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So how soon would you buy your wedding dress if you saw the perfect one at the perfect price?

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sonotmumsie · 03/05/2012 21:21

But its 18 mths away?! Would you?

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plantsitter · 03/05/2012 21:22

Now! Definitely - as long as DP knew we were getting married ;)

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emsyj · 03/05/2012 21:23

You are only really 6 months ahead of yourself anyway - so I would. But then - here's the thing - STOP LOOKING AT DRESSES. Can you do that? If not, don't buy it! If you will be relieved to stop shopping then go for it!

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AKMD · 03/05/2012 21:24

Yes. I couldn't believe how far in advance I would have needed to buy a dress from a bridal salon.

Odds are you won't have drastically changed shape by the time you get married so any alterations would look fine.

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WhenDoISleep · 03/05/2012 21:27

Agree with emsyj buy it now but only if you are absolutely positive that it is THE DRESS and that you will stop looking at other dresses on the web/ in magazines / in shops now.

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sonotmumsie · 03/05/2012 21:30

I think I probably need to go and try some one first to check what style/colour I like. This one is online, but I'm scared if I don't get it it'll go out of stock, then I'll be forced to spend loads. I might not even like it when if I order it and it comes!

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AKissIsNotAContract · 03/05/2012 21:34

Every bride I know has said they had an idea of the type of dress they liked, then when they tried it on it was all wrong and they ended up with something completeley different. You really need to go and try some on.

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AKMD · 03/05/2012 21:38

Ah. Online.

No, I wouldn't. I picked my dress online, tried it on in-store and it was horrid.

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AKMD · 03/05/2012 21:38

I ended up with the dress behind it on the rack :)

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RedBlanket · 03/05/2012 21:43

Your be sick of the sight of it in 18 months time. Leave it a while.

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emsyj · 03/05/2012 21:43

Don't order online. I sell wedding dresses and lots of brides come to me after seeing my website with a fixed 'I want X dress' in their head and they rarely order the one they liked in the pictures - very often they order one that they didn't notice or care for on the website.

I hate it when people email me wanting to buy without trying on - I discourage it, they look so different when you put them on.

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sonotmumsie · 03/05/2012 22:29

emsyj - whereabouts is your shop? website?

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startail · 03/05/2012 22:34

Somehow my aunt got her wires crossed and I got bows on my shoulders and no bow at the back, but I didn't see my dress finished till 4 hrs. before I walked into church. I didn't have chance to worry about it.

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Mosman · 03/05/2012 22:38

NO don't do it.

I bought three wedding dresses in total because I bought the wrong one too early and then found something much much nicer and lost the money on the first one.
DH understood - eventually.

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Mosman · 03/05/2012 22:41

Agree with what others have said about trying on too.
My sister had an idea in her mind of what she wanted and got a designer to make it for her.
Well my mum and I went with her for her final fitting and she looked like a sack of shit in it.
The dress maker had done exactly what she'd asked for but on it looked awful, luckily there was time to start again make alterations.

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sayanything · 03/05/2012 22:53

I bought mine then and there. First and only one I tried on.

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emsyj · 04/05/2012 08:40

I sell exclusively 50s style short dresses - I don't think I am allowed to post the link on here, PM me if you want the web address Smile.

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RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief · 04/05/2012 08:49

You need to make an appointment at a few places, go with a trusted friend (and take shoes), and try a load on- most good places will give you a variety and make suggestions. I ended up with a fish tail, which i would have completely discounted as I thought would make my arse look huge, but actually worked really really well.

Another tip- save enough from your budget for some decent, supportive underwear.

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emsyj · 04/05/2012 09:03

Definitely try on things that you don't think much of on the hanger, be open to suggestions from the assistant helping you as they see all the dresses on different body shapes regularly and might just be able to point you to a gem that you wouldn't otherwise have tried on - I would say 20% of my orders are for dresses that I have suggested to brides that they would not otherwise have tried. You may be surprised that the Trinny & Susannah 'things that flatter you' rules don't really apply to wedding dresses and you do need to put them on to find what looks best for you.

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wonkylegs · 04/05/2012 09:16

I saw the perfect dress online, I was convinced.... It's not the dress I got married in. In fact if you'd asked me before I tried dresses on if I'd even have tried the one I had on I would have said no but wedding dresses are very different on you than hanging up or on a model much more so than regular clothes.
My perfect online dress, stunning on the web - once on was actually a bit 'meh'.... My actual dress was suggested by the fab lady in the shop and I wouldn't have picked it off the rail in a million years but on me .... Bloody stunning and I knew it was right the moment it was on despite the ridiculousness of having to stand on a box and be pinned into the sample (I'm tiny)
Go try some dresses on ... you may surprise yourself, if you don't then you can always go back to your original choice.
I would also say I didn't change shape/size much before the wedding but some brides do, so be careful if your weight fluctuates too much, some styles can accommodate this others can't (I have been at a wedding where the poor bride, my friend was reduced to weeping in the loos because she could hardly breathe in her dress, couldn't walk properly (tight skirt) and needed an army of assistants to pee as her dress which had originally fitted fine was a bit to tight & restrictive by the wedding. )

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ViviPru · 04/05/2012 12:49

Well I disagree.

I bought mine online from a the week I got engaged, over a year before the wedding. I checked the return policy just in case.

I love it. It's around a size too small which is fine as I plan to be a size smaller by then (and am well on the way) and it's the best incentive I've ever had to get fit. I love the fact that what could have been a big, time-consuming, expensive and potentially frustrating task has been ticked off. I know I will love it in a years time. I know myself and my tastes.

What's the harm in ordering a dress if you are able to return it for a full refund if you change your mind? (most online orders are covered by distance selling regulations anyway)

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sonotmumsie · 09/05/2012 18:11

oh no, the perfect dress is now at even more of a perfect price. Do I order it whilst its 20% off, I can return it free for full refund. I guess I'll either like it or not and if not it'll put my mind at rest! What do I do?! Also got matching shoes with 20% off - do I get those too?

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IWantSummer · 09/05/2012 18:16

If you can return it free -why not!

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sonotmumsie · 09/05/2012 18:22

I know, I know! But I have to return it before I go dress shopping with my bridesmaid! Wish I knew how long the sale was on for!

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milk · 18/05/2012 18:00

I bought my dress before DH proposed Blush

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