My 5 year old dd (6 at the end of May) started learning to ride just after Christmas.
I had horses and competed in my teens but shattered my ankle show jumping and due to having surgery, in a brace, intensive physio and having to use a stick for a year I lost all sponsorship and with that my horses as I would never be able to ride competitively again, I only have half the bone left in my ankle and I am lucky to be walking without a stick anyway, this is kind of by the by with this, just trying to give the picture of where we are at in regards to horses!
I work at the yard at the moment one day a week now that my ds is at pre-school and will probably do another day after Easter, a perk effect of this is my dd gets free weekly half hour riding lessons.
All has been going very well, dd is very keen and has been loving her lessons and doing well however a week ago I had to be on the yard on the Friday we had an inset day as we had a new pony coming so dh took the day off and dd came to the yard with me, friend who is also the instructor and yard manager has a dd in same class at school as my dd and she was at the yard to so we took them out on a little hack, all is good until we take them into the outdoor school and the pony that dd is on (the main one she rides and she loves to death) got shall we say 'the joys of spring' and started side stepping and jogging, this freaked dd out, I was able to reach back and steady her and when it became clear that point was going to continue with the sillys I lifted dd down (from start to finish we are talking about 30 seconds, felt longer!), I am still not sure if I did the right thing, just didn't want her to come off given that she has only just started riding, we swoped the girls over, dd getting on the other pony who was behaving and friends dd (similar age to mine but been riding a few years) got on the pony that was mucking about, dd wasn't keen on getting on the other pony but we talked her round and we just walked straight back up to the yard and then got off (other pony didn't muck about with friends dd), my dd was a bit freaked out but seemed fine and was still looking forward to her lesson the next day although she didn't want to ride her normal pony.
We arrive for lesson the next day and dd is fine, keen as ever until we walked into the indoor school to mount up, friend had put her on the most docile pony they have, he is bombproof and has got to the age where he just can't be bothered to muck about, as soon as she is near the pony she started freaking out, being really skittish, she didn't want to get on (pretended she could't mount), when she did get on she freaked, tried to cling onto me, wanted off. I lead as normal and someone walked alongside reassuring dd and after a few times round in walk dd started to relax a little but was saying she absolutely didn't want to trot, I was telling her she would be fine, pony wasn't going to muck about, other person was there etc, the other person also did the same and we kind of said 'we are trotting' and took the decision from her, dd did fine but then said she wanted off again but we didn't let her and also had her trotting a quarter of the school another 2 times, by the end of the lesson the other person had been able to go away and dd was much better if still very nervous.
Next lesson is tomorrow and due to half term we haven't been able to go to the yard, dd is looking forward to lesson tomorrow but says she is still a little bit scared and although she still loves the pony that mucked about on her she doesn't want to ride her again for a while.
What I want to know is am I doing the right thing in forcing her to stay on and do some trotting, I worry that my own horseyness is clouding my judgement and I am being a pushy Mum about it, I felt slightly vindicated when the other person last week was all 'yes you can do it, we are going to trot off we go' with her (other person is also a Mum though). I don't want dd to give up because she has had a little scare, if she is going to ride properly she is going to have a lot worse then that! I keep telling her the old saying that you can't call yourself a rider until you have had a fall and she has seen somebody come off and then get straight back up and on again (dd wasn't phased by that at all!) and she always smiles at that and says she understands, she is still keen for her lessons and wants a pony when she is older but I do wonder if pushing her through her fear like this is the right thing to do?
Sorry for the massive long post over quite a simple question, I am a terrible rambler (and speller!) so if you have managed to read this thank you and any honest thoughts would be very much appreciated also any ideas to help dd build up her confidence again, thanks so much!
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roadkillbunny · 26/02/2011 00:39
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