dadod2, I am in the pro-feminst camp, definitely.
Further, I think that if men are going to identify as as pro-feminist then they have to actually get it. They can't just be some man who has strolled by because it might be interesting to theoretically explore feminist ideas and have a jolly good debate, and y'know, it all sounds very right-on, but someone who is an actual ALLY.
That means not telling women how to do feminism, not being defensive, and just copping the fuck to it when a woman points out that he is being dominant and exercising male privilege.
I also have a problem (here, specifically) with women being put in a position when they are saying, "men [as a group] behave in this way" to be expected to to always have to add, "except dadof2, obviously. And men like dadof2".
A feminist forum is not and should never be a place where women are having to big up the handful of men who are behaving like decent human beings which is no more than exactly how they ought to be behaving. The fact that dadof2 might not engage in that particular behaviour under discussion does not detract from the fact that men-as-a-group do engage in it.
How on earth can it be useful to feminsts or move feminists thinking forward for dadof2 to be piping up every five minutes to tell us that he is horrified by the issue we are discussing, it's awful that women have to deal with such things and of course he personally would never engage in such behaviour (thereby we all have to give dadof2 a big cookie for being such a Great Guy) . It is unacceptable for men to assume any kind of centralised position or dominating discussions. Men must get absolutely no kudos from women for being on here.
dadof2's view is not more valid than a woman's on here by dint of the fact that he sees himself as is unusual in that he is a man who identifies as feminist, and therefore has some kind of unique insight.
In actual fact, men are least qualified members to comment on most of the issues discussed here. As a white person, I would always bow to the actual lived experience of a person of colour in a racial equality group and not presume that my "white perspective" holds just as much weight and authority. So I definitely have no time for any man on here using the phrase "well, from a male perspective". We hear everything, all the time from a bloody male perspective. This is a rare place where male views aren't dominant and dadof2 needs to know that and be sensitive to that, not charging in with his opinion on every thread posted.
As a final point, if you want to really want to be helping the feminist cause in an internet based way, here's what I think pro-feminst men ought to be doing:
Not hanging around feminist forums looking for liberal kudos but by doing battle with other men.
This means going to horrible misogynist internet sites and arguing with the posters there. It means calling out misogynist men in the workplace and on the street.
In other words, doing stuff that won't get them pats on the back by feminist women but will get them grief from misogynist men. That's real pro-feminist work.
PS - Dadof2 - this applies to all male posters here. It's not personal - I've put your name in as you're the one asking these questions as related to you. Also, it's just my opinion. Other feminist have different ideas.