its all a bit sad :( tips on loosing a horse?

[ilovecorey]

Since I have told my parents I am pregnant they are insisting I sell my horses apart form 2 who they know if they got rid of them they would loose me. Well one of my beautiful boys has now been sold and today I took him to the beach for our last ride together. We were galloping along the sand with the rain pouring down and I just could not stop sobbing. It was just us on the beach with the sound of his hoofs on the sand and the waves. I'm going to miss him so much after 5 beautiful years

[shufflebum]

Bless you it is so hard. Your hormones are going to be all over the place which isn't going to help. We have had 2 horses put down on our yard in the last 3 weeks and it's been awful.
Will the new owner keep in touch or will you find that too hard? Any chance of putting the other one out on long term loan rather than selling?

[AlpinePony]

I don't mean to seem rude, but how old are you? Presumably you're a grown-up as you are pregnant - and therefore, the decision to sell/keep your horses is your own!

[AlpinePony]

(and not the decision of your parents!)

[TrinityTheTwattyRhino]

I'm wth alpine

how old are you

why are parents choosing what you do with you horses?

[ilovecorey]

I'm 17 I'm keeping my amazing pony and my youngster. The others are 2 promising showjumpers and one eventer. They have to go mainly due to financial circumstances and time issues. If I can keep in contact with peppers new owner that would be great because he is so special to me.

[colditz]

How old are you? WHat the fuck has it got to do with your parents, are you 15? Why can they insist on you selling your horsies?

[colditz]

Oh you're 17, I see.

Oh bless you. Take lots of photos.

[Saggyoldclothcatpuss]

I know I'm going to sound mean, and I understand you are very young, but you are having a baby. Welcome to being a grown up. I've read your other threads and really think you need to grow up a little. You were upset because your partner didn't want you to ride after your horse fell on you!!! Well what do you expect. Youhave to get rid of some of your many horses. Well thats just one of the many sacrifices you will have to make as a parent.
We all love our horses, but if they are more important than your unborn child, maybe you should not be pregnant.
There it's off my chest. Yes it's sad. Very sad for you, but you have to suck it up and look forward.

[ilovecorey]

My horses are my life. There there for me when I need them and they never push you away. The amount of tears their manes have soaked up is ubiliviable. I posted this for advice bot critisim. I really don't know why I bother with most things

[Saggyoldclothcatpuss]

We all have beloved horses. We all understand. But now you are having a baby. A new life. You haven't once said 'i'm having a baby and im over the moon. I'll have to compromise with the horses a bit but it'll be worth it!' you wrote elsewhere about what you do with your horses in a day. That will not fit in with a baby. Your parents are being very sensible. You wont be needing half a dozen horses.
I'm sorry to sound horrid, but you sound like a spoilt child who has had her toys taken away because it's time for lessons.
Suck it up an be thankful your folks are letting you keep two. That's a lot more than most people get from their parents.

[ilovecorey]

O only had half a dozen horses because of sj and eventing. Yes I know I have to grow up but everything is complicated. If they were to make me get rif of m and c they know all tties with me broken. And no I'm not spoilt. The oppisite to be honest. Everything I have I've worked so hard for.

[nemofish]

You bought and paid for the upkeep for all those horses? I'm impressed, it's very expensive. What kind of job do you do? You wouldn't be able to work throughout pregnancy to pay for the upkeep of all your horses anyway surely? So you would have to sell anyway.

And For what it's worth, I would think very carefully before saying you would break all ties with your parents over a horse. You have one tie you can't break - that of their grandchild. I know you will be feeling very emotional at the moment, but believe me you do not want to be without the support of your family when you are having a baby. Plenty of parents whose 17 year old daughter get pregnant and totally shit and want nothing to do with it, I speak from experience. Are you getting good support from your parents?

And as a grown up, life is complicated, you have to do stuff that you don't want to do because its the right thing, the cheaper option or because it's the best thing for your child. It sucks but that's why having a baby is such a big thing and a big change.

[AlpinePony]

I wonder if you have any comprehension of bringing a child in to the world. :(

[nemofish]

I remember very little AlpinePony the epidural was pretty kick-ass.

But yes ikwym

[ilovecorey]

No I brough one my grandmother brought one one was a gift and 2 are rescue. No I do not pay for all the keep but I do contribute to the best of my means. No oneobviously understands where I'm coming from so let's just end it. Now.

