will this be the beginning of the end

(54 Posts)
furbaby Tue 23-Apr-13 21:06:12

Our darling staffy who we have had since a pup has been slowing down , he is now 12 .
He seems hungry all the time after a tummy bug about a month ago .
He has lost 4 kilos in weight sad
Took him to very nice vet today who said he was anemic ..... she has done full bloods and we have an appointment tomorrow night to talk about the results .
Vet is saying he could be bleeding internally from a cancer sad
Don, t think life will ever be the same if we lost him... just can, t believe it as we have a 16 year old staffy as well and always thought she would go before him .
He is our life , he is our son and brother for our dd .
We are both gutted and worried about what tomorrow will bring , vet is talking scans after blood test but how far do you go to save your pet without it being about you and how far do you go so they don, t suffer . The whole family love this dog soooo much .

furbaby Tue 21-May-13 20:05:20

Vets rang today to say darling boys ashes are with them ....... more upset sad don, t know if I am strong enough to face picking up our angel in a box .
Not looking forward to bill either , vets out to house on sunday and cremation costs don, t think we will get much change out of £500 .
But hey he was worth it smile

furbaby Tue 14-May-13 21:30:30

I downloaded dogs trust info ... thank you it helped as it described just how I am feeling now . I realise that with time I can some how learn to live without him .
Its daft as we have had weeks to prepare ourselves for loosing him but he was so special and don, t think either of us realised how hard it would be .
Boss is an arse , do hope he does, nt call us in office when we go back sad

EasyToEatTiger Tue 14-May-13 21:06:30

Horrid for you, furbaby. Some people trivialise a death in the family. Well done both of you for taking leave. Don't beat yourself up! Either of you.

furbaby Tue 14-May-13 20:35:00

Thank you . I will check it out , can, t go on like this , poor hubby is as upset as me .
He is such a strong person usually and never crys but he keeps breaking down saying he can, t cope anymore .
Did, nt help that we had a letter from work today (we work together) from big boss saying he was very unhappy that we had booked 3 days holiday off work at short notice and that we were letting the company down ..... sad us blubbering at work would not be a good look and its not like they could, nt manage without us (big company) .
Thank you so much for hugs smile
The family have been great but no one can bring our boy back sad

EasyToEatTiger Tue 14-May-13 20:17:29

This is from the Dogs Trust... http://www.dogstrust.org.uk/_resources/resources/factsheets09/factsheetcopingwithdeath09.pdf There are people you can talk to as well, when you are able. More hugs (((((furbaby))))))

EasyToEatTiger Tue 14-May-13 20:11:47

You poor thing. Keep breathing, whatever else you do. There are helplines for pet bereavement. I will look it up if you think it might help.

furbaby Tue 14-May-13 19:37:54

Can, t cope with this ...... can hardly breathe miss him so much . Dh is as sad as me , was feeling brighter yesterday
but like I said the grief Is so bad I feel paniky and find it hard to breathe .
The thought of never cuddling or seeing him again is more than I can bear sad

furbaby Sun 12-May-13 22:17:48

Thank you all .
Going to have a few days off work and spend some time with our old dog . She seems confused as to where he is but enjoying cuddles on sofa with us without getting dirty looks from our darling boy , who did, nt like to share his mum and dad smile

RedwingWinter Sun 12-May-13 21:34:02

I'm very sorry for your loss sad

EasyToEatTiger Sun 12-May-13 19:02:31

More big MN hugs...(((((((((furbaby))))))))). You have been so brave and so generous to your dog. What a lucky boy to have lived with you.

moosemama Sun 12-May-13 17:57:15

Try not to think about that furbaby, although I know it's hard - I insisted on leaving my Wheaten Terrier's dog coat on when we had to leave her.

His body is just the bit he left behind the bit of him you loved and cared for and that loved you back so faithfully is at peace now.

furbaby Sun 12-May-13 17:44:36

Thank you moosemama , its so hard missing him so much , worried about how gentle they are with his body . Xxx

moosemama Sun 12-May-13 14:57:14

Oh furbaby I am so very sorry for your loss. sad

I know it's no consolation, but he spent the last couple of weeks totally enveloped by your love and he will be at peace knowing how truly loved he was.

((massive hugs))

furbaby Sun 12-May-13 13:02:52

Our darling boy has gone ...... vet came this morning and he was put to sleep in husbands arms on sofa .
Thank you everyone for hugs and support it means a lot to me .
Life will never be the same sad

moosemama Sat 11-May-13 16:46:16

sad Furbaby sending lots of ((hugs)) to you and your darling boy.

EasyToEatTiger Sat 11-May-13 15:43:43

Thinking of you, furbaby. Big MN hugs for you..((((((((furbaby)))))))

furbaby Sat 11-May-13 13:16:45

Things taken a turn for the worse , darling dogs tummy looks very swollen today sad
Trying to be strong but its so hard .

furbaby Tue 07-May-13 12:42:01

Sounds like lurcherboy is enjoying the good things in life smile bet he does miss his play companion , at least with 2 dogs in house they had each other for play , comfort and a bit of healthy competition .
Have you any more thoughts about when you are going to get another dog ?
Dh and I have today off work so darling boy has been enjoying a spot of gardening with me then late breakfast and a snooze on the decking (his favourite spot)
I love being with him but when I stroke his ear or his little crooked tail it just brings me to tears as I won, t be doing it much longer .... I know his little body so well he, s like a little bear with his big brown eyes .
Dh not coping at all sad he is drinking heavy from when he gets up , think its the only way he can get through this , at least back to work tomorrow so he won, t drink until evening smile

moosemama Tue 07-May-13 11:03:17

sad sorry to hear that furbaby.

