Am driving my brain round in circles on this. I 'know' the answer but I am not feeling it which is just rubbish of me!!!
Ds aged 2yrs 9 months likes to copy everything I do and he looks upset when he doesn't have his own necklace/ bracelet to put on when I'm putting mine on... Sooo, I have bought him a little wooden necklace & bracelet set to put in his stocking. It's green & yellow beads, some round & some flowers, & a cow at the bottom.
So all good so far right?! Except now I have them I'm worried about giving them to him, not cos of him at all, hate people who won't let boys play with toys they label 'girls' in case it's catching!
And yet... Why am I hesitating? It's seeing other peoples reaction as he innocently plays with them, I worry they'll teach him it's wrong & hurt him. And the voice of ex h exhoing with him saying the one thing i cant do is be the male role model for ds and I'll turn him gay! Now I know that's pathetic, esp the gay bit! But it's left a concern as I can't be everything to ds so it's left me a bit sensitive - silly I know. And I want to give ds the best possible environment & exposure to stuff, & protect him from other peoples stereotypes etc.
I guess my protective irrational streak is vying with my core feminist beliefs. Arrrrgh! Hate self! Unravel my thinking please? And don't loathe me tooo much, I know am being an idiot
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DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved · 05/12/2012 00:20
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