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Would you go on Don't Tell The Bride or anyone actually applied for or been on it?

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nappyaddict · 24/02/2012 11:04

I think I'd like to get married quite quickly after engagement purely because I'm not very organised and I have the feeling if I don't do it pretty much straight away I'll never do it and I'll end up being one of those people who is engaged forever and a day.

I would have to pretend to be a real control freak and uber organised though and DP would have to pretend to be dippy and useless like he couldn't even pair up socks .... They never have a couple where the bloke's actually organised and the woman's actually laidback do they?

Also out of interest how long was the gap between your engagement and your wedding cos I've known everything from 3 weeks to about 20 years! What's the "norm" or is there one? My friend did it in 22 weeks and 4 days which seemed perfect to me so I reckon about 5 or 6 months is ideal. Not so short it's all rush rush and an inconvenience cos it's short notice but doesn't drag on forever.

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CMOTDibbler · 24/02/2012 11:07

If it wasn't that we've been married 15 years, I'd go on it as I trust dh completely, and am not fussy about that sort of thing.

We were engaged 14 months. It didn't really drag on as we found a venue, booked that, and then didn't do anything else for 6 months tbh

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wannaBe · 24/02/2012 11:07

presumably if it's don't tell the bride it's not the bride that applies? [confused. but in answer to your question, no, I would disown my dh if he ever set me up for something like that.

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Ephiny · 24/02/2012 12:42

DP is doing most of the organising for our wedding anyway, so not sure it would make much sense for us!

For us the engagement will be about 3 months, but then it's going to be a small wedding so not too much to arrange. And we've been together 10 years so it doesn't feel like we're rushing into it!

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nappyaddict · 27/02/2012 15:29

I think you apply as a couple.

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nappyaddict · 27/02/2012 15:34

Sorry I have been informed by my friend it was arranged in 22 weeks and 2 days, then 3 weeks before she cancelled it and re arranged it for 2 days after the original date lol. She was very lucky that they weren't booked already for a bank holiday monday!

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rubyrubyruby · 28/02/2012 08:42

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nappyaddict · 29/02/2012 11:00

Oooh where was it?

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CupOfBrownJoy · 29/02/2012 11:07

We got engaged at the end of October and are getting married end of July, so 9 months.

We live abroad, so have done the bare minimum so far to organise. I got my dress when I was home at Christmas, booked the venue, band and registry office. Have done nothing since then (well, thought a bit about music and readings but not really done anything about it). Am coming home for 3 days at Easter, when I plan to have a dress fitting, meet my hairdresser for a chat and look for flowers, if we decide to have them.

So, I don't feel as if you really need that long to organise everything - apart from the dress ( mine was going to take 9 months to order but in the end we bought the sample)

I encourage you to read a wedding magazine simply because they are hilarious.... beekeeping theme anyone? Circus themed with trapeze?? Hmm

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PrincessWellington · 29/02/2012 11:08

I applied and you have to send in a report about yourselves and photos. I never heard back even though our ideas were quite original compared to the weddings they have shown.

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rubyrubyruby · 29/02/2012 11:15

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BeckyBrandonNeeBloomwood · 22/03/2012 12:55

We were engaged for a couple of years before we started actually organising our wedding. Between wedding being booked and actual wedding day was less than 6 months.

I applied for dont tell the bride but didnt get very far in the selection process. Its almost all set up anyway, eg. they already have 2-3 venues penciled in and send the groom to view them - essentially the groom has a shortlist of pre booked things to choose from.

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Fluffycloudland77 · 07/04/2012 18:57

I would imagine they pick the dippiest grooms tbh, tv's all a set up.

Bit cruel really.

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wheresthepopcorn · 14/04/2012 10:13

No i wouldn't go on it. I once went on a TV 'reality' show once (not this one), naively thinking it was fly-on-the-wall and that what was filmed was just the reality. No, the crew were really irritating, constantly trying to feed us lines, trying to get us to repeat lines they were feeding us - stressful and not worth the bother.

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