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Rebecca Meredith: Men discuss my 'rape potential' *trigger warning*

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SingingSilver · 10/03/2013 00:55

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2290789/Men-talk-openly-rape-potential--vile-clever-women-like-Cambridge-undergraduate-tells-shocking-abuse-male-students-elite-university.html

I posted on the original article about female debators being heckled and harassed at Glasgow University, pointing out that these kinds of incidents show that feminism is still very necessary, but I had no idea that there were men on forums chatting amongst themselves about how they would rape her.

She has written a very articulate article (and sensibly has had the Daily Mail disable ratings so the trolls won't be able to indulge themselves.)

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yourioname · 10/03/2013 01:51

That sure is a long headline

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Lilka · 10/03/2013 03:19

Very good article

I know which forum she's on about incidentally

I think that particular thread has been taken down, but they have several threads about Mumsnet....

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Common · 10/03/2013 06:22

Well done SingingSilver for pointing out the article, until these issues are directly and publicly confronted nothing will change.

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slhilly · 10/03/2013 07:00

Maybe it's time to apply a bit of pressure to GUU.

www.guu.co.uk/yourunion/board_of_management

Contact details are at that link

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kim147 · 10/03/2013 09:47

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SplitHeadGirl · 10/03/2013 09:53

I shouldn't be shocked, but I am...WHAT the HELL is wrong with so many men?? Is it hatred of women, or self-hatred that drives them to attack someone smarter and more accomplished than they are? If I was a man reading that this morning, I would be so ashamed of my sex, yet most of them probably will see it as her problem or women's problem.

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FastidiaBlueberry · 10/03/2013 10:07

And we still get told that we don't need feminism.

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Youcanringmybell · 10/03/2013 10:19

Yes that article makes for grim reading..but judging by where some of those remarks have come from about her - I am not surprised.

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FastidiaBlueberry · 10/03/2013 10:58

We're always being told that young people are growing up without sexism, that feminist concerns are unnecessary, that generation of woman-haters are dying out anyway, blah blah.

Bullshit. Woman-hating is alive and well and producing its next generation of vicious misogynists.

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FastidiaBlueberry · 10/03/2013 10:59

Oh and let's bear in mind that these are university students - so supposed to be more educated and enlightened than the average man.

Hmm

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Pego · 10/03/2013 13:21

Dear Rebecca, as a 70 year old man I have seen the whole sex revolution from the start. Over the years it has sadly become more and more serious, when I was growing up women were feminine and men were chivalrous but certain ladies did not like that relationship, indeed I was called a "Chivalrous Bastard" for holding a door open for a middle aged lady in the 1960's, so resentment has built against feminists. In truth both sexes are responsible for the rapid decline in standards. You are clearly a very beautiful young lady, with a very high level of intelligence, when I was your age a young lady like you, would have been able to charm the birds out of the trees, so why has it turned to open warfare between you and young men, and what is the way forward ? First you need to remember that only men who respect you are worth concerning yourself with, then that by only associating with those men, remember that men like to talk big, but it is only talk and not to be taken too seriously. At all times stay well away from the wrong men, don't debate with them or even talk to them, their opinions or beliefs are irrelevant. Also remember that there is more than one way to skin a cat, try using more charm, and yes even your obvious charms to win your argument, it is not always necessary indeed often foolish to take an opponent head on. I wish you every success in your future I'm certain that you will find many men that you can relate too and enjoy long and fruitful debating with.

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MooncupGoddess · 10/03/2013 13:25

Erm, Pego. WTF?

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FastidiaBlueberry · 10/03/2013 14:05

"when I was growing up women were feminine and men were chivalrous".

Femininity was imposed on women and still is and domestic violence from all those "chivalrous" men was as prevalent as it is today.

"so resentment has built against feminists"

Yeah, people whose power base is being attacked tend to resent it.

"when I was your age a young lady like you, would have been able to charm the birds out of the trees"

In other words, it's her fault for not being charming enough. The reason many men were nice to women and allowed themselves to be "charmed" was because women didn't challenge them. When women challenge men, they show their true colours.

"so why has it turned to open warfare between you and young men"

Rebecca's not conducting a war against young men, they're conducting a war on her.

"First you need to remember that only men who respect you are worth concerning yourself with, then that by only associating with those men, remember that men like to talk big, but it is only talk and not to be taken too seriously. At all times stay well away from the wrong men, don't debate with them or even talk to them, their opinions or beliefs are irrelevant"

Right, so leave those men to dominate the public space and just STFU, right?

As for her using more charm - misogynists aren't interested in her charm, they don't believe she has a right to be in that environment because she is a woman.

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PromQueenWithin · 10/03/2013 14:38

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BelaLugosisShed · 10/03/2013 14:53

If inciting terrorism or rioting online is a crime, is what those morons on the arrse hole chat forum ( naafi bar if you really want to see what kind of men think discussing and encouraging rape is funny) ) not a crime too?

Would the police do anything if she had reported the forum? I'd love to see them arrested, put in military prison then thrown out of the army.

It's quite funny that they're obviously scared of mumsnet on there though - they have quite a big thread on us.

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Pego · 10/03/2013 16:23

Fastidiablueberry illustrates the problem, she just wants a war.

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PromQueenWithin · 10/03/2013 16:28

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FloraFox · 10/03/2013 16:38

Pego are you suggesting it's I okay or somehow understandable for men to threaten to rape us if we are not charming enough? Not exactly chivalrous.

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PromQueenWithin · 10/03/2013 16:42

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nilbyname · 10/03/2013 16:45

pego seriously? You are so out of touch I don't know whether to laugh at you or put my head in my hands and cry.

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ubik · 10/03/2013 16:45

I read the article about the GUU debate. Shocking.

What's really sad is the GUU is the 'establishment' student union, populated with future advocates/medics/ politicians - I was go snacked at this behaviour and yes, it goes to show that feminism has a long way to go.

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FloraFox · 10/03/2013 16:47

Yes silly old me Prom! Now the scales have fallen from my eyes!

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OneHandFlapping · 10/03/2013 16:52

"indeed I was called a "Chivalrous Bastard" for holding a door open..."

Honestly some men do go on and on and ON about holding bloody doors open, and giving up seats on trains.

It's not what feminism is about. It never has been. And that teeny tiny little privilege NEVER made up for all the other shit we had (and still have) to do.

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kim147 · 10/03/2013 16:59

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Trekkie · 10/03/2013 17:46

Yes WTF is it with doors? Had a bloke at work the other day banging on about holding doors open. Don't get it.

Also think that advising women to ignore threats of violence is peculiar and dangerous advice.

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