Hi, this may sound like a childish problem, but it has really made me sad! My best friend and I kept our horses at the same yard, buddied up well so we shared the load, rode out together, schooled together, had our children at the same time and generally did everything together! Then at the same time I had my third child, her marriage broke up. She decided to get rid of her horse without telling me which, although I fully understand as it was a difficult decision to make, still hurt my feelings. I see her very rarely now and riding has become another chore, rather than the fun, exciting, stress release that it once was.
When had our first children, we promised to try and keep the horses, however hard it was. She obviously couldn't, as her circumstances changed so much, but it has made me question whether I should keep my horse, even though I am able to afford him and i have (just about) the time to devote to him. I have a lovely horse who is capable and easy but I feel like I should give him up and sell him becuase my friend did, and it now seems like a slog and nothing but hard work. Riding was so special for me because of my best friend, but it seems to have changed. There are other ladies at the yard who I ride with and they are lovely, but I do not have the special bond that I shared with my friend. I feel like a school girl getting sad because my best friend is playing with some body else, but I think that, as mothers, a great female friend is even more important now to help with the drudge of every day life. It may be that the long, LONG winter is finally catching up with me and I hope that it will all change with the spring because I do love riding, and my horse, and am totally aware that I am in a very blessed position to have a supportive husband who is keen for me to keep the horse. Has anyone been through anything similar? Any advice how to get my equine mojo back?!
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gowithflow · 03/03/2013 13:31
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