Hi, We have been visited in our garden by a very pretty tabby for the past year or so. Every now and then she would poke her nose into the kitchen and take a peek but then shoot off. She was always very affectionate, desperate for cuddles, and clearly never gets brushed as she constantly malts like crazy. We've wondered for ages whether she doesn't have a cat flap, as she often meets us at the front door to walk through the house to the back garden! In the very hot weather dh discovered her looking very hot and bothered and dehydrated in the garden, so gave her some water which she lapped up, followed by a bowl of milk, which she also devoured. Since then, perhaps not surprisingly, she has been to visit much more regularly. I've bought a brush and regularly give her a brush so we can cuddle her without getting covered in hair. Every now and then dh gives her some milk, now she loves him We have been quite worried that she doesn't seem to go home, or can't get in to her own house when she wants. She seems fed, isn't overly skinny or anything (although clearly doesn't get milk at home!) Anyway, the past few weeks she has been sitting outside our back door meowing and looking very lonely, and quite sad when we close the door on her in the evening. This morning she was out the front and dh found her dirty and wet and meowing loudly at him as he set off for work. He had to leave her meowing on the front step. This morning when I got up, she wandered into the kitchen and lay down for a snooze. She has never been that relaxed in our house before. She's nuzzling me as I type this and purring away and seems so content (and no I haven't fed/watered her)
So, I know deep down that cats are tarts and just want food and cuddles, and will take them where they can, but this little mog seems totally starved of cuddles and grooming and as we have been giving both she seems to want to move in! We don't know who she belongs to, but we worry about her, and I don't quite know what to do now.
Is giving her cuddles and brushes and occasional milk/water a bad thing? She has a collar but not contact details ...
By all means fuss her and put a note in her collar. But as there's nothing to suggest she is a stray (she has a collar and seems to be getting food somewhere else), don't feed her or keep her locked in.
What do you want from this thread? It seems like you basically want people to give you permission to take the cat because you like it, and you're justifying it in your head by saying you don't think it gets enough cuddles elsewhere .
Sadly there are few cats living near my DF in S London these days, but not so long ago there were a fair few, and this was the case since way back [old gimmer emoticon]. It was taken for granted that cats would be in and out of neighbours' houses, just in a sociable way. I had a childhood filled with cats , some of them even lived in our house and owned us
Our neighbours asked us to feed their cat while they were away. They then forgot to leave a key do fed her at our house instead of theirs. We then went away for 2 weeks but within 2 minutes of us being home the cat came round to visit. Mentioned it to the neighbour after cat spent most of the weekend asleep in our play room- oh yes she probably likes your house better as you have no dog and older children.
I could often feel the chip in my cats necks. It feels likeva small grain of rice, just a tinyblittle nobble under the loose neck skin. And your not trying to steal the cat, the cat is trying to adopt you!
fairphyllis I was looking for some clues as to whether I should be worried about this cat or whether it normal happy cat behaviour to spend so much time hanging out in another house as I haven't had my own cat for a few years now. and if I should be worried, what would be a good course of action.
just to reiterate, we haven't fed her, have NEVER kept her inside - she just wanders in a lot because I regularly keep the back door open. we regularly have to make her leave, she has never left of her own choice - we have just given her milk (no more!) and water when it has been very hot, a regular brush when she visits and cuddles. most of the time she seems happy to just sleep on the kitchen floor or door mat. today she is trying to help me work on the computer we have no intention to keep her, or steal her or anything like that. I just wanted some reassurance about whether she was ok or whether we should investigate further.
we've decided to make efforts to find the owner and let them know that she is regularly in our garden/kitchen during in case they ever get worried about where she is.
I would say it's pretty normal. Some cats are very sociable and will look for company wherever they can get it. If her owners are working in the daytime she might just be looking for someone to hang out with while they are out.
I would stop giving milk as it can make some cats ill - plus I think it does count as feeding her.
I've seen quite a few threads on MN where the OPs are very distressed that a neighbour is trying to tempt their cats away by giving them milk and food etc. The neighbours usually justify it with the same kind of passive 'oh but she adopted us, what can you do' that was in some of your posts. Just saying that it would be easy to misinterpret this as you wanting to keep the cat, that's all, so best to talk to the owners.