Feel Sick, Don't Know What To Do Next.

[WildMountainThyme]

Last night I walked in on DS1 waving his genitals in the face of DS2.

DS1 is 14 and DS2 will be 10 next month. They share a room which isn't ideal. DS2 was sat with back against the bed head and his knees were drawn up while DS1 was kneeling in front of him with his genitals very close to DS2's face.

I took ds2 into my room and he tells me DS1 has never done that before but that he didn't like it. I put him to bed with DS3 & 4 for last night but couldn't speak to DS1 as I would have said some awful things and lost my temper completely.

DH hasn't said much and is as lost as I am. We know this is serious, we have to protect DS2 from this happening again.

DS1 is normally a quiet person, studying for his mocks just now and although he and DS2 do argue they usually get on okay most of the time.

How would you handle this situation? I'll be sitting down with DS1 after school today and just don't know what to say!

[thumbwitch]

A bit shocking for sure, but at least start with an open mind - i.e. ask him why he was doing it? Chances are it was innocent - DS2 might have been telling him he had a small willy as an insult, so DS1 was just showing him to prove otherwise, for e.g.

I really hope it is something simple but if you can be fairly relaxed about it to start with you'll probably get to the bottom of it - start too heavy-handed and you'll likely get nowhere (Sorry, I guess you know that already being mum to teens)

[spenny2]

This must be really upseting for you but as you said the main thing is to protect your second son. You or DH really need to speak to DS1 and ask him explain it is totaly unacceptable to do this to DS2. I know people who have let the odd little thing like this go but it needs watching carefully, especially if you have younger sons around.