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Mother2many · 17/04/2012 17:06

Have you ever stopped being friends with someone because of difference in beliefs? Whether it be child raising, lifestyle, pets, etc.???

I stopped being friends with someone (like I have soo many to choose from! roll eyes) because I couldn't handle how she treated her dog.

She wanted to get rid of this beautiful border collie. For a while, I was going to take her! So, this lady and I became friends over this dog. She wanted to make sure this dog and my dog got along, etc.etc. Lady would talk about how this dog is a herder, and would try and "herd" her....

This border collie (one yr) not once in it's life stepped on grass until we started walking our dogs. Eventually, I was able to walk both our dogs with one hand! (She would try and tell me to make sure the collie didn't step on grass!!!!) She has a very tiny poo area, that is cement only...

When she walked her dog, she would use part of the leash to HIT the dog if she "misbehaved" in her eyes... (dog was scared of the leash!!!) She used a muzzle as a threat "to be good" by tying the muzzle to the dogs collar. When she walked with the dog, it was almost choking she had it so short. Meanwhile, the poor thing just wanted to enjoy the fresh air. I honestly don't think this dog has ever ran... I never, ever see it outside anymore...

She would tell me, how when the collie was a puppy she always kept a muzzle on it, so it wouldn't chew.

She would leave this collie in the kennel all the time, and take her precious poodle with her everywhere.

Heck, having coffee with her, the poodle is walking all over the table!! Why, because the collie, bothered him... ROLL EYES

I almost got the collie, but she changed her mind. When the collie would sneak out, she would run into my yard, cowering but sooo happy to see me!!

In the summer this collie, stared out the window, feeling the breeze, and watch everyone walk their dog. My heart tears out each time. Esp. now I stopped being her friend.

I couldn't maintain a friendship with this lady. I can't go visit her, knowing this collie is locked up. I did send her a long lenghty letter, about why I couldn't go visit and see her anymore...

She takes her poodle everywhere...(and even during dog walks...carries the poodle most places!!!) As sick as it is...she even let her male poodle hump her collie's face until it was finished!!!!!

I talked to several, and as long as the dog is fed/taken to the vet, and appears healthy happy, there is nothing I can do.

I'm sorry, this dog isn't getting socialized, and I know, it's just my personal opinion, but collie has such a sad life. For a very active bred/dog... I feel soo sorry for it.... :(

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noinspiration · 17/04/2012 17:19

I'd scream blue murder at her and probably get myself arrested. An active intelligent breed like a collie must be going through hell in conditions like that.

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Scuttlebutter · 17/04/2012 17:25

OP, are you in the UK?

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AllergicToNutters · 17/04/2012 17:39

SadSadSadSad. Why oh why did she get him in the first place? I would definitely write/ring/call round if it were me. I couldn't let this go..........Sad

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Mother2many · 18/04/2012 17:14

You know, I have called and talked to those, hoping to get this dog a better home... I was so mad when she changed her mind, and I couldn't take it! Sooo, since I am not friends with her anymore, this dog no longer goes on walks...or gets out of the house beyond the pee on the cement. She also lives in a very small one bedroom appartment!!! No room to run!

My partner is still friends with the husband, and I did even try to talk to the husband and he did agree with me, but also said there is nothing he can even do to convince her the dog deserves a better life!!!

She got this puppy initially to help find it a home. How the heck can she find it a home when she never leaves the house anyhow!!

Before end of friendship, she would complain how this dog, would eat food off the counters, and I said, that's prob. because she sees your poodle walking all over the counters!!!!! She taught it to "jump" up on her chest to "dance"... I said, bad habit, as not everyone wants a dog that jumps. I said, what happens if she does that to an old person or a child!!

I can forsee this dog eventually getting mean, and more and more being left in the dog crate.

I've done what I can.... I HATE hearing the dog bark, when she heres me outside playing with my dog...or hearing kids playing, etc.etc. I dread summer and seeing her beautiful face sitting and looking out the front screen door at the life she can't have... :(

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MessyTerrier · 18/04/2012 17:40

I wouldn't let it go either Sad I see you're in Canada (I am too). Can you get in touch with the Humane Society near you? I don't know that they'd be able to intervene but it's worth a try. Also perhaps try Border Collie rescue and explain. Perhaps they could do something?

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AllergicToNutters · 18/04/2012 18:40

it is absolutley heartbreaking SadSadSad. Why does she even want to keep the dog if she is not prepared to love it and look after it. It will live and die not even knowing what it is iike to experience a happy life. The husband must be a twat too not taking a stand against this vile woman Angry

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Mother2many · 19/04/2012 17:52

I did contact the Humane Society...they are the ones that explained, the chances of removing the dog are super slim. As she is groomed/vet/fed, etc. I did send her information in regards to her breed of dog, and tried to explain it too her...and her husband...

Last year she jumped on the screen door, and ripped it! HOLY...where they MAD! DUH... She desperately wants to go outside.... It's sad to see she is an abused dog in my eyes, but wags her tail, at them while she is cowering....

sigh...sigh..

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AllergicToNutters · 19/04/2012 20:43

i feel so gutted for this dog SadSad. It must be so difficult to live net door and not be able to do anything aobut this poor little life Sad

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Mother2many · 19/04/2012 23:22

It is terribly hard.. as in the summer when the doors and windows are opened I can hear the dog...when the AC gets turned on then the poor dog no longer can even look outside....except in pee area. (did I mention this area is completely boarded up so, she can't see out!!!!!) Angry

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AllergicToNutters · 20/04/2012 07:25

there must be something you can do? Oh please get this poor dog out of this hellhole Sad

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Mother2many · 26/04/2012 16:46

I recently contacted a Border Collie rescue around here, and am waiting a call back from them. It is soo sad. Can you imagine never, ever leaving your house? When you do, your put into a crate. She works at a garbage dump, and on the RARE occasion she bring the collie with her...however, the collie is locked up in her tiny shed...while the stupid poodle wanders everywhere....

