Right, I'm thinking on the hoof at bit here, so bear with me.
I was listening to Roald Dahl's biography on r4 on Thurs. It described the period in his life when he divorced Patricia O'Neil, who he had nursed back to health after a stroke & married a woman with whom he had been having an affair for 10 years. Basically it ascribed his great burst of creativity & productivity towards the end of his life (bfg, witches etc) to getting out of his unhappy marriage & to the 'peaceful' and 'comfortable' environmen created for him by his second wife.
Now, I don't have a problem with this per se & I don't want to make this about RD himself, he didn't write this book & he might have disagreed strongly. O course we all work better when we are happy than when we are unhappy.
However, it seemed to me to be a perfect example of this prevailing attitude in society that women are there primarily to enable the comfort/acievement of other people. I.e. It's the wife who looks after the home/child care so that the man can get on with achieving stuff. It's the mother who feeds & cleans & does homework so the child can acheive at school. It's the grown up daughter who cares for the elderly parent because her brothers couldn't be expected to. I know that lots of men do all those things but the expectation of society is that women do them.
So my question is, is the idea that women are caring enablers actually completely poisonous & oppressive?
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TheFowlAndThePussycat · 11/09/2010 08:23
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