She has always been a bit highly strung, but we are a fairly calm family and it seems to have always suited her well.
A year ago we got another dog, and the two of them got on really, really well. It seemed that she had been missing a proper companion, and ddog2 is very laid-back and suited her perfectly. She appeared to be more chilled and relaxed.
Then, a few weeks ago (I posted about it here actually) ddog1 started attacking ddog2. After a couple of days, they went back to normal, but then it happened again and I've had to keep them separate since then.
They are both bitches, ddog1 is 8yo and ddog2 is 1.5yo. For many reasons we didn't have either of them spayed, but given ddog1's increasing problems with phantom pregnancies and after discussing the current problem with our vet, we decided to get both of them done (did it last Friday).
I have been trying to see what the problem is, and I've sort of come to the conclusion that it's....almost everything. She is SO stressed, so nervous, highly reactive to every movement, every sound - even things which she's never been bothered about. I have been reading and looking up everything I can find which might help, but I honestly don't know if I have the strength to cope with this. She goes from being calm to manic high-pitched barking and yelping within a second.
I am trying to bring her stress levels down by not exposing her to anything she finds stressful but it's proving almost impossible.
I could just cry. We have something of a family crisis at the moment anyway (I've considered that she's picked up on my anxiety and this is contributing to her stress too), but I just don't know how to go about helping her.
I've read books by Turid Rugaas, and have just finished Scaredy Dog: Understanding and Rehabilitating Your Reactive Dog, and I think YES! I can do this! And then I'm faced with what she's actually like and my heart sinks and I feel utterly hopeless :(
Sorry this has been so long. I just don't really know what to do.
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My poor ddog1 appears to be having some sort of breakdown and I'm not sure I have the strength to help her, I need a bit of hand-holding and encouragement...
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TheKitchenWitch · 16/07/2014 12:47
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