I completely understand you not wanting to put him through a vet appointment, you have to do what you feel is right for him. ((hugs))

Sounds like he is being well loved and pampered though. smile

We've been keeping busy, trying to keep our mind off things. Took lurcherboy out to a VW show at the weekend and he enjoyed saying hello to dogs of all shapes and sizes. Unfortunately, he started howling at night again at the start of the weekend and I had to be firm with him, as I've tried everything else. It seemed to do the trick though and he's stopped again.

Just taken him for an hour and a half's run with lots of ball chasing to try and exhaust him, because I've been invited out to lunch and it's the first time I've left him for longer than the 10 minute school run since the day we lost oldgirl.

He was very vocal on our walk this morning. Lots of barking - in a come and play with me kind of way - whenever he saw another dog. I had to do lots of clicker reinforcement of 'quiet' to get him to stop, I think he's really missing having someone to play with. He got over it after a while and enjoyed chasing his ball though and is now spark out on the kitchen floor.

furbaby Tue 07-May-13 08:51:39

Not so good moosemama sad have given up on tummy tablets as been on them weeks and made no difference .
He is cuddled up under quilt in bed with dh at mo and looks well sweet , just his head sticking out smile
I am going to cancel todays vets appointment for check up , there is no point all , it does is make him unhappy and scared .
I will go and get him some more painkillers they seem to help .
Hope your all getting stronger .

moosemama Mon 06-May-13 19:03:42

How's he doing furbaby?

furbaby Fri 03-May-13 21:38:07

Yes understand what you mean about dogs living together , they do get a lot of enjoyment out of each other .
Sadly for us when we lose ours we won, t have any more for along time as we both work , when ours were young I took them to work with me and now they are old they stay home and dd comes over during day . This would, nt suit a new dog and I am not in a job that I could take a dog with me now.
Just can, t imagine a house with no dog sad
Just don, t know what to do about darling dog , I take it he will let us know when he has had enough . When time is right we will get vet to come to house as he is so scared of vets could, nt do that to him .
When he wanted walk other day I started to kid myself that he was picking up and maybe we could get to keep him but sadly not sad

moosemama Fri 03-May-13 21:11:59

Hi furbaby

So sorry to hear your babies are no better and your boy is still being sick. It's so upsetting the way the atmosphere in the house changes isn't it? sad

I have finally got lurcherboy to pick up slightly. Bought one of those fling and fetch tennis ball chucking sticks and have been going in the garden to play with him lots, as it was too sad watching him just standing there not knowing what to do. He's enjoying the playing now, but still just as sorrowful when he's in the house.

I think we've decided we will get another dog, but not for a few months. I can't bear to see lurcherboy so lonely and I tend to think dogs aren't happy living in isolation from their own species, iyswim. I can't imagine living on my own with another species of animal and not being able to understand a word they say, let alone their weird behaviour and habits and that's what I imagine it's like for dogs living with humans. I suppose I feel the least we can do is make sure they have a canine companion so that they can relax and have someone they can communicate with.

furbaby Fri 03-May-13 21:01:26

Poor lurcherboy he must be so confused .
Its good that you have found a way to keep him happy at night .
You must be missing your darling girl so much sad
I hope you enjoy your weekend away at least it gives you something to look forward to smile
All a bit sad here old dog is camped in her basket all the time , seems like she knows how ill our darling boy is .
Darling boy has done short walks in field for last 3 days which is great but he, s lost his spark ..... he, s like a different dog .He is in pain , not all the time but painkillers don, t seem to help much .
He has had 4 small meals today and been I kitchen banging his bowl around so guess he wants more hmm
Always hungry but throwing it back up if we give him too much sad

moosemama Tue 30-Apr-13 20:01:56

Well, nothing positive, but nothing worse either then I suppose. Sorry it wasn't more positive though.

Good to hear he's settled, eating well and keeping it down at the moment. I'll keep on sending positive vibes.

Lurcherboy is continuing his sentry duty by the front window, but the combination of DAP spray and baby monitor seems to be helping him to settle at night. He keeps going in the garden and just standing there, like he doesn't know what to do with himself without his old friend out there with him. She was a tough old thing, still chasing her toys around right up to the end, so I think he's missing having someone to play with.

Mind you, he's not impressed with me today, because I've been ill, so he's still waiting for his walk. Dh is going to take him when the dcs are all in bed though, so he'll probably get a longer walk than if I'd managed to wobble up the road to the park with him.

He went to the vets last night for his vaccinations and was wholeheartedly unimpressed at having his kennel cough vax squirted up his nose. Unfortunately he had to have it, as he's booked into kennels for a weekend in a few weeks. It will be the first time he's been there alone, so another worry, but they are lovely, lovely people who totally spoil him so I'm sure he'll be fine. In actual fact he loves it there so much that he pulls more on the way in than he does on the way home. hmm

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