Honestly, how many of your child's toys are gender neutral or even toys supposedly for the other gender?
This thought was sparked off by a chat in the children's centre this morning. A woman who otherwise seems pretty in line with equal rights (equal split childcare, not overly girly etc) expressed shock at my one year old's pink dolly (he's a boy) and pink cardo. Her girl (and another) were in shorts/ playing in the mud, typical 'tom boys' to quote my nan. However seeing my son enjoy all things girly provoked quite a debate on if this was 'fair' for him to 'encourage'. I don't encourage it, I simply let him play with any toy regardless of the gender it's aimed at. He plays with a mix of things, and as part of that he love pink and glitter/ shiney things. alongside his love of cars and mud To me equal means both sexes free to choose, simply being oneself. I haven't thought about it much, just did what is nautral to me but his bloody pink cardigan is starting to feel like a huge political statement I need to jutify constantly (Which although I'm happy to do so it feels sad, it just a nice top). It got me thinking though:
- How hard it is to buy any gender neutral toy/ clothing now. In BHS yesterday there were two baby ranges- blue and pink. Every toy in sainsburys on the way home was clearly aimed at a certain gender, with many otherwise gender neutral toys, such as mini-laptops, being made in blue and pink only.
- One woman identified herself as a 'feminist' when showing off her daughters outfit clothes. Was her brand of feminist simply rejecting 'effeminate' things as worthless/ superficial whilst valuing traditionally male looks, manners and activities/ traits? How often do we fall into this trap? Judging pink and sparkly as shallow/ silly whilst respecting tamer/ manly looks.
- 'Tomboys' are generally seen as normal, yet little boys with tutus or dollies are seen by a wide part of the population as 'not right' with a potential trans-gender/ gay future ahead, we can even be encouraged and needs to be stamped out of them effectively.