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feel sad im not being given away by the right person.

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Crawling · 28/04/2013 06:57

My mum had mental health isssues and while my dad was a user of speed he tried very hard to make sure I saw very little. He was always there for me and sometimes It felt like It was just him and me.
.When I was 15 he had amphetamine pychosis and ended up hurting my mum physically and I had to step in.

After that he refused to see me as I was better off without him and he didnt want to hurt me again. I feel he earned the right to walk me down the aisle he sounds like a abusive drug user but he was a good dad and was always there when I needed him and he Did take care of me.

But he wont be coming to the wedding. Sorry for depressing post in such a happy topic but I had to tell someone How I feel.

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dogsandcats · 28/04/2013 07:33

Are you saying you have asked him and he has said no?

Crawling · 28/04/2013 07:52

He left no means for me to contact him when he left. I dont even know If he is alive.

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dogsandcats · 28/04/2013 08:25

When is your wedding ?

Crawling · 28/04/2013 08:27

July 5th this year.

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AKissIsNotAContract · 28/04/2013 08:30

So who is walking you down the aisle?

My dad isn't coming to my wedding either. My mum is walking in with me.

dogsandcats · 28/04/2013 08:35

I would suggest trying to track him down.
But this may take a long time. Or not?
I suppose it would be up to you as to whether that is a good idea so close to your wedding date?

Crawling · 28/04/2013 09:07

My uncle who is more like a brother is walking me down the aisle I think im just gonna accept things as they are and consider whether to track down after the wedding.

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AKissIsNotAContract · 28/04/2013 09:13

This is probably really obvious but have you tried looking for him on Facebook? You still have time to find him if that is what you want.

dogsandcats · 28/04/2013 09:13

I think that is probably a good idea.
I should imagine that finding someone again after a number of years is going to be emotional for several people.

Glad you are going to have your uncle there on you wedding day.
Hope you will still have a lovely day. And if you choose and are able to find your dad, he will be able to see some lovely photos.

dogsandcats · 28/04/2013 09:14

My reply was to Crawling's post.

Crawling · 28/04/2013 09:19

I am fb friends but he doesnt go on there ever.

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AKissIsNotAContract · 28/04/2013 09:35

But if you messaged him on FB he might get an email notification.

Crawling · 28/04/2013 09:38

Ill think about It Thanks all.

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littleflowerlady · 28/04/2013 11:55

Poor you.

My Dad was diagnosed with cancer three months before our wedding. He was very poorly. I found out the day before he wouldn't be able to make it to the wedding.

Can you do an extensive Google search? I'm amazed what I've found when I've tried to find people online. It's a bit scary actually!

ginauk84 · 30/04/2013 13:34

My dad died 10 years ago and I am upset he never walked me down the aisle last year. If you don't try and contact him you might regret it? So do think about it .

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