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A story I need to tell. I feel it belongs here.

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EvilEyeButterPie · 08/11/2010 10:47

My first "boyfriend" was a 23 year old. I was 16, and he didn't want me to tell people we were "together" as he said he wanted to protect me. so he would ring me up when he got home from clubbing and I would sneak out of my parents house for sex.

He was also shagging my best mate, also 16, and later I discovered he was shagging my sisters 14 year old mate (while being paid by her mum to give maths tuition). He had told us all that he loved us and was just waiting till we were old enough to marry us.

I witnessed him once, after I had wised up to him but was still a bit hung up on him (I took an overdose because of that twat- luckily only a teenage, ineffective overdose, but still, he didn't deserve that importance in my life) sit and comfort said 14 year old about a sexual assult she had suffered, ply her with drink, and when she was nearly passed out (but still weakly saying no), he put his hands down her pants. I am really glad that I had the strength of mind to chuck him out, and then ring my ex best mate who was staying at his house, waiting for her "boyfriend" to come home. We were all really drunk on booze he had brought round and encouraged us to drink.

She didn't beleive me. They are now married, as far as I can tell, and I hear rumours he is teaching in a private girls school (he never finished his teaching degree, but I hear he doesn't need it as the school is private)

Said 14 year old carried on going to him for gcse tuition, and even told us that she felt guilty helping them get ready for the wedding, as she knew that the man was only marrying the 16 year old because she was mentally unstable, and he would divorce her as soon as the 14 year old was old enough to marry.

I keep wanting to track him down and do...something...but I have no idea what, or whether anyone would beleive me. It was all nearly 10 years ago, his wife is estranged from her family, his family are pillars of the community in my old village (although he doesn't live there any more) and I would be easily debunked because of my history of mental illlness since then.

i KNOW it happened though. I know it.





Sorry, no idea why that story came out. In fact, it started off in the jailbait thread, but I'll post it on a fresh one instead.

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EvilEyeButterPie · 08/11/2010 10:56

I'm not going mad here, am I? That's not right.

Until I read the jail bait thread I had it down as a general "twat ex boyfriend" story, but now...

What can I do though, apart from sound like some kind of mental ex girlfriend/peodophile hysterical rumour monger?

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BeerTricksPotter · 08/11/2010 11:04

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EvilEyeButterPie · 08/11/2010 11:07

Oh God, he has a daughter, she was about 3 or 4 back then. I hope to God it was just a bit of a dodgy period in his life.

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EvilEyeButterPie · 08/11/2010 11:10

Could the police do anything though? Me and the other 16 year old were over the age of consent, and he married her, so she is hardly likely to speak out, and the 14 year old could have been exaggerating. I know what I saw though. I can hardly send her a facebook message saying "hey, remember that sexual predator from ten years back? Were you making it up or what?" can I?

Although I don't think she was making it up, she did, like a lot of kids, exaggerate stuff that had happened to her.

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RealityBomb · 08/11/2010 11:14

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EvilEyeButterPie · 08/11/2010 11:16

I don't know what school it is. It is all just rumours, the rumours say which city he now lives in, but that is it. I suppose I could google the city and look at the schools.

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EvilEyeButterPie · 08/11/2010 11:40

I've found a school in that area with a maths teacher of his name, but no idea if it is him (very common name), also it is state, although I suppose he could have finsihed his teaching degree in this time.

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ISNT · 08/11/2010 12:07

Are there any helplines you could call and ask them what you can/should do?

Maybe you could ring the police and tell them about it and see what they say. I know that I'd want to do something anon to start with in case they weren't interested. That's just me though Confused

This stuff is hard isn't it.

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