Getting married with just dc's, how to tell people?

[Toddle]

Me and Dp are getting married in 6 weeks tomorrow . For several reasons we haven't told family and friends.

I've seen threads on here before and know others have done the same sort of thing. If so any ideas/tips on the best way to tell people?

We haven't made our mind up whether to ask two friends to be witnesses or just approach two strangers on the way. I cringe at asking strangers directions so not sure how I would feel asking a stranger to come to my wedding. I know people on here have done that too so if you did what did you say?

[cocolepew]

Congratulations .

What are your reasons for not telling anyone?

[Toddle]

We were going to get married in a year or so but we have decided why wait now seems as good a time as any

Reasons we aren't telling people...

Were getting married because we love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together not to provide a party for Tons of family

My mother is so toxic it is untrue. Nothing is easy with her and everything is soooo stressful. The final straw of me telling Dp she would never be at my wedding was my graduation (May drag a bit feel free to skip but ive seen people say before how parents would be so disappointed so just want to show why I'm not so bothered about that with her if that makes sense).

She made out she was so proud and wanted to come to see me graduate later realised it was just to see and go inside the cathedral so i said fine. She spends all her benefits and my sisters child benefit on rubbish so she never has any money. So I ended up buying tickets, dresses, hiring a taxi to take us from home and back as me and Dp dont drive but if just us two we could have had a lift. The dresses turned into a huge headache mine was £10 from primark didn't like it but it served its purpose. Nothing was good enough for her ended up buying at least 5 then her saying no still They were too long/short/light/dark etc etc. I got one in the end that cost more then any dress I own that she would wear. The day came getting ready at mine dress on dress of back on again. Starting winging 5 mins before taxi due I said I didn't have time to deal with her talking nonsense about straps to thin so she took it of as the taxi pulled up outside went home and left my sis with me and Dp! I'm kind of numb to most of her nonsense but even that had me in tears.

I don't know my dad so that's him out.

Dp would be happy to have his parents there I think but if his parents came so would granny and x and y and z etc. then if his granny etc came mine should really as there nice but I couldn't have them without my mother. So before we know it theres 50+ people and the registry office holds 20. Half of mine and dp's family live miles away so would be a pain with finding a date getting everyone here etc.

Money were skint. It's in the registry office I'll wear a dress from the wardrobe if I have one I can feed baby in if not I will buy one just plain can wear everyday from George/matalan/primark kind of dress. Dp dressed from wardrobe, ds in what ever I put him in and dss in what ever he gets dressed in. Dp's wedding ring was his grandads if he can have it resized if not he says he will get a cheap band. My engagement ring is white gold so I don't know whether to go for a silver band or white gold plated thing from eBay. It will eventually be upgraded to white gold when I return to work after having baby so only needs to be fine for a year maybe.

[sashh]

Why not contacct the register office, say you have no witnesses and could a couple of staff witness the wedcding - then no asking strangers.

Howw to tell people - have a photograph taken - maybe just of your hands with wedding rings - have a load printed out and just write "we did it! and the date" and send them like postcards.

Good luck, all the right reasons to get married.

[threeleftfeet]

I agree, just do it! Then tell them you have.

IMO it might be nice to share the event with a couple of friends?

If not I'm sure you could find a couple of mumsnetters who were up for being witnesses!

[Athrawes]

Just do it. We went to Vegas and told no one, for the same reasons, that it was about US and not THEM. Best thing we ever did. None of the real friends and family minded and those who love us were pleased for us.
The only downside is, you get no presents!! (Fair enough - they got no cake!)