five things women do that frighten men off

(129 Posts)
SantaIAmSoFuckingRock Tue 04-Dec-12 21:46:31

anyone seen this 5 things women do that frighten men off?

so basically

1) expect to have no input at all into where your relationship, sorry, his relationship with you, is going

2)hide your real self, poor men cant be expected cope with a real woman

3) do what you were told not to do in no1 and voice your own opinion, but only as far as what you watch on tv. apparently he now wants to date an equal.

4)dont make him jealous, but do.

5)dont have emotions. emotions mean you are out of control and weak.

so, now you all know wink

but seriously, this has to be a piss take. what woman (the tip giver is a female dating 'expert') honestly believes this shit?

ledkr Tue 04-Dec-12 21:50:26

All sounds like a bit of a faff to me. I'd hate to be in a relationship where u had to think about constantly.

AbigailAdams Tue 04-Dec-12 21:51:17

It sounds like a guide to having a relationship with an abuser.

stretch Tue 04-Dec-12 21:51:57

Wow, that is seriously bad. How insulting to both men and women.
If you had to go to that much effort to keep a man interested then why bother?! confused

KarlosKKrinkelbeim Tue 04-Dec-12 21:54:46

She doesn't mention waylaying them with a sharp pair of scissors and a hankie soaked in chloroform. I find that works every time.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock Tue 04-Dec-12 21:55:05

"If you had to go to that much effort to keep a man interested then why bother?! "

because you're nothing without a man, apparently

AbigailAdams Tue 04-Dec-12 21:56:28

grin Karlos

TheCrackFox Tue 04-Dec-12 21:57:31

So basically the advice is do not be yourself and play lots of games instead. What a crock of shit.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock Tue 04-Dec-12 22:08:50

yep, definitley dont be yourself. it scares them. they dont know what to do with you. but it wont be them with the problem it'll be you for being so wout of control and weak.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock Tue 04-Dec-12 22:09:39

out

w isn't even near o confused

BertieBotts Tue 04-Dec-12 22:57:31

It's one of those filler articles rattled off in about five seconds by an author who hasn't given the subject more than a few seconds' thought.

Still, it's a pretty depressing reflection if that's what's rattled off without much thought grin

Grumpla Tue 04-Dec-12 23:04:38

grin @ Karlos

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Tue 04-Dec-12 23:08:08

<vomits>

<publishes proudly as better than that crock of crud>

blueshoes Tue 04-Dec-12 23:09:15

I believe the list is just for the early stages of a relationship.

SolidGoldYESBROKEMYSPACEBAR Tue 04-Dec-12 23:15:40

Actually, though it's badly-worded and slanted, quite a bit of it is sound advice. Thing is, never mind whether these behaviours Put Men Off, they are unhealthy. It's not good to make it clear you're gagging for couplehood on the first date. People who are 'madly in love' within a fortnight of meeting are either desperate or abusive. Agreeing with everything your date says and basically grovelling at his feet is not a good idea, either. And whiny game-playing is an invitation to the other person to do it right back at you.

Basically, what the author means is 'Don't be so fucking desperate to Have A Man that you forget to check whether the one you are currently looking at is worth having in the first place.'

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock Tue 04-Dec-12 23:16:52

does that make the advice better blue?

FelicityWasSanta Tue 04-Dec-12 23:22:26

This is shocking. I didn't think shit like this was still being printed. sad

ruddynorah Tue 04-Dec-12 23:23:33

Eh? Have I read a different article to you all? It's saying be your own person, don't make him the centre of your world, keep your friends, maintain your own interests, don't let some new guy take over your every thought. I agree.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock Tue 04-Dec-12 23:25:09

"Basically, what the author means is 'Don't be so fucking desperate to Have A Man that you forget to check whether the one you are currently looking at is worth having in the first place.' "

i dont think she does solid it's more like, stand still and say nothing till he's either bored of you or decides he's keeping you.

ruddynorah Tue 04-Dec-12 23:26:36

It doesn't say stand still. It says keep busy, keep your own life going. Don't slip into his life too quickly. Don't be needy.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock Tue 04-Dec-12 23:26:59

" It's saying be your own person, don't make him the centre of your world, keep your friends, maintain your own interests," only enough to make him jealous but not too jealous though.

elastamum Tue 04-Dec-12 23:28:09

What a load of old shite! But SGB has a point. If you meet a man worth his salt he will put up with love you for your faults. God knows why, but my DP loves me despite the fact I am an opinionated, independant, loon grin

FelicityWasSanta Tue 04-Dec-12 23:29:23

Women often say that men are scared of commitment. Newsflash: they’re not. What they’re scared of is commitment too soon, and “too soon” simply means “before he’s thought of it himself”. You can’t be the one leading the way when it comes to anything like spending more time together, becoming exclusive, moving in or getting married. All you can do is set your own personal time-limit and then quietly leave when it’s time to get out.

Seriously people don't see anything wrong with this paragraph?? Really?

FelicityWasSanta Tue 04-Dec-12 23:30:12

We’re all insecure but your boyfriend is not the place to seek comfort and reassurance in the early stages

Really? Really?

FelicityWasSanta Tue 04-Dec-12 23:31:53

A real sign of strength is poise – don’t let him see that he gets to you

Now a quick tip from Felicity before I explode... If a man is 'getting at you' you bloody well tell him to shape up or ship out.

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