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MillyandTwiglet · 27/04/2012 12:48

Did you get a callback from the rescue? What did they say/do? It makes me feel sick to my stomach to know that someone can treat a dog in this way. Must be horrible for you to have to witness it all the time and not be able to help in any way.

Maybe you could 'acquire' the dog when she's out sometime, and then arrange for it to be (secretly) re-homed or taken to a rescue out of town? Probably not the most legal way of doing things, but if it is possible then maybe you could give it a shot.

Anyway, good luck and please keep us posted as to how the poor wee soul is doing.

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Mother2many · 27/04/2012 16:50

Nope...didn't hear back from them. I would just go to their office if they lived here!

No, this dog never leaves the house, and when it does, it is recaged. Believe me, I have had a few friends say, "scoop her and bring her to me!" However, can't do that.... as this beautiful dog is a prisioner in her own home...

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ExitPursuedByABear · 27/04/2012 16:53

Do you not have similar laws to us then in Canada - about an animals right to express its natural behaviour?

I would definitely try and steal it.

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Mother2many · 27/04/2012 16:58

I have done everything I can, (except awaiting Border Collie Rescue response)..

I can only imagine this dogs muscles are GONE.... as she doesn't use them... I'm sure she looks healthy because of her long hair...

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ExitPursuedByABear · 27/04/2012 22:50

I can't stop thinking about this poor dog.

Apart from what you said about the male dog humping her face - I mean - wtaf??? the fact that she never gets to run or smell or just mess about. When I watched my springer hurtling towards me tonight by the river, his ears flapping like mad and his eyes alight with the deranged duck look, I thought of her at the window Sad.

My heart bleeds. Please, please do something. Can we start a campaign?

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Mother2many · 28/04/2012 02:43

Yes, Exit...now you know how I feel... I walk by this dog looking out the window, watching the neighbourhood dog walkers go by...and even me, walking to the OPEN field right beside her house!! Some of us, walk out dogs on leash to the field and let them run...

I recently bought a quad, and I am looking forward to taking my dog out for a good run daily...

Yes, I am sure when you looked at your dog, you seen soo much joy and happiness in every bounce!

Many people in this community are fully aware of what is going on...and I have talked to many... No one wants to question her dog raising, cause a problem, fight...even though we ALL agree it isn't right.

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Parly · 28/04/2012 02:59

Had a similar problem with a close family member?s Springer spaniel. She is (being a Springer and all) absolutely handstand crackers and needs running ragged several times a day. She was stuck in a small shed for the best part of the day and walked to the end of the road and back once a day.

In fairness she is loved and generally looked after but wasn?t being given the time, attention or exercise she needed and I was stuck for what to say or do to try doing something but without ruffling too many feathers and having family fall out with me over it.

What I ended up doing was asking if I could take her for long walks (which I did) and then casually mentioning how much fun we?d have / what we?d done and even really making sure her owner knew how much she loved diving through rivers, chasing squirrels and rolling in cow crap by posting photos to Facebook for the world and its wife to see also.

Slowly but surely he started taking note and now takes her out for a good long walk at least once a day with her still coming over to stay at my house a couple of nights a week ? almost like a dog share.

As much as it?d break my heart to see her go, I would (if push came to shove) report him to the RSPCA and have to live with seeing her go for re-homing.

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Mother2many · 28/04/2012 03:07

The owner of this dog is terrified of soo many things. When I do go with her for walks, and the dog finally stepped on grass she was very upset. I had to promise to do a complete woodtick check on the dog...and we had to wash the dogs feet before coming into the house.

Can you believe with her poodle, after it goes outside for a pee/poo, she washes the dogs feet, and then washes the dogs BUM. ~ ROLLS EYES

I did try a year ago. Took this dog on many walks and got her out of the house, and tried to socialize her with my dog... It broke my heart to bring her back to her house, knowing what she was heading back into. It broke my heart even worse, when I couldn't take her after I bonded with her.... :(

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Parly · 28/04/2012 03:13

If it?s really bothering you, have a word with animal welfare (not sure whereabouts in the world you are so I?ll just say animal welfare) and ask that they drop by and have a word.

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wifeofsimoncowell · 28/04/2012 08:38

oh my days! You have to do something for this dog. how can anyone be allowed to keep the dog - it's making me puke. I'm so glad you are in its life, at least it will have some hope

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Mother2many · 29/04/2012 03:07

I'm not in her life anymore, as I couldn't stand by and watch how she was treated. Completely tore my friendship apart....

Parly: It does bother me,...and I am doing what I can...atm...

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wifeofsimoncowell · 29/04/2012 08:25

MOther, how dreadful for you then having to witness this cruelty. I'd wanna break the door down and grab the poor dog whatever the outcome, I know you cant but it must make you feel lliek that. Poor you and poor pooor dog

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Mother2many · 09/05/2012 02:46

Got a call back...nothing I can do.....

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BoatingLakeDiva · 09/05/2012 07:47

just read this thread, skimmed it as rushing about a bit, this is absolutely awful. These animal welfare services are not worth the bloody wages they are paid. Someone must be able to do something. it is cruelty. Ful stop. If it were a child would it be acceptable? Actually, given th Social Services blunders in recent years, probably yes! But that aside, I feel rather sorry for you in that you are stuck watching this cruelty happen. Where are you located?

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