomb threats, death threats, etc. Modern, younger feminists are doing it as well.
And sadly, they were successful in this effort of propaganda. For decades, and continuing today, violent men are (rightfully) convicted and punished by the state, while violent women are left to freely terrorize and harm their partners.
The feminist definition of domestic violence has skewed arrest and prosecution philosophies, resulting primarily in having only male batterers criminally pursued.
Men want female rapists to be arrested, charged, and convicted with rape. In Western countries, women are rarely punished when raping men, due to the biased legal system. In some countries, women cannot be punished when raping men, since rape is defined as a male-perpetrated crime.
Feminists fought against this in India, arguing that “there is a physicality [in] rape” and that it would make things “more complicated for judges.”
Feminists fought against this in Israel, claiming that changing the law would result in men filing false rape claims.
Men don’t want to be thrown in jail because they lost their jobs and temporarily cannot pay child support.
Feminists fought against this, trying to lower the amount to $5000 before a man is guilty of a felony for not paying child support. If a man loses a decent-paying job, he will now be a felon, go to jail, lose his right to vote, AND be unable to find future jobs—if he cannot regain an equal-paying job within a few months.
Men want equal economic support and help from the government. When the recession hit, male-dominated fields like construction lost millions of jobs, while female-fields like education and healthcare gained jobs. So the government proposed an economic stimulus for those fields.
Feminists successfully fought against this, arguing that it was discrimination to support men, and caused the government to give money to women who didn’t deserve it. Hundreds of professional feminists complained against the “sexism” of helping men (who had lost jobs) and not women (who had gained jobs).
A representative of the Michigan National Organization for Women testified in opposition to the Revocation of Paternity Act, which stopped the old law which stated that if a woman was married and cheated on her husband, the resulting child is considered to be legally the husband’s and the biological father had no legal rights to fight for custody or parenting time with his biological child.
As you can see, the claim that feminism fight for men’s rights is a blatant lie. Don’t believe any feminists that say that. Feminists fight for women’s rights. That is a good thing. Feminists also are happy to harm men’s rights, as shown above. That is a bad thing. Feminism is about female privilege, not equality.
Some may argue that these cases of feminists harming men is not “representative” of feminism. I ask you: Are there any cases of feminists helping men? No. Yet, there are many cases of feminists harming men.
And guess what? Feminists are doing those things. And I am not a feminist.
So no, I am not a part of the problem, YOU are.^
I think my head actually exploded at this point. I tried to pull apart the last post but I think I'm just descending into furious ramblings now. She is talking utter SHITE right?
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