I had a conversation with my DF on Friday night and she was appalled by my view.
I told her I was seeing a guy on a regular basis for regular BDSM experiences. The setup is great- a good guy who is warm and friendly. But both of us have no interest in a relationship. It is purely an experimentation thing- we meet up, he fulfils me and I leave. I don't think of him when it is happening; i think of BFs or other men I know. I love the feeling- he binds me and play with me, he know what I like, and it is safe as we have an understanding (safely words etc). It tests my limits as he spends time on my increasing the levels, and the sense of anticipation in the days before is insane. He does this with a few women in his area and it is an art thing for him- he remains clothed throughout and gets his kicks from making me express myself and watch me. He loves to tease, so won't let me have it all my own way!
If he was in any way creepy I would not go. He is not. He is just a cool guy who enjoys giving me this fun, and I love being helpless and being used for this. It normally lasts about 90 mins to 2 hrs, and we sit and chat about it after, and he asks me what I liked/disliked, or what I would prefer the next time.
My friend thought I was being used. But I am in control. I dictate the timing (I text him and arrange a time) and I get to stop it at any stage. What he does with me excites me and the release I get from it is amazing. The guy was recommended by another friend and so I knew he was good at this, so really it is me and him, both consensual adults, and both having fun.
So I just feel weird today because of how my friend reacted, but I am not doing anyone any harm right? The whole arrangement might be unusual, but if I love it and he treats me well, then hey life is good, right?
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