Wanted to get your thoughts on this: Are women more likely to get away with confronting sexist behaviour without facing a huge backlash if their outward appearance is traditionally feminine? And is it a problem if outspoken women are feminine? Does this undermine the message we are trying to get accross?
Some background: I work in a very male dominated field where hair-raising sexism is unfortunately the norm. I'm also known for not taking any BS when it comes to sexist and misogynistic comments. The worst reaction I've ever had to speaking up has been some manager doubting my sense of humour - usually it's an admission of guilt and an apology. A female colleague I recently discussed this with has had very different experiences. She has been confronted with incredibly aggressive behaviour as a result of complaining and has since decided to simply shut up.
When I said that this had never happened to me, she said that this was because I was 'Genius Barbie'. What she meant was that I a) have a reputation for technical brilliance and b) am considered conventionally attractive with a penchant for dresses, makeup and shoes. My colleague, on the other hand, is equally great at what she does (but less successful at selling herself) and is a physically plain, very jeans and t-shirt only kind of person.
I don't have a problem getting taken seriously in my profesional capacity. The people I work with consider me an expert in my field. I also like the way I dress - which BTW is more 50s inspired than microminis and necklines at hip level. That having been said: since this conversation I have been wondering whether the way I present myself serves to somehow undermine what I actually have to say about the pandemic of sexist behaviour in my organisation.
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StackOverflow · 25/08/2013 13:40
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