Seriously?

(64 Posts)
suchawimp Sat 20-Jul-13 16:05:45

There are actual websites called things like Ladies Against Feminism and Raising Homemakers? And people read them! Lots of people apparently as Raising Homemakers has 20 thousand likes on Facebook.

ImNotBloody14 Sat 20-Jul-13 16:16:48

Its so sad isnt it?

I saw a post on fb. Few days ago that read ' your husband will always be your biggest and oldest child that requires the most adult supervision'

I could cry, i really could.

suchawimp Sat 20-Jul-13 16:32:57

Raising Homemakers has posts like Training the Undomestic Daughter, Raising Feminine Daughters and Raising Wives - plus the weekly link up of over a hundred blog pages. Just wow.

Got a strange fascination with the whole thing.

Then there is the blog Women Living Well with over 60 thousand likes on Facebook - Youtube videos about being a 50s wife, a stepford wife and teaching our daughters that homemaking has value.

Bunnylion Sat 20-Jul-13 16:46:46

I've yet to see one of these types of websites/groups that are not based on religious ideology.

PearlyWhites Sat 20-Jul-13 17:10:42

I am proud of being a homemaker and sahm.

tribpot Sat 20-Jul-13 17:14:53

But presumably you don't agree with the statement your husband will always be your biggest and oldest child that requires the most adult supervision, PearlyWhites? It's appallingly sexist for one thing.

As has been said repeatedly on this board, the problem is not raising women - or indeed men - to see SAHP as a valid choice, it's raising them to see it as the only choice.

TheFallenNinja Sat 20-Jul-13 17:31:39

I'm a homemaker and sahd. I work bloody hard for my family and still retain my own identity.

I'm proud of what I achieve.

TheFallenNinja Sat 20-Jul-13 17:32:44

I'm certainly nobodies big child. These sites do frustrate me.

suchawimp Sat 20-Jul-13 17:36:29

"When you’re running errands, are you preaching that mothering children and keeping the home is an honorable profession, something worth getting dressed nicely for and tackling with a smile on your face because you know your labor is not in vain? Or are you confirming the popular idea that housewifery turns you into a slovenly, unkempt, aged and ragged woman?"

Eyesunderarock Sat 20-Jul-13 17:42:42

'Or are you confirming the popular idea that housewifery turns you into a slovenly, unkempt, aged and ragged woman?"'

I tend to find that working turns me into a slovenly, unkempt ragged woman, old before her time.

PearlyWhites Sat 20-Jul-13 17:43:17

No tribpot I don't agree with that statement

EATmum Sat 20-Jul-13 17:50:18

Surely they can't be for real. Sigh

nooka Sat 20-Jul-13 17:52:36

I'm teaching both my children that looking after your home and family is a necessary part of life, and I hope giving them a few useful skills. So I suppose I am in some ways 'raising homemakers'. I just don't discriminate between my son and daughter, and I certainly have no intention of infantalising my dh (who does more than his fair share of homemaking in any case).

I have a dd with some quite 'butch' tendencies and my ds is currently an out and out brony. I am rather pleased that they both like pushing the stereotypes.

suchawimp Sat 20-Jul-13 18:14:27

Sites like that seem to put a lot of pressure on women.

Eyesunderarock Sat 20-Jul-13 18:31:14

Sounds good nook, being a homemaker should not be defined by gender.

Eyesunderarock Sat 20-Jul-13 18:31:51

nooka.
I have no idea what happened to the a in my last post. smile

NiceTabard Sat 20-Jul-13 18:54:30

Great site grin

"Painting a picture of biblical femininity"

Super grin

NiceTabard Sat 20-Jul-13 18:55:29

I like this:

"My little girls were sitting playing dolls on the floor together when the 6yo came up to me and said, “Mom, you’ve just got to sew us a prince for our dolls!”

To which I replied, “You know, I really, really need to do that–your princesses need a prince!” She immediately ran over to her sisters and proclaimed, “Mom says she’s going to make us a prince!” and they all squealed.

It was one of those moments that could have slipped past me–just a normal part of our every-day lives–until I realized the profundity of the whole scenario.

While we are sitting around as a family, reading the Bible aloud or watching a movie together in the evening, I am usually sewing on something, something for my little girls, or mending some jeans for my boys, or crocheting doilies for the furniture. " etc etc and so on.

NiceTabard Sat 20-Jul-13 18:55:51

Oooh

"There are many types of homes, but I think the best of these is where a woman presides as a benevolent monarch in the fashion of Jesus, as the servant of all."

I am loving this site.
Thank you OP grin

MrsWolowitz Sat 20-Jul-13 19:00:06

It's just sad. sad

I will just add though that I'm a Christian and a feminist.

There is actually a book out called "how to feed your husband" I think it's about being a good little wifey hmm

OddSockMonster Sat 20-Jul-13 19:00:17

But I like being unkempt, it's one of the best bits of being a SAHP.

Bonkers sites, they really are. No idea they had such a following though.

NiceTabard Sat 20-Jul-13 19:04:00

The ladies against feminism site is less hilariously bonkers and more utterly terrifying. Just in case anyone was thinking of going over there for a laugh.

suchawimp Sat 20-Jul-13 19:09:49
NiceTabard Sat 20-Jul-13 19:38:48

Good grief to me it's just all totally nutso.

My next door neighbours live this way and when they talk about it with me I never know WTAF to say! I tend to stick to non-committal "hmmm" noises.

grimbletart Sat 20-Jul-13 20:00:42

Personally I think these are the sites to turn to you need a really good spit coffee over your keyboard laugh grin

Nothing like a load of Stepford wackos to feed one's sense of the ridiculous.

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