DD1 is nearly 14. She is a lovely girl but makes no effort at all at pretty much anything despite her good intentions. Today she is playing violin in concert at school and was in a foul mood as she hasn't practised at all (and I mean not once in last week) so will be crap. Has also just been dropped from rounders team for not practising her batting (very upset about this too). There is supposedly always a reason why she couldn't do it (her bat isn't "right") but basically just lolling about or watching TV.
Personal hygiene suffers as well - she looks beautiful (hair done etc) but showers very very infrequently so can get really quite whiffy. Swimming kit always left in bag so mouldy and smelly each week. Clothes never put in laundry so has to wear dirty uniform to school. And so on and so on ...
I don't think I should be constantly nagging her to practice or to shower or to pack her school bag etc as it just puts her in a foul mood with me and ruins our relationship.
I don't think I should run round after her looking for dirty clothes (often left in unlikely places) and unpacking swim stuff etc as she is old enough to do this herself.
So I have just left her to it in hope that she will improve. However she hasn't at all and her general lack of effort is actually getting her really down (being crap, dropped, smelly etc.
Any suggestions?
Failing that, anyone else had similarly pathetic children who transformed magically at some stage?
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maggotts · 21/05/2010 11:18
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