And could do with a virtual slap I think.
DS is 32 weeks this coming Tuesday. I have been weaning since 26 weeks, and its just not working. He ate tiny amounts blw style and refused puree for the first two weeks bar boxed baby cereals. He got poorly at about 28 weeks and refused all solids and only drank half his milk for about ten days. The week following this he did so well, he had 5 x 8oz bottles and I offered food three times a day an hour after bottles after a couple of days of hoovering up the bits and pieces I offered willy nilly. He worked up to about 3oz milk and 5 ff milk scoop sized scoops of baby cereal, juice and some fruit as finger food, then 6 cubes of veg and a yoghurt for lunch with rice cakes or toast or something, then whatever we have for tea, probably about 6 cubes with veg as finger food. He was even eating lasagne mashed with a fork and really loving it! This all on top of 40oz in bottles.
After about a week or so of this he started leaving some here and there, odd oz in his bottle or a bit in the bottom of the breakfast bowl. One of his feeds is a df at 10pm and I have been reducing this by an oz at a time and I thought he might pick back up but he's just refusing more and more. He won't open his mouth for anything but yoghurt and fruit purée. Oh and toast, he will feed himself toast and sometimes other things. I have tried a loaded spoon and he throws it. I have done a first aid course but still feel far too nervous to go for blw. I literally sit shaking when he is given finger foods, I am rediculous. Tbh I tried giving him less finger foods when he took more purée because of how nervous I get but as I said, he seems to be full on refusing any purée bar yogurts and fruit.
He hasn't had his df for two nights now so goes 7-7 between feeds and 8-7 sleep wise. When he woke this morning I thought he should be hungry enough for breakfast but he flat out refused and after 20 mins I gave him his bottle, which he drained.
So, currently he is offered 32oz, was 40oz. He is a big lad, 20lb 11oz at 30 weeks, and I am stressing over so many aspects of this weaning malarkey. I didn't know if anyone could help or just slap me and make me stop worrying. I have convinced myself 32oz isn't enough for such a big boy, and I have been told by hv so many different things, from putting stuff on a tray and letting him get on with it, to making sure he has no more than 32oz, to replacing a bottle with a meal and just letting him deal with it. Surely if I've taken an entire 8oz he should miss it and replace it with food? Does he just love his milk too much at the minute? I am being way too ott with this aren't I?
Is it definitely better to offer food after a bottle? Feel like I'm always feeding him, but if this is what I'm supposed to do ill do it, I'm just concerned he will keep filling up on milk and never eat. Was also told if he cannot chew lumps by 8 months he won't learn until after 18 months (hv told me).
I think he prefers to feed himself blw style but how do I stop stressing? I just can't get my head around it and don't know what to do for him for the best. I want him to enjoy food and have a healthy relationship with it and good appetite as an adult. My mum thinks its a battle of wills but I don't want to fight with him and 'win'. Technically I could hide veg in yoghurt or trick him with aeroplanes etc but I don't want to trick him or confuse him because I think it'll damage his trust in me.
Help?! Many thanks in advance, and well done for getting to the bottom!
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Kyzordz · 16/06/2013 10:12
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