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Made the right decision!

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horseylady · 03/07/2014 15:43

I don't know if I posted on here about selling my mare? Wed had some bad times together, I had no trust in her and quite literally that was going down the rein and making her worse. We were in a fairly vicious circle which was getting no better and so I chose to sell her. She went to a fabulous home, and is doing brilliantly well with her new owner.

I stepped away from mares, show horses and got offered an eventer who has more scars than I think I've ever seen, but is also one of the most genuine horses I've ever had the fortune of knowing!! He's fabulous!! Totally giving me my confidence back, to the point I've ever my first ever one day event with the hope of doing more!!

I've taken him in a few local workers classes and he's been in the top two on all occasions but I don't really miss showing? It's odd. I thought I would but I've just enjoyed watching and judging then competing in dressage and showjumping?

I spent 5 months decided whether it not to sell, and she was the first horse I've ever sold. It was so hard, but so right. I tried to sell my pony once and pulled out as it felt so wrong.

Just my own musings but I've not been on here for ages so popped back to read and say hi!

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Flexibilityiskey · 04/07/2014 11:16

I'm glad it has worked out for the best for you. It definitely sounds like the right decision. I think often, once the trust goes on both sides, there is no way back.

I had a loan horse I had to give up on. The fifth time I came off him (in 8 months), I sat on the floor and thought "I am not getting back on this time" I felt like a bit of a wimp at the time, but looking back, I think I would have ended up seriously injured or worse if I'd carried on. I now have a fantastic schoolmaster, who I feel like I can do anything on. In over a year of competing and jumping regularly I have not even come close to coming off him once. It is fun again!

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horseylady · 05/07/2014 07:28

I just couldn't believe how low my confidence was!!! It was crazy, I was so worried about rearing, bolting, stopping in junping that I'd forgotten how fun riding actually is!!!

I'm fairly experienced, I've broken in various youngsters for people and my own, that I never thought I'd buy a school master but it's so nice to do that!!! He's just so lovely!

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frostyfingers · 07/07/2014 08:36

It is crazy sometimes that something that is supposed to be fun ends up making us so stressed!

When I first got dhorse I felt that I'd overhorsed myself somewhat and it's taken a while to get to grips with him - at no point was I seriously frightened but I did have doubts about my ability and that as I was the wrong side of 40 perhaps I'd taken on more than I should have. However 3 years on, I feel finally that I've got the measure of him.

I think it takes a good deal of courage to face up to the fact that it's the wrong horse for you so well done and I'm glad you're have better times now.

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elastamum · 07/07/2014 08:47

Lovely post! I think it is often hard to do the right thing. I have on a number of occasions advised people to sell horses that they are scared of or don't get on with.

I think people forget that riding is supposed to be fun, and being over horsed is frightening. so pleased for you Smile

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