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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 16:20

Tentative!

Um, the way I see it is that a lot of porn (I have heard) is appallingly violent and degrading for women. This stuff, ideally wouldn't exist and should be banned (how, I don't know, but ideally).

However, the porn that I have seen or enjoyed is not. I wouldn't enjoy porn that is degrading.

So, why is all porn bad? (in some people's opinions?) If it isn't degrading and is equal in its approach, for the entertainment of others, then I don't see any harm.

Is the argument that you don't get the 'good' porn without the bad?

Don't flame me please, I really want this to be a considered conversation.

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 17:21

Grin maybe no one has an opinion on this?

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dittany · 02/09/2010 17:33

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 17:34

I'm trying to distinguish between the violent, degrading stuff and the non-degrading consensual filmed sex.

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lifeissweet · 02/09/2010 17:36

At the risk of being seen as joyless and prudish (I am neither), I am with Dittany on this. I am no expert on porn but what constitutes 'good' porn? Ok, it might be the kind of porn that looks consensual and, maybe, no one looks to be physically hurt by it, but how can you possibly know that's the case?

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 17:37

Well I guess I don't know. So are you saying because I don't know then I should assume it isn't?

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dittany · 02/09/2010 17:40

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 17:44

I don't have a clue about producers of porn.

Some people are very willing to degrade themselves in exchange for money, I'm thinking big brother contestants!

Perhaps it depends on what you define as sexual torture. What is your sexual torture may not be someone else's I guess. This doesn't mean there aren't legal definitions of course.

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lifeissweet · 02/09/2010 17:44

I think the industry is well known for exploiting women - and in a way that is often not obvious from watching the stuff. I can't imagine a life where I did that for a living and I would hate for a daughter of mine to do it too (I have none, thankfully, because I would worry for them).

Apart from all that, viewing porn of any kind is feeding the industry that is undermining women's progress in the world and wildly confusing our young people about what women and sex are about.

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 17:46

I agree with what you're saying in respect to some porn, but surely not all of it?

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dittany · 02/09/2010 17:48

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lifeissweet · 02/09/2010 17:52

I would add psychological torture - the sort of coercion that is not immediately obvious. The sort that makes women take mind-numbing drugs to block out what's happening to them. The may appear to be having straightforward sex and consenting, but you still don't know whether they are being very damaged.

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 17:53

Well, I don't necessarily agree that people in porn are being degraded for money. I made that comment in response to your judgement that they were being degraded for money.

I haven't watched porn for years actually, but I used to. I guess I'm talking about the kind of porn where it is just sex, no violence or misogyny (which I agree, is out there though I haven't personally subjected myself to watching it).

In my OP I tried to make the distinction between 'bad' porn where all the sexual torture stuff went on, and 'good' porn which is more like what I described above. I.e respecting another persons humanity

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dittany · 02/09/2010 18:01

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lifeissweet · 02/09/2010 18:05

I, personally, have never seen porn that is not degrading to women, or centred on male fantasies. I am no expert and haven't seen much, but there seems to be a lot of focus on penises and blow jobs and lots of plastic looking women with that acceptable porn body that seems to have taken over our culture (skinny with massive breasts).

None of that does anything for me.

If you have found something that is not degrading to women in how it portrays them and that is more tailored to a woman's sexual experience and that you know for sure has not been made by exploiting anyone at all then I would like to hear about it.

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 18:07

If it is degradation and objectification of women's bodies, it is of men's too. Seeing as it is in the sex context and not in the workplace or outside of the bedroom then I'm not sure that is a problem.

I have read some feminist arguments against porn and I wholeheartedly agree with them in reference to torture porn. I'm not sure it applies to softer core porn.

I'm not sure I'm out to defend it. My position is that I'm not sure that all porn is bad and seeing as there are a lot of people who disagree with me, I am out to discuss this with them to see if I'm missing something I guess. I haven't done a lot of things but I nevertheless can have an opinion on them.

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dittany · 02/09/2010 18:12

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 18:21

I agree that Nuts is degrading and not ok.

Can we accept that I'm not talking about violent porn?
With that in mind, how is it more degrading to the woman than the man? Simply because she is being penetrated? If so, that is like saying all sex is degrading.

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 18:22

SGM, I dunno, am I thinking of porn that doesn't exist? Where it's just 2 people having sex for fun?

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 18:22

natch - but being paid!

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GypsyMoth · 02/09/2010 18:29

and what about male porn?? is that viewed the same way?

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msrisotto · 02/09/2010 18:38

The woman is acting as a proxy too. It depends on the viewer.

I classify Nuts as different because that is solely about the objectification of women for men whereas porn can be for both men and women.
Again, how is just the woman being degraded (if you view sex on film as necessarily degrading)?

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MillyR · 02/09/2010 18:39

Dragonfly, I do think that participation in the sex industry is damaging to many of the men involved.

MsRisotto, I don't agree with pornography but I think that some pornography is more problematic than others in terms of public visibility, impact on the viewer and impact on the performer.

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