[whensitgunnahappen]

I would love a child. And give up everything (and to be honest have) I've had to totally change my life in order to be in a position to afford children finacially and emotionally. Your reaction speaks volumes. You don't like what people are saying so your having a strop. Time to grow up Hun, and it's going to be hard and very upsetting, but soooo worth it in the long run

[nemofish]

No sweeite, I am just trying to make you see that as you will be unable to pay for all their keep while jobless and pregnant, it is unfair and childish of you to expect your parents to. You got pregnant. Why or how is unimportant. But getting pregnant means change for you, and has consequences, and one of these is that either, your pay for everything yourself with money that you earn (which you will struggle to do pregnant / with a young baby) OR your parents pay for everything because YOU don't want to give up your horses. And not only that, but then you turn around and say dont ask me to give up X horses because I will cut all ties. Do you know what I would have said? Okay then, see ya. Bought your cot have you? Nappies? Changing mats? Clothes? Do you ahve a job? Qualifications? Money saved? No? Well then you will end up going back to your family for help, because that is what they are there for and they love you.

But this immature 'dont do that because I cut all ties ner ner' attitude needs a reality check. As do you.

Didn't you think all this through before getting pregnant? Who did you think would support you? Fair play if you can support yourself, but I didn't ahve a pot to piss in at 17, so I couldn't ahve managed it. If you got pregnant without thinking, by being daft or whatever, then tough shit, not having all your horses or barbies is what happens.

I hope you can see what I am saying and you are able to go to your parents ofr support, they do love you and they will be afraid for you and how you are going to cope. You need to tell them that you love them and reassure them that you are going to do your best to be a good mum.

[ilovecorey]

I'm not having a strop trust me! I just can like say what I wanna say in the right context. Yes it will be worth it. Yes I'm excited. Yes I need to grow up a bit more but for my age I'm extremly meture. Unlike most people my age I'm not crazy for cod weed and booze. I'm focusing on coursework and doing the best I can because I need to achieve the best results I can to have the best chanc of a stable and fuffilling futre.

[AlpinePony]

Kids are crazy for cod? Blimey - I knew times had changed.

[WhyHavePets]

take lots of photos corey, make a scrap book and a large collage type picture. Choose an item of theirs to keep forever (I kept the nameplates from teh stable doors and still have them 20 years later - and I will keep the ones we have now and any more that come along!)

I know it is hard to take but soon your baby will be your world and your horses will be a wonderful added extra.

You have already posted about the problems you have with time, your friend is already kindly helping out. Once baby is here it will all get too much even leaving aside the money issue.

I can feel your sadness in your words, it is heartbreaking, there is something about horses that just attach themsleves to your heart. Focus on the good they are going to do giving the next owner the pleasure they have given you and on the pleasure you will still get from the two you are keeping.

[ilovecorey]

Cod-call of duty but that made me smile

[ilovecorey]

Yes I know this beautiful baby will be my and hopefully my familys world and when I'm established hopefully I can bring the wonderful joys of horse back into my life

[elastamum]

I have had horses all my life and can understand where you are coming from. But having a baby is a HUGE life change and you will find it more or less impossible to give your child the attention and love it needs and do the best by your horses.

It is far better for the horses concerned to send some of them to homes where they have the time and resources for them and just keep one that is really special and hopefully safe to ride. You have years ahead to aquire more horses as your children grow up and you have more time. Once you have a baby the horse will end up slumming it in the field for a year or so whilst you look after your child.

Been there, better to let the fit ones go and start again when you have the time and energy. I bought my latest horse unbroken when my youngest child started school and I had the time to take on another youngster.

Here speaks someone who still mucks out at 6am before taking my nearly teenage kids to school (Im 46 BTW and still riding and having fun with my horses!)

[thenightsky]

If you cut ties with your family you won't be able to afford to keep horses anyway

[ilovecorey]

Juat for other posts I have 11 GCSE's at grade c-a* and I do have a job. Yes I know I can't afford to have all my babies. LOL at the last person :) yess I'm keeping a yougster who will just be turned away and my amazing pony who can just slum it but I have found someone who is willing to put up with his cheekiness and hack or school him a few times a week :D