Getting married in 5 weeks and it's an extremely quiet affair, party money and partly I've been married before 10 years ago. So 12 guests at most. I have invited my parents but they r putting a bit if a dampened on things. They are trying to play down everything when in fact it's wonderful I've actually found the man I want to spend the rest if my life with. ESP after my previous marriage was so volatile. New dh has never been married. I've been putting off asking my dad if he'd walk me in as I knew he would get all 1950s about it! He said in his most grumpy of voices we should walk in together. He said he would think about it. I didn't ask him to give me away as in his head I went a long time ago, but it choked me right up as I know he'd getting all disapproving. Now I just feel like saying forget it don't come at all! I can't have them making the whole day miserable. My new dh doesn't deserve that. If it was one of my children(I have 5) I'd stand by them no matter what. I knew he'd be like this. Dh's dad passed away 10 years ago and dh would have loved him to be there and yet my dad has to get all disapproving! I can walk in on my own but I wish I didnt have to. :((
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Well I don't actually mean give me away I meant walk me in and support me! Give is the wrong word to use really. 
i have 4 sons but only the 5mo is attending, which is our son together. We have 10 children between us and made the decision for none of them to go. Long story! Logistics and potential upset so kids r all going to Thorpe park instead 
with us the following week! They don't feel too hard done by and have accepted we can have just one day to ourselves 
but it does leave my side of the church empty except my bf! I went through hell the first time around with ex. I never dreamed life could be as good as it is now even if exceptionally complicated! But between both my parents they r being so difficult. They actually really like my new dh. But they are belittling the whole day. I did have a good chat about it to my mum before we even invited them as i knew the potential would be they'd spend the day disapproving but she promised they wouldn't. But so far they have made me feel really inadequate about the whole thing. 
You might well be right northey. What about uninviting them? I love them to bits but it's not fair they ruin the day with balloons popping out of their heads and raised eyebrows!
You can be nosy Meryl its fine! Children range from 17 down, 6 live with us permanently and the rest visit frequently except the older 2 both 17 yo dds who have an amazing social life and dint see often! Virgin I am certainly not trying to be !! Just after all the shit I went through (ex was violent and adulterous) I know I'm making the right decision for all the right reasons! I agree I may be a tad emotional as even the smallest wedding is proving stressful! My mum keeps insisting we dint want a fuss! She suggested I drive myself there in my v broken muddy galaxy. And my dress is strapless and shes told me I'm too old to wear anything like that. (I'm sooooo old I'm 32) 
Yes I know that meryl! She's just being a dinosaur! And when did parents ever approve of what you wear??? Just love dh so much I don't want him to feel slighted that he hasn't had a proper wedding, whatever that is?! I might be over thinking things again as he's v laid back!
In the end dad did walk me In! the vicar was Great and omitted the line "who gives this woman to be married to this man" he said it's mostly inappropriate for e drone these days x it wAs such a wonderful day. My dad after all the reservations even gave a speech and gave me a big cuddle at the end both of us in tears telling me to be happy